Umxholo
- Usoloko ephumelela
- Imalunga nam kunye nenjongo yam yokuphela
- Ukuphuma nge-bang
- Ukubetha ngaphantsi kwebhanti
- Baza kuthatha ixesha labo elimnandi
- Kwenziwe ntoni
Masijongane nayo; abantu bayatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye babonakalise ubuwena babo kunye neempawu.
Ucinga ukuba uyamazi umntu ukuba ungubani kwaye uqinisekile. Ixesha lasemva komtshato nakuphi na ukuhlobana kuyonwabisa kwaye linomtsalane. Uthanda yonke into malunga neqabane lakho, kwaye bayayithanda yonke into oyenzayo.
Nangona kunjalo, njengoko uthuli luzinza, amehlo akho ngoku avulekele ekuzazini kwabo okwenyani. Nje ukuba iqabane lakho lazi ukuba linamagwegwe enzonzobila, kwaye akukho nto banokuyithetha okanye bayenze eya kwenza ukuba uphinde ucinge ngemeko ngokulula, bazityhile ngokwenyani.
Inokuphazamisa kwaye iphazamise umhlaba ekugqibeleni uqaphele ukuba ngowuphi umsebenzi wakho obalulekileyo, kukuthetha nje. Nguye lo mntu ubucinga ukuba ungachitha ubomi bakho kunye naye, uyakuguga, ube nabantwana, kwaye ukhulise abazukulwana naye.Kwaye nantsi ke, baziphatha okomntu ongamaziyo ngokupheleleyo!
Zizandla phantsi ezicela umngeni kwaye ziyadinisa ukuba kunye narcissist; Nangona kunjalo, kukuvukela ngakumbi ukwahlukana nenye. Bayaziwa ngokukrelekrele kwaye banengqondo. Banokudlala indima ngobuqili kwaye bakhohlise kwi-wink ngaphandle kokuqonda. Thatha umoya, uqokelele iibheringi zakho, kwaye uthathe inyathelo.
Ukuba ezinye okanye zonke ezi zinto zichazwe apha ngezantsi zenzeka nawe emva kokuba ugqibe ukwahlukana narcissist, sukuziva uxanduva okanye ulusizi malunga nenyani. Akukho nanye kwezi ziziphoso zakho. Kuyenzeka, yile ndlela bacwangciswe ngayo, kwaye ayilotyala lakho.
Ukulandela zizinto nje ezimbalwa ezinokukunceda xa uzifumana uzibuza, ‘ungalindela ntoni emva koqhawulo-mtshato narcissist?
Usoloko ephumelela
I-Narcissists ayithandi ukuthatha indlela ephezulu. Ukuyekethisa, uthethathethwano, okanye ukuthatha indlela ephezulu ziyinxalenye kunye nolwalamano lobuhlobo.
Nokuba awuzukufikelela esiphelweni, luxanduva lwakho kunye nohlobo lwentlonipho, ukuzama ukuthatha indlela ephezulu nasemva kokuba ubudlelwane buphelile. Nangona kunjalo, ii-narcissists azithandi ukuqubuda; Ke ngoko, ukwahlukana ne-sociopath narcissist kuya kuba yinto enzima. Naluphi na uhlobo lothethathethwano, nokuba lungeyongozi kangakanani, luhlobo lokoyiswa kwabo.
Bathanda ukuziva beqinisekisiwe. Abayi kuwujonga umlo njengobulungileyo okanye olungileyo, bafuna ukuphumelela, kwaye bafuna ukuba ilizwi labo libe lelokugqibela. Kwaye oku, baya kwenza nantoni na nayo yonke into esemandleni abo ukuze baphumelele.
Imalunga nam kunye nenjongo yam yokuphela
AbakwaNarcissists baya kuhlala bezama ukukuhenda kumdlalo wabo, isicwangciso kunye nenjongo. Baya kukusebenzisa njenge-pawn kumdlalo wabo omncinci ococekileyo.
Nokuba abanakusebenzisa kuwe, abayi kukuvumela ukuba uhambe ukuze ugcine amandla negunya labo.
Nangona ukwahlukana nomfana othandana naye akuyi kuba lula. Nangona kunjalo, emva koqhawulo-mtshato, i-ex narcissistic ex yakho izakuzama ukucofa lonke ityala kuwe. Baza kuzama ukukukhupha ngomlomo phambi kwabahlobo okanye usapho. Baza kudlala ixhoba kwaye baya kuzama konke okusemandleni abo ukukuloba kumgibe wobusi ukuze nje bakwenzakalise ngakumbi.
Nokuba bayathandeka okanye batshintshe kangakanani, musa ukwenza impazamo efanayo kabini.
Ukuphuma nge-bang
Akunjalo kwindalo ye-narcissist ukuguqa ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba uwadlalile amakhadi akho ngokuchanekileyo kwaye uwabethile ngempumelelo kumdlalo wabo, emva koko kuza inyathelo lokugqibela okanye indawo yokugqibela yomdlalo wabo ocacileyo: ukuhlazisa.
Kwincwadi yabo, ngoku basondele ekulahlekelweni, kwaye oko akunakwenzeka.
Ke baya kuyila indawo; bazama ukungena ngaphandle kwekhaya lakho, iofisi, okanye ukuphazamisa indibano okanye ipati. Yilumkele nantoni na kwaye uhlale womelele njengoko ukwahlukana narcissist kunokukukhathaza ngokweemvakalelo kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, emzimbeni.
Ukubetha ngaphantsi kwebhanti
Ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, lungela izityholo zobuxoki ezininzi kwaye ubethe ngezantsi kwebhanti. AbakwaNarcissists abayi kuyeka kwaye bacinge izinto ngaphambi kokubeka isityholo. Bayokuphosa nje izinto ezishiyekileyo nezasekunene, ukuze babone ukuba zeziphi izinti kunye nobuhlungu.
Ukungabikho kovelwano, abanakuze bacinge ngefuthe eliya kuba nalo kuwe okanye kubantwana bakho ukuba unayo. Abacingi izinto ngokucacileyo okanye ngaphambi kokuba bathathe naliphi na inyathelo; ekuphela kwento abayikhathaleleyo kukuba babe ngabaphumeleleyo xa zonke izinto zenziwe.
Baza kuthatha ixesha labo elimnandi
Khumbula, konke abakukhathaleleyo ngabo kunye nolonwabo lwabo; othe ngokwencwadi yabo yemigaqo uyonakalisile. Ke, baya kutsala inkqubo yokuqhekeka kangangoko banakho ngaphandle kokucinga ngempilo yakho yengqondo okanye yeemvakalelo, ukugcina nje isixa esithile solawulo kuwe. Yima phantsi kwaye ungagungqi nakanye.
Kwenziwe ntoni
Ukwahlukana narcissist kunokuba yipilisi enzima ukuyiginya, njengoko zisondla kwiintlungu nasekungcungcuthekiseni abanye. Bacinga kuphela ngokuphumelela kunye nokutsala izinto, ukukugcina kwabanye abantu kuba ukonwaba kwakho kufana nokuphumelela kubo.
Nokuba kukwahlula izinto zakho, ukugcina abantwana bakho, okanye enye into; bayathanda ukulawula kwaye wonke umntu ucinga ngaye.
Kuya kuthatha iminyaka yonyango kunye nokuzilolonga ukonwaba kwakhona. Amanxeba ashiya i-narcissist kuwe angangcungcuthekisa kwaye, mhlawumbi, uya kuhlala phantsi kolusu lwakho unaphakade. Into oyifunayo ngamaxesha anjalo yinkqubo elungileyo yenkxaso kunye nabahlobo bokukunceda kuwo onke amanyathelo endlela.