Ayizizo zonke iikowuti zothando eziyinyani. Abanye bahlwayela imbewu yokungoneliseki okanye uqhawulo-mtshato.
‘Lixesha lemitshato eli. Kwaye ukuba ufana nabantu abaninzi usenokuzibuza ukuba zingaphi izibini ezihamba apha ezantsi ezokwenza ukuba zibekhona - ngakumbi ukuba ungomnye wabatshatileyo abahamba ezantsi!
Njengayo nayiphi na into ebomini, iinkolelo kunye nolindelo zinento yokwenza nokuba ingaba isibini siza kuyenza na.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ndathi ndakubona olu luhlu lwezicatshulwa zothando ngothando nangomtshato endiye ndakhathazeka. Uninzi lwezi zicaphulo zithandanisa uthando kunye nomtshato kangangokuba nabani na obabeka entliziyweni baya kuba nexesha elinzima (okanye mhlawumbi elingenakwenzeka) lokugcina umtshato wabo uqinile.
Makhe ndikunike imizekelo embalwa.
“Kulapho ke uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntu uyakuthanda. Bayayibona into oyifunayo kwaye bakunike- ungakhange ubuze. ” UAdriana Trigiani
OMG! Ngokwenene?! Le yindlela yokufumana intlekele ngokupheleleyo. Imitshato ithatha umsebenzi kunye nokugcina uthando kuthatha umsebenzi. Ukuthanda uthando olutsha kuyaphela ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye nolindelo lokuba iqabane lakho liza kuqhubeka lifunda ingqondo yakho kwaye liyazi kanye le nto uyifunayo kanye xa uyidinga zizinto zamadabi amaqhawe kunye neemvakalelo ezonakalisiweyo.
Uthando olungapheliyo lufuna ukuba abantu abatshatileyo bafunde ukunxibelelana ngazo zonke izinto-ngakumbi ezo zinto banqwenela ukuzenza omnye komnye.
"Andizange ndikwazi ukunqula de ndikwazi ukuthanda." UHenry Ward Beecher
Ukuqala kwam ukufunda eli xabiso ngokunxulumene nomtshato isisu sam sajika. Xa elinye iqabane linqula elinye okanye lilindele ukunqulwa, lenza umgama omkhulu kubudlelwane. Lowo unqulwayo ubekwa phezu kwesiseko kwaye kulindeleke ukuba aphile ngokuvisisana nolindelo olungeyonyani. Lowo unqulayo uziva engaphantsi kunamaqabane abo. Umtshato usebenza kakuhle (kwaye ngokulula) xa uphakathi kokulingana oku-hayi xa elinye iqabane lingaphezulu kwelinye.
“Alikho ixesha okanye indawo yothando lokwenene. Kwenzeka ngengozi, ekubetheni kwentliziyo, ngomzuzwana nje omnye, obabazekayo. ” USarah Dessen
Phezulu, esi sicatshulwa sihle. Ingxaki ifika xa izibini zikholelwa ukuba le kuphela kwendlela uthando lwenene olubonakala ngayo okanye ukuba kufuneka igcine le flash kunye ne-throb ngaphandle komzamo kwiindawo zabo.
Uthando lwenene alusoloko ludlamka xa lubonakala. Uthando lokwenene lunokuvela njengoncumo olucothayo oluqale ngobuhlobo oluthi ngokuthe ngcembe ludubule lube luncumo oluqaqambileyo. Akukho mithetho malunga nendlela uthando olwenzeka ngayo ukuze ulindelo malunga nokuba inye kuphela indlela yokwazi ukuba usemathandweni kungakhokelela kwintlungu yomibini kunye nokuphoswa luthando lobomi bonke.
Ukungabikho kwakho akundifundisanga ukuba ndedwa, kubonise nje ukuba xa sikunye senza isithunzi esinye eludongeni. ” UDoug Fetherling
YIKES! Ngaba omnye umntu uziva ethambile xa efunda le nto?
Zonke izibini ezisempilweni kufuneka zikwazi ukuba nexesha lodwa kunye kwaye ngokwahlukeneyo. Kuxhomekeke kwiqabane ngalinye ukuba liphelele kwaye liphelele umntu ukuba bangazizisa bonke emtshatweni kwaye bangalindeli ukuba omnye abagqibe (esazi sonke ukuba yindlela yokufumana intlekele).
Ayizizo zonke iikowuti zothando malunga nothando kunye nomtshato ezikumisela umtshato onamatye (okona kulungileyo). Ezinye zazo zintle kwaye zithetha inyani.
“Andifuni ukuba ngumntu othanda umntu. Ukuba kukho umntu ondithandayo, ndifuna bathande eyona nto ndiyithandayo, hayi le bacinga ukuba ndiyiyo. ” UStephen Chbosky
Ukuba yi-100% kuwe ngaphandle kokufihla ngasemva kwemaski yeyona ndlela iqinisekileyo yokwazi ukuba uthando lwakho luyinyani. Kwaye inokuba yinto ekhohlisayo ngakumbi ngokuhamba kwexesha kuba sonke siyatshintsha kwaye siyakhula. Ke umceli mngeni kukuqhubeka nokunxibelelana nokufunda ngawe kunye neqabane lakho kuwo wonke umtshato wakho.
Umtshato ophumelelayo ufuna ukuthandana amaxesha amaninzi, uhlala nomntu omnye. UMignon McLaughlin
Esi sicatshulwa sicacisa kumzamo obandakanyekayo ekugcineni umtshato uphila. Ngamanye amaxesha ndicinga ngayo njengokuvuka ntsasa nganye kwaye ndenze isigqibo sokuthanda umyeni wam namhlanje-nangale mihla apho ndingaziva ndithanda khona.
Kwaye luvavanyo lomtshato ngokwenyani- ukukhetha ukuyenza nokuba ingangabi yeyona nto ilula emhlabeni ngoba uthathe isigqibo sokuba kufanelekile. Nabani na onokwenza olu suku nangaphandle kwemini uya kuba nomtshato ophumeleleyo nangona iikowuti zothando zingakhokelela ekubeni ukholelwe.