Umxholo
- Zithembe iimvakalelo zakho
- Musa ukukhawuleza
- Uthando aluyonto nje etsala umdlan
- Mthande njengoko enjalo
- Musa ukucinga ukuba ungumfundi weengqondo.
- Ungakulinge usebenzise umntu wakho
- Ukwiqela elinye
- Yindibanisela yeklasi kunye ne-sassy
- Gcina ingqondo nomzimba ophilileyo
- Qinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane yinto oyifunayo
- Sukulinda ixesha elide ukusika isithiyelo
Ubudlelwane bunokuba yinkohliso, kwaye indlela yokufumana umntu ogqibeleleyo kuwe ifakwe ngamanyathelo amaninzi obuxoki.
Into oyibonayo ayisoloko iyinto oyifumanayo. Kwimizamo yakho yokufunda ukuba ngumfazi ongcono kubudlelwane, uyalibala ukuzifumanela indoda engcono.
Into oyifunayo zezinye iingcebiso kubudlelwane babafazi ukunceda ukucoca intloko yakho.
Makhe sijonge ezinye zeengcebiso ezilungileyo kulwalamano lwabasetyhini eziza kukunceda ukuba ufumane uhlobo lweqabane eliza kukunceda ukuba uziphathe kakuhle, usuku nosuku.
Jonga izinto ezenziwayo kunye nezingenziwayo zokuthandana:
Zithembe iimvakalelo zakho
Zithembe iimvakalelo zakho kunxibelelwano lwakho lokuqala kunye nesoka elinokubakho. Le ngenye yeengcebiso ezibalulekileyo zobudlelwane bamanenekazi.
Ngaba wayenxila kakhulu kwimihla yakho yokuqala? Indoda engakwaziyo ukufikelela kumanqanaba okuqala obudlelwane ngaphandle kokusebenzisa utywala inokuba nemicimbi yokusebenzisa iziyobisi gwenxa.
Ngaba ufike mva ngokungapheliyo, uhlala enika izizathu? Akalixabisanga ixesha lakho, ke sukulindela ukuba afike ngexesha ngesiquphe xa ufuna ukuba kwindawo ethile ebalulekileyo.
Ngaba uyaqonda ukuba ufihla into xa efumana izizathu zokuba kutheni ungasokuze uze endaweni yakhe? Isitshixo kwiimpendulo zakho ezibonakalayo xa ukhetha ii-vibes ezingahlali nawe.
Sukwenza impazamo eyenziwa ngabasetyhini abaninzi, becinga ukuba zonke ezi zinto zingathandekiyo ziya kutshintsha xa sele ekuthanda. Abayi kuyenza. Banokuba mandundu ngakumbi.
Musa ukukhawuleza
Elinye icebiso lobudlelwane kumantombazana kukwazi ukuba uthando lunjenge-artichoke: cima ulonwabele, igqabi elinye ngexesha.
Nokuba ungakulangazelela kangakanani ukuthandana, sukungxama ngezinto. Ulonwabo lokwenene kukutyhilwa. Thatha ixesha lakho ukwazana ngaphambi kokuba uye kwinqanaba elilandelayo lobudlelwane.
Ukufika kwakho ekugqibeleni, kuya kuba mnandi ngakumbi.
Uthando aluyonto nje etsala umdlan
Ngokuqinisekileyo, into yokuqala emtsalelayo yiphakheji yangaphandle. Kodwa nesona sipho sihle siya kukhula buthuntu ukuba akukho nto ibalulekileyo ngaphakathi.
Qiniseka ukuba iqabane lakho liyabubona ubuso bakho obuthandekayo kunye nomphefumlo wakho omangalisayo ngaphambi kokuba uye phambili. Ukudibanisa imvakalelo kubalulekile kwimpumelelo yexesha elide yobudlelwane.
Mthande njengoko enjalo
Musa ukuthandana nomntu wakho ngenxa yesakhono sakhe. Ufuna ukudibana nomntu njengoko benjalo ngoku.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, yonke imiqondiso yalatha kuye ukuba aphumelele kwaye asebenze nzima, kodwa kuthekani ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo, njengokugula okanye ukukhubazeka, eya kuthintela ukuba kungenzeki? Usamthanda?
Indoda yakho ayisiyi projekthi yakho, ke qiniseka ukuba ukhetha umntu omthandayo ngendlela ayiyo.
Musa ukucinga ukuba ungumfundi weengqondo.
Le ngcebiso malunga nolwalamano yabasetyhini kuphela.
Eyona mpazamo inkulu eyenziwa ngabafazi kukucinga ukuba indoda yabo ingafunda iingcinga zabo kwaye kufuneka "bazi nje" xa benomsindo, belambile, bediniwe, okanye bekhathazekile ngento eyenzekileyo emsebenzini.
Nokuba oyena mntu unomdla akanokwazi ukuba yintoni ngaphakathi kwentloko yakho.
Sebenzisa izakhono zakho zonxibelelwano ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho. Iya kwenza yonke into ibe lula, kwaye awuyi kuphela ukugcina inzondo kuba umntu wakho ebengenalo nofifi lokuba ufuna athathe ipasta kwisidlo sangokuhlwa endaweni ye-pizza.
Ungakulinge usebenzise umntu wakho
IDrama ayisiyondlela efanelekileyo yokwenza ukuba umntu wakho enze into. Iimbali zakho ziya kusebenza kuphela ekuvaleni kwakhe. Ayikulungelanga, nokuba.
Funda iindlela zonxibelelwano ezisempilweni ukuze wabelane ngeemvakalelo zakho nabantu abadala.
Ukwiqela elinye
Ngexesha elizayo xa nifumana ukungqubana, khumbulani: anilwi, kodwa nisilwa ngeembono zenu ezingafaniyo.
Gcina oku ngasemva kwentloko yakho, ukuze usebenze kwisisombululo esivelisayo kumcimbi, kunokuba imeko iguquke ibe kukubiza ngamagama kunye nokwalatha ngomnwe.
Yindibanisela yeklasi kunye ne-sassy
Amadoda ayalithanda kwaye ayalixabisa ibhinqa abanokulibonisa usapho kunye nabantu abasebenza nabo, besazi ukuba ngasemva komnyango wegumbi lokulala, owabo umfazi uthanda isondo, i-tigress engathintelwanga.
Gcina ingqondo nomzimba ophilileyo
Oku kubalulekile kuwe nakuye. Umzimba nengqondo yakho zibonakalisa impilo-ntle yakho, ke sebenzisa ixesha nemali ekuzinyamekeleni.
Indoda yakho iqhotyoshelwe kuwe ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, ke kufanelekile ukugcina inkangeleko yakho yangaphandle kunye nempilo yakho yengqondo ngokuhoya imeko yabo elungileyo yokusebenza.
Ungazivumeli ukuba uhambe. Yitya impilo esempilweni kwaye ubandakanye imithambo yomzimba kumhla wakho. Thatha ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nezinto ezondla umoya wakho kwaye zicelomngeni kwingqondo yakho.
Qinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane yinto oyifunayo
Yenza ukuvavanywa kwempilo yengqondo amaxesha ngamaxesha: Ngaba ukuba kunye naye kukwenza wonwabe, okanye uyabuya kwimihla yakho uziva ukhathazekile okanye unomsindo?
Ngaba uziva uphakamile xa ucinga ngaye? Ngaba uyakuhlonipha wena, umsebenzi wakho, kunye neenkanuko zakho, okanye ngaba uyazinyelisa?
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ngaba uyalifumana ixabiso kuwe kunye nento oyincedayo ebomini bakhe? Ngaba ufumana ixabiso kuye kunye negalelo lakhe kwelakho?
Sukulinda ixesha elide ukusika isithiyelo
Ukuba uziva ukuba zonke iinzame zakho zokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho azivelisi ziqhamo, sukulibazisa ukungafikeleki.
Ewe, ukungatshati kunokubonakala kusoyikisa ekuqaleni, kodwa kungcono uwedwa kunokuba ubambekile kulwalamano olutshabalalisa uvuyo kwaye luphume kuwe.
Awufuni ukuvusa iminyaka engamashumi amahlanu okanye amashumi amathandathu ubudala ukuze ufumanise ukuba uchithe uthando lwakho kumfana ongazange akuxabise oko ubunokunikela ngako.
Ezi ngcebiso malunga nabafazi ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kukwenza ubalasele kumdlalo wothando kunye nothando. Iya kukuthintela ekwenzeni iimpazamo ezinokuthi zonakalise iindlela zakho zokuthandana zangaphambili.