Umxholo
- Yenza isibhengezo kumsitho
- Lungisa nayiphi na ikhwele
- Nika wonke umntu umsebenzi ngomhla wokuzalwa komntwana
- Fumana iindlela zokubopha njengeyunithi yosapho entsha
- Sebenzisa amagama aqinisa unxibelelwano
- Nceda ulwalamano lomntwana ngamnye nosana
- Ukuba ngabazali abatsha
Ityala lakho, elam, nelethu. Iintsapho zomtshato wesibini zinokuba ngumxube wabantwana bakhe, abantwana bakhe, kunye nosana olutsha oluza emva komtshato wesibini.
Ukufumana umntwana sele kugcwele iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo. Ukongeza izinto zentsapho yomtshato wesibini kunokwenza izinto zibe nzima ngakumbi.
Ngaba wonke umntu uya kuziva njani ngokuzisa umntwana omtsha kusapho oludibeneyo? Kwezinye iimeko, abantwana banokuba neengxaki, kodwa umntwana omtsha kwintsapho edibeneyo nayo ingaba yindlela yokudibanisa wonke umntu.
Ukuba uzisa umntwana omtsha kwintsapho enomtshato wesibini, nazi iingcebiso malunga nendima yomzali wesibini ekwenzeni utshintsho olucocekileyo oluvela kuye nakwakhe:
Yenza isibhengezo kumsitho
Nje ukuba ufumanise ukuba ukhulelwe, khangela indlela yokubhiyozela olu longezo lutsha!
Hlanganisa usapho lonke kunye kwaye wenze umsitho wokuphula iindaba. Yenze inkumbulo emnandi ukuba wonke umntu azive eyinxalenye yayo. Eyona nto imnandi, ngcono.
Iindaba zosana olutsha kusapho lwakho oludibeneyo zinokuba nzima ukuginya ekuqaleni, kodwa ukutyhileka okumnandi kuya kuyenza ingalibaleki.
Jonga kwakhona:
Lungisa nayiphi na ikhwele
Abantwana bakho banokuziva ngathi benyathelwe kancinane kulomtshato mtsha -njengoko bengaqwalaseli kangako, hayi amalungelo amaninzi njengabanye abantwana, njl.
Ilizwe labo sele litshintshile kancinci, ke utshintsho oluninzi lunokongeza kunqabiseko.
Uluvo lokuba nomntwana kusapho oluxubeneyo kunokubenza babe nomona ngalo lonke uvuyo nengqwalaselo umntwana aya kuyifumana, bemthabathela kubo.
Qaphela indlela abantwana bakho abaziphatha ngayo xa uthetha ngomntwana omtsha. Ngaba bangenzi nto okanye banomsindo? Thetha nabo malunga neemvakalelo zabo kwaye uzame ukubanceda ukunciphisa naluphi na uloyiko abanokuba nalo.
Nika wonke umntu umsebenzi ngomhla wokuzalwa komntwana
Xa umntwana ezelwe, kuya kuba mnandi kodwa kube nexhala. Ngeli xesha usapho sele luzokutshintsha.
Ukunika umntu ngamnye kusapho "usuku lokuzalwa" kuya kunceda ukuhambisa amandla omntu wonke kunye nokunceda usapho luphela ukuba luqwalasele ubumbano.
Abantwana ababini banokwabelana ngokuthatha iifoto emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe, omnye umntwana unokuphulula iinyawo zikamama, omnye unokujongana nokuphatha izinto eziyimfuneko egumbini, omnye umntwana unokukhetha kwaye ahambise iintyatyambo kwigumbi.
Cwangcisa konke kwangaphambili, ke wonke umntu unento ekufuneka ajonge kuyo ngomhla omkhulu.
Fumana iindlela zokubopha njengeyunithi yosapho entsha
Ngamanye amaxesha usapho lwesibini lunokuziva luqhekekile, ngakumbi ukuba abantwana bakhe baya kumama wabo okwethutyana, kwaye emva koko ukuba abantwana bakhe baya kutata wabo ngeholide.
Ngamanye amaxesha bonke abantwana — ngaphandle kosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa — basenokungabikho. Kungaziva kunzima ukuziva umanyene nawo wonke umntu ngaxeshanye.
Kodwa ukuba yunithi epheleleyo kunye nokunxibelelana kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni kosapho lwakho.
Hlala uqhagamshele nokuba uhlukene; yenza izithethe zosapho mhlawumbi ngaphandle kwamaxesha esiqhelo eeholide; Yitya isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye xa kunokwenzeka; fumana izinto nonke enithanda ukuzenza kunye, apho unokuzisa nomntwana.
Qiniseka ukuba uwabhala la maxesha kunye neefoto kunye nesakhelo ezimbalwa ejikeleze indlu.
Sebenzisa amagama aqinisa unxibelelwano
Ngokucacileyo, olu sana lutsha sisiqingatha-sibling sabanye abantwana; Kwaye ukuba kukho "abakhe" kunye "nabakhe" abantwana, ke kukho oomama kunye noomama.
Zama ukuba neentloni ekusebenziseni "isiqingatha" okanye "inyathelo" kakhulu. Ngokobuchwephesha la magama achanekile, kodwa awakuchazi ngokwenyani uzama ukutsho.
Yithi "dade" okanye "ubhuti" endaweni yoko. La magama ngqo anceda ukomeleza unxibelelwano.
Nceda ulwalamano lomntwana ngamnye nosana
Ukuba unabantwana abancinci, baya kuthi ngokwendalo bathambekele emntwaneni. Banokunceda ngokuzisa amanabukeni kwaye bambambe umntwana ixesha elifutshane.
Abantwana abaneminyaka ephakathi kwesikolo banokuhamba inyathelo eliya phambili kwaye bondle kwaye bathambekele emntwaneni ngelixa usenza isidlo sangokuhlwa, umzekelo.
Abakwishumi elivisayo okanye abantwana abadala banokugcina umntwana. Ixesha elingakumbi abanokuthi babenalo nomntu ngamnye, kokukhona baya kudibana nosana.
Qiniseka ukuba uyabonisa ukuba ngabantakwabo abadala kakhulu emntwaneni, kwaye babalulekile kusapho.
Ukuba ngabazali abatsha
Umntwana omtsha kusapho oludityanisiweyo uzibonakalisa njengethuba losapho lonke ukudibana kunye, kwaye nokuba intle kangakanani loo ngcinga, ayisoloko iyinyani.
Njengabazali abatsha, ngokuqinisekileyo niya kuba nomdla kwithemba lokuba nomntwana, ikakhulu kuba sisiphelo sothando eninalo omnye ngomnye.
Nangona kunjalo, yonke intsapho yakho yesibini isenokungayiboni eyakho indlela yokuqiqa, okanye ubuncinci ithathe ixesha lokuqhela umbono wokwabelana ngamakhaya abo kunye nokuhlala komnye umntu.
Njengomama, ukuba lo ngumntwana wakho, emva koko unokuziva unganyangeki, unomona, okanye ingqumbo kwimbono yokwabelana nosana lwakho nosapho esele lukhona.
Kwelinye icala, njengotata, unokuziva uxanduva lokulawula iimvakalelo zakho ukuze wahlule inani elilinganayo lamandla kunye nexesha phakathi kosana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa kunye nabantwana bakho bomtshato.
Nokuba yeyiphi na imiceli mngeni kunye nezinto ezimangalisayo ezinokuziswa ngumntu omncinci ebomini bakho, kufuneka uzame ukuzikhuthaza wena kunye nosapho lwakho lwesibini ukuba nihlale nimanyene kwaye nimanyene.
Nangona usapho oluxubileyo ludidekile kwaye lunzima kwaye luyadinisa, kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba usapho lwakho luye lwaba lukhulu, kwaye akukho nto inokubamba iqhina umntu abelana ngalo nosapho.