Umxholo
- 1. Nxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka
- 2. Xabisanani, nize nihloniphe amandla obuthathaka kunye neentsilelo zomnye nomnye
- 3. Phuhlisa umdla wokwenene kubomi beqabane lakho
- 4. Yeka ukuphupha, setha okulindelweyo endaweni yoko
- 5. Ukuphuhlisa imbono efanelekileyo
- 6. Ukuphuhlisa ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo kubalulekile
- 7. Gcina unxibelelwano lwakho lomtshato lomelele
Sonke kufuneka ukuba seva amazwi athi "umtshato uyasebenza" Oku kuyinyani kuwo wonke umtshato, nokuba yeyabantu abasandul 'ukutshata okanye abantu abadala.
Ixesha labatshatileyo alihlali ixesha elide, kwaye emva kokuphela kwalo, amaqabane ayaqhelana ngokupheleleyo nendlela ubomi bomtshato obuva ngayo.
Akusoloko kukho iminyama namabhabhathane; inokuba sisivumelwano esibancedayo ukuba baqhubele phambili ngobuhlobo obuyimpumelelo.
Ke, ungaba njani nomtshato ophilileyo? Kwaye imitshato isebenza njani?
I-Marriage.com ithethe noMtshato kunye neeNtsapho zoNyango, abaCebisi ngezeMpilo yeNgqondo, aba balandelayo bakhankanyiwe zezona ngcebiso zintle zomtshato ophilileyo.
Ngoncedo lwezi ngcebiso zomtshato zisempilweni, izibini ziya kuba nakho ukugcina umtshato wazo uhlala uluhlaza kwaye ungunaphakade.
1. Nxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka
Wonke iqabane libona imeko ethile ngokwahlukileyo, enokubangela ukwenzakala kwaye ikhokelele kwinzondo.
Ngaphandle konxibelelwano olufanelekileyo, izibini zinokucaphukelana ngaphandle kokwazi nokuba, kutheni, kwaye kwaqala nini konke. Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo emtshatweni lunokubeka ulindelo olusengqiqweni kunye novakalelo olukhulu kwiimvakalelo zomnye nomnye.
Nantsi into ethethwa ziingcali malunga nokuba “leliphi elona cebiso lililo lomtshato ophilileyo?”
UJennifer Van Allen (LMHC)
- Thatha ixesha suku ngalunye nobabini kuphela
Imizuzu elishumi ubuso ngobuso; Uxoxa ngosuku lwakho, iimvakalelo, iinjongo kunye neengcinga zakho.
- Funda ukusombulula imbambano
Funda indlela yokusombulula ukungaboni ngasonye ngokwazana amandla kunye nokwenza ukuba ibe liqela lokusebenzisana. Kunqande ukuzama ukubonisa indlela yakho ibhetele, kodwa mamela indlela eyahlukileyo.
U-Emy Tafelski (LMFT)
Nazi iingcebiso zobudlelwane ezilungileyo anokuthi uEmy anikele ngazo:
- Mamela ukuqonda iqabane lakho
Rhoqo kubudlelwane, abantu bamamela ukuphendula okanye ukukhusela, eyahlukileyo ekumameleni ukuqonda. Xa umamele ukuqonda, umamela ngaphezu kweendlebe zakho.
- Mamela ngentliziyo yakho
Umamela ngovelwano oluvulekileyo. Umamela ngesimo sokufuna ukwazi kunye nemfesane.
Ukusuka kule ndawo yokumamela ukuqonda, wenza ubudlelwane obunzulu neqabane lakho kunye nawe kunokuba wenzayo xa umamele ukulwa ingxabano okanye ukuphendula. Kulapho kuhlala khona unxibelelwano lokwenyani kunye nolwalamano olusenyongweni.
- Thetha ngokusuka entliziyweni
Okukhona unxibelelana unokuba kunye namava akho emvakalelo kwaye ngokucacileyo unokuwathetha loo mava. Zama ukuthetha usebenzisa u “Ndi” (ndiziva ndibuhlungu; ndibuhlungu; ndedwa; akubalulekanga), kwiqabane lakho; ubunzulu bobuhlobo obusondeleyo phakathi kwakho bunakho kwaye buya kuba njalo.
Ukuthetha ngokusuka entliziyweni kuthetha indawo eyahlukileyo yobuchopho kunengxelo okanye "izityholo" zakho. Ukuthetha ngentlungu yakho ngokweemvakalelo kunika iqabane lakho ithuba lokuphendula kwintlungu yakho kunokukhusela ezabo iindawo.
2. Xabisanani, nize nihloniphe amandla obuthathaka kunye neentsilelo zomnye nomnye
Unokonwaba njani emtshatweni?
Enye yeengcebiso zomtshato ezonwabisayo luxabiso. Ukuxabisa nje okuncinci kuya kwenza indlela ende yokugcina umtshato usempilweni.
Ekuhambeni kweminyaka, izibini ezitshatileyo ziya kukhululeka kunye nomnye ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba lokuba ziphulukane nesiseko sokwenene sothando. Kule meko, ungawenza njani umtshato ngcono?
Ukugcina umoya wothando uphila, izibini kufuneka zibandakanye kunxibelelwano olusempilweni kunye. Kuya kufuneka bavume kwaye bavakalise umbulelo ngako konke ukuzincama okukhulu kunye nokunye okukhulu okwenziwa sisiqingatha semihla ngemihla.
Nokuba kungumsebenzi omncinci wokungena ebantwaneni ukulala ebusuku okanye ukwenza isidlo sakusasa ebhedini; Qiniseka ukuba ubiza amazwi akho anombulelo ekwakheni umtshato ophilileyo.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zeengcali zokuxabisa amaqabane akho abuthathaka kwaye omelele:
UJamie Molnar (LMHC, RYT, QS)
- Yenza umbono ekwabelwana ngawo kunye
Amaxesha amaninzi singena kubudlelwane sinombono ocacileyo wento esiyifunayo, kodwa asisoloko sinxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo neqabane lethu. Oku kungakhokelela kwimpikiswano enkulu.
Khumbula, singabantu ababini abahlukeneyo abajoyina into enye, uhambo ekwabelwana ngalo kunye, ke kufuneka senze isiseko esomeleleyo esiza kwakha kuso.
Kufuneka sicacelwe ngqo ukuba sifuna ntoni kwaye sisingise phi kunye ukuya Chonga umbono ekwabelwana ngawo wobomi obudalayo kunye.
- Chonga kwaye uhloniphe amandla / ubuthathaka bomnye nomnye
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba umtshato uyaphumelela xa sinokusebenza njengeqela elimanyeneyo. Asinakulindela ukuba iqabane lethu libe ZONKE izinto.
Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo masingaze sizame ukutshintsha iqabane lethu okanye silindele ukuba babe ngomnye umntu. Endaweni yoko, kufuneka sichaze amandla ethu kunye nokusilela kwethu kwaye sijonge apho sinokuzalisa khona izikhewu zomnye nomnye.
Ndikucebisa ukuba ndikubhale kunye oku-sichaza indlela esisebenza kakuhle ngayo, amandla kunye nobuthathaka bethu, kwaye sichaze indlela esinokuxhasana ngayo njengoko sisenza umbono wethu ekwabelwana ngawo ngobomi kunye.
IHarville Hendrix (Ingcali yeengqondo)
- Hlonipha imida
Soloko ubuza iqabane lakho ukuba bayakho na ukumamela ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuthetha. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuyaphula imida yabo kunye nengxabano yomngcipheko.
- Zibophelela kwi-zero negativity
Ukungakhathali kuko nakuphi na ukunxibelelana okuthi nangayiphi na indlela kuthobe isidima kwiqabane lakho, i. e. yi "beka phantsi."
Oko kuyakuhlala kubangela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga ezibizwa ngokuba kukuxhalaba, kwaye uxinzelelo luza kubangela ukuzikhusela ekuhlaselweni okanye ekuthintelweni, kwaye nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, uqhagamshelo luqhekekile.
UHelen LaKelly Hunt wongeza ngakumbi kule seti yeengcebiso ezixabisekileyo.
- Yiba nomdla xa iqabane lakho lisenza into ekuphazamisayo okanye likwenza ube neemvakalelo ezimbi
Banokuba zizinto nje zabo, kwaye usenokuphendula kule nto uyenzileyo kwaye ubabeke kuyo.
- Ziqhelanise neziqinisekiso zemihla ngemihla
Faka endaweni yako konke ukwehla, okanye ukubeka phantsi, ngeziqinisekiso. Oku kubandakanya ukuxabisa, umbulelo ngokuziphatha okunenkathalo, nokuba nindawonye, njl.
3. Phuhlisa umdla wokwenene kubomi beqabane lakho
Yazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kubomi beqabane lakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubomi buxakekile kwaye buba nzima nangakumbi ukuba ukhulisa abantwana, kodwa yenza umzamo, kwaye ayizukubonwa.
Umzekelo, zithini izicwangciso zeqabane lakho namhlanje? Ngaba baya esidlweni nabazali babo? Ngaba iqabane lakho linentlanganiso ebalulekileyo namhlanje? Yazi yonke le nto kwaye ubabuze ukuba ihambe njani.
Iya kwenza iqabane lakho lizive libalulekile kwaye likhathalelwe.
UEllyn Bader, (LMFT)
1. Yiba nomdla kunokuba ube nomsindo
Lo ngumgaqo obalulekileyo okhokelayo. Kukhokelela amaqabane ukubuzana imibuzo engalindelekanga efana
Yintoni into onqwenela ukuba ndixolise ngayo kodwa ube madolw 'anzima ukuyibuza?
Kwaye kwakuza kuvakalelwa njani ukuxolisa?
Ngawaphi amagama onqwenela ukuweva?
Ungathanda ukuba ndinxibelelane njani ngokufanelekileyo ukuba ndiyakuthanda, ndikuxabisile, ndiyakuhlonipha, kwaye ndiyakuxabisa?
Ukubuza le mibuzo kubonisa amandla okuphatha iimpendulo ezinyanisekileyo.
2. Izibiningokuqinisekileyo awuvumelani. Ayibobukhulu bokungavisisani obubalulekileyo. Yindlela esi sibini esijonga ngayo ukungavumelani okwenza umahluko omkhulu.
Kuqhelekile ukuba amaqabane azidibanise aze akhuphisane ngokuba ngubani ophumeleleyo kwaye ngubani olahlekileyo. Nantsi enye indlela engcono yokuqalisa uthethathethwano ...
Fumana ixesha elamkelekileyo lokuxoxisana. Emva koko sebenzisa olu luhlu
- Kubonakala ngathi asivumelani malunga no-X (Fumana inkcazo-ekuvunyelwene ngayo ngengxaki nganye ngokuchaza ukungavisisani de bavumelane ngento abayixoxayo
- Iqabane ngalinye lichaza 2-3 iimvakalelo eziqhuba indawo yazo
- Iqabane ngalinye licebisa isisombululo kule fomathi. Ndicebisa ukuba sizame u-X endikholelwa ukuba unokukusebenzela kwaye nantsi indlela eya kusebenza ngayo nakum. Bhengeza ukuba isisombululo esicetywayo siza kusebenza njani kwiqabane lakho.
Olu lungelelwaniso luya kuyisombulula ingxaki yakho kwisiqalo sentsebenziswano.
- Iqabane ngalinye licebisa isisombululo kule fomathi. Ndicebisa ukuba sizame u-X endikholelwa ukuba unokukusebenzela kwaye nantsi indlela eya kusebenza ngayo nakum. Bhengeza ukuba isisombululo esicetywayo siza kusebenza njani kwiqabane lakho.
Olu lungelelwaniso luya kuyisombulula ingxaki yakho kwisiqalo sentsebenziswano.
4. Yeka ukuphupha, setha okulindelweyo endaweni yoko
Ukubukela ii-comedies zothando, ukufunda iintsomi ezikhulayo, kunye nokonwaba emva kwako konke ubomi bakho, amantombazana abanjiswa kwilizwe lokuzikhohlisa apho balindele ukuba ubomi babo bomtshato buya kufana neentsomi.
Kuya kufuneka uyeke ukuthelekelela kwaye uqonde ukuba ukonwaba emva kwexesha kukwiimovie. Inyaniso yahluke kakhulu.
Kuya kufuneka ugcine ulindelo olusengqiqweni kwiqabane lakho kwaye ungacingi ukuba abe yiNkosana eCharming.
Endaweni yoko, jolisa ekugcineni umbono oqinisekileyo kunye nokukhulisa ubuhlobo obuqinileyo.
UKate Campbell (LMFT)
Njengomsunguli weengcali kwezobuchwephesha eBayview Therapy, ndibenelungelo lokusebenza kunye namawaka ezibini.
Kule minyaka, ndiqaphele iipateni ezifanayo kwizibini ezonwabileyo kwaye zisempilweni.
Izibini ezixela ukoneliseka ngakumbi emtshatweni ngabo banobuhlobo obomeleleyo nobudlamkileyo; gcina umbono oqinisekileyo, kwaye uqhubeke nokuxabisana.
Nazi iingcebiso zam ezilungileyo zobudlelwane:
- Beka ubuhlobo bakho kwindawo yokuqala
Ubuhlobo obuqinileyo sisiseko sokuthembana, ukusondelelana, kunye nokwoneliseka ngokwesondo kubudlelwane.
Ukomeleza ubuhlobo bakho, chitha ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye, buza imibuzo evulekileyo, yabelana ngamabali anentsingiselo, kwaye wonwabe ekudaleni iinkumbulo ezintsha!
Qho xa unika inkxaso, ububele, uthando, okanye ungena kwingxoxo enentsingiselo, uzakhela uvimba. Iakhawunti yokonga iimvakalelo imele ukuthembana nokhuseleko, ekunceda ukuba uhlale uqhagamshelene kwaye ujonge isaqhwithi xa kuvela ungquzulwano.
- Gcina umbono oqinisekileyo
Imbonakalo yakho ichaphazela ngokuthe ngqo indlela ojonga ngayo iqabane lakho kunye nendlela ohlangabezana ngayo nomtshato wakho.
Xa ubomi buba nzima okanye ngamaxesha oxinzelelo, kulula ukuba ungene kumkhwa wokunciphisa okanye ukungahoyi izinto ezintle ezenzekayo (nokuba zincinci okanye zikhulu kangakanani).
Oku kusilela kokuvuma kunokwakha unxunguphalo kunye nenzondo ngokuhamba kwexesha. Shiya ujoliso lwakho kwizinto ezenziwe liqabane lakho ngokuchasene nezinto ezingezizo.
Vumela iqabane lakho lazi ubuncinci umgangatho othile, uphawu, okanye isenzo osithandayo mihla le. Ukuxabisa okuncinci kunokuhamba indlela ende!
5. Ukuphuhlisa imbono efanelekileyo
Ukuba ubuza, yintoni eyenza umtshato olungileyo okanye yintoni eyenza umtshato ophilileyo, nantsi enye impendulo-umbono ofanelekileyo!
Enye yeengcebiso ezilungileyo zobudlelwane kukungabambeleli nakuphi na ukuthanda, kwaye endaweni yoko, uphuhlise umbono ofanelekileyo. Xa ubambelela ngokuqinileyo kumava abuhlungu adlulileyo, uyaqonda ukuba uhlakulela ukucalucalulwa kwiqabane lakho.
Nokuba iqabane lakho lineenjongo ezintle, kukho amathuba aphezulu okuba ungazi ngabom ungazenzi iinjongo ezintle. Kwaye, oku kungenxa yokuba uswele umbono ochanekileyo.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zobudlelwane obusempilweni kwizibini ezitshatileyo ziingcali:
IVictoria DiStefano (LMHC)
- Asinguye wonke umntu ocinga ngokufanayo
Zama ukubona imeko ngokwembono yeqabane lakho, ngokusekwe kubani kunye namava abo.
- Khumbula, uliqela
Kunqande “Wena iingxelo,” endaweni yazo "We" kunye "Mna" iingxelo. Yiya, liqela!
6. Ukuphuhlisa ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo kubalulekile
Kuyimfuneko kuwo omabini amaqabane ukuba abe nenani elifanelekileyo lobukrelekrele bemvakalelo ukuze bakhe umtshato owomeleleyo.
Ke, ungawenza njani umtshato omkhulu?
Izibini ezonwabileyo kwihlabathi liphela zisebenzisa ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo ngelixa zinxibelelana. Le yindlela unxibelelwano lwabo oluqinisekileyo oluphambili ngayo kunonxibelelwano olubi.
Jonga izinto ezithethwa ziingcali.
UJ.Robert Ross (i-Ph.D., I-LMFT)
- Nikela ingqalelo kuwe.
- Chonga ukuba ulinceda / ulikhuthaze / ulichaphazele njani iqabane lakho ngendlela ongamthandi ngayo.
7. Gcina unxibelelwano lwakho lomtshato lomelele
I-PDA encinci (ukubonisa uthando kuluntu) ayenzakalisi mntu. Ukubamba izandla, ukubambelela emagxeni ziindlela ezincinci zokubonisa uthando kwiqabane lakho.
Akufanelekanga ukuba niyindoda endala, intliziyo isencinci. Cwangcisa usuku lokutya inyanga nenyanga kwaye wonwabele isidlo sangokuhlwa esinamakhandlela kunye nomntu omthandayo.
UStephen Snyder MD (Ingcali yezesondo eqinisekisiweyo ye-CST)
Nazi iingcebiso zam ezilungileyo zomtshato ophilileyo:
- Xa ungavumelani, njengoko uhlala usenza, funda indlela yokuphikisana kakuhle.
—Ungazami ukukholisa iqabane lakho ukuba bangonwaba kangakanani ukuba benze izinto ngendlela yakho. Oko kwenza ukuba iimvakalelo zabo zingasebenzi, nto leyo edla ngokubenza abantu bembe izithende zabo.
—Sukucinga ukuba kukho into engalunganga kwiqabane lakho, kuba bengavumelani nawe. Ewe, iqabane lakho linokuba nexhala, linyanzele, kwaye lihlale ezindleleni zalo. Kodwa banelungelo elifanelekileyo kwizimvo zabo.
—Sukucinga ukuba kuphela liqabane lakho elikuthanda ngakumbi, baya kukunika into oyifunayo. Kulwalamano oluhle, omabini amaqabane afunda ukuma emhlabeni. Nangona bethandana; ngakumbi kuba bayathandana.
Soloko ukhangela iindlela umntu ngamnye anokufumana ngokwaneleyo oko ukufunayo kunye nokufuna. Qiniseka ukuba ngamnye uzisa igalelo elibonakalayo kuzo zonke izigqibo eziphambili. Awusoze wazi ukuba isigqibo siza kuphuma njani, ke qiniseka ukuba sinamagama akho omabini.
- Gcina uqhagamshelo lwakho olomeleleyo luqinile, nokuba awusabelani ngesondo
Isibini esiqhelekileyo saseMelika kwezi ntsuku sabelana ngesondo ngaphantsi kwesinye ngeveki. Ayothusi loo nto, ngenxa yokuba into yokuqala esiyenzayo kusasa, jika kwangoko kwii-smartphones zethu.
Kodwa isondo kanye ngeveki alonelanga ngokwaneleyo ukugcina unxibelelwano lwakho olomeleleyo luqinile. Kubalulekile ukuhlakulela uxhulumaniso lwe-erotic ixesha lonke, kwakhona.
—Sukumanga nje iqabane lakho ebusuku. Endaweni yoko, babambe ngokusondeleyo, yiva imizimba yabo ichasene neyakho, phefumla ivumba leenwele zabo, kwaye wonwabe okomzuzwana.
Lala uziva wonwabile. Ngexesha elizayo xa usabelana ngesondo, uya kulonwabela ukonwabela ngakumbi.
—Xa usiya emsebenzini kusasa, sukuvele uphuze iqabane lakho
Endaweni yoko, bancome: Babambe ngothando, phefumla kunye, ubaphathe ngokwenyani, emva koko ujonge emehlweni abo kwaye ubaxelele ukuba uya kubakhumbula. Intlawulo elungileyo luthando, kamva, kunokuba lukhulu.
UGqirha Katie Schubert (Ingcali yezesondo eqinisekisiweyo)
Nantsi into ayithathayo uKatie ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane ukugcina umtshato usempilweni kwaye wonwabile:
- Chukumisa iqabane lakho rhoqo- Ukuwola, ukwanga, ukuphulula ... imisebenzi. Kunye nesini. Ukuchukumisa kwandisa ulwalamano kunye nokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
- Funda indlela yokulwa ngokufanelekileyo neqabane lakho. Nantsi indlela onokuyenza ngayo:
IBeth Lewis (LPCC)
Iindlela zokutshintsha iindlela zethu zothando nokuthandwa ziyafumaneka kubugcisa be 'ukuphulaphula ngenyameko ' ngenjongo yokuva ngokwenene ngaphakathi kweentliziyo zethu kude kuqondwe.
Umtshato lolona lwalamano lucelomngeni kodwa lunomvuzo nabani na kuthi anokuluwela.
Ngezantsi zimbalwa izimvo ezishwankathelwe ukuba uzifunde kwaye ngethemba lokuzisa izimvo ezintsha kunye nemibono kwizibini ezitshatileyo ezifuna iingcebiso zokuzijonga xa usiya phambili. Ngethamsanqa kuni nonke!
- Yenza indawo yokuba uthando lukhule
Mamela lowo umthandayo ngentliziyo yakho iphela, ngelixa ubekhona ngokupheleleyo de ube "uve" into entsha. Yoyama ngeenjongo zokufuna ukwazana, ufunde kwakhona, ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Vumela, yamkele, kwaye ufunde ukuba ungubani ngamnye, yonke imihla. Ukuvumela omnye nomnye ukuba abe ngoobani, oko kuthetha ukuba asijolisanga ukulungisa okanye ukucebisa ngeendlela zokutshintsha.
Iintliziyo eziviwa ngokunyanisekileyo ziintliziyo eziqondwa nzulu. Iintliziyo eziqondakalayo iintliziyo zikulungele ngakumbi ukuvumela uthando luthande, kwaye luthabathe imingcipheko esempilweni kuthando.
Zibophelele ekuveni, ukuqonda omnye nomnye ngobukho de uve kwaye uqonde, kwaye wenze umtshato wakho ube ngumsebenzi wentliziyo!
- Jonga ulindelo olungenakuguqulwa kunye neenkolelo
Umtshato unzima; Uxinzelelo kwaye ugcwele ungquzulwano. Ungquzulwano lusinika amathuba okusondela ngakumbi nobulumko, okanye, sikhule ngokwahlukeneyo kwaye sikhathazeke.
Eyona nto ixhaphakileyo isisiseko seengxaki ezininzi abantu abatshatileyo abajongana nayo yimfuno yokuba 'balungile' ukusuka ekuziva bengaqondwa.
Ukukhetha ukuphucula izakhono zokusombulula ungquzulwano ngokuthi ukumamela okusebenzayo kunye nokuzimisela ukwandisa ubhetyebhetye endaweni yokuba ichaneke, zizisombululo ezisebenzayo kwizibini ezitshatileyo ezifuna ukukhula ngakumbi ekuhambeni kwexesha kunye nokusombulula ukungaboni ngasonye.
Ukufaka isicelo kwezakhono kunye neengcinga ezijikeleze ukwamkelwa kukwaziwa kakuhle ukunceda ukuqhubela phambili kwezibini ngaphaya kwezakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki kunye nokuzisa ukusondelelana, ubunyani kunye nokuba sesichengeni.
Ukuhlala ungaguquki ngelixa ugcina isidingo sokuba 'silungile' kunokubeka impilo yomtshato emngciphekweni kwixesha elide ngelixa kusonyusa uxinzelelo.
Nika ithuba lokwamkela kunye nezisombululo zongquzulwano ithuba. Umtshato wakho ufanelekile! Njengoko unjalo.
ILori Kret (LCSW), kunye noJeffrey Cole (LP)
Eyona mitshato isempilweni yile iqabane ngalinye likulungeleyo ukukhula kuyo; Ukuqhubeka ngokufunda ngakumbi malunga nabo kunye nokuguquka njengesibini.
Sikhethe ezi ngcebiso zimbini zingezantsi kuba ukufunda indlela yokukhula kwezi ndlela ezithile kube yinguqu kwizibini ezininzi esisebenza nazo:
Eyona mitshato isempilweni yile iqabane ngalinye likulungeleyo ukukhula kuyo; Ukuqhubeka ngokufunda ngakumbi malunga nabo, kunye nokuguquka njengesibini.
Sikhethe ezi ngcebiso zimbini zingezantsi kuba ukufunda indlela yokukhula kwezi ndlela ezithile kube yinguqu kwizibini ezininzi esisebenza nazo:
- Emtshatweni, kunqabile ukuba inyani ibe nye.
Abalingani bayabambeka bexabana malunga neenkcukacha, bezama ukuqinisekisa inyani yabo ngokungqina amaqabane abo engalunganga.
Ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo budala ithuba lokuba iinyaniso ezimbini zibekho kwindawo enye. Bavumela iimvakalelo zamaqabane omabini, iimbono, kwaye kufuneka ziqinisekiswe nokuba zahlukile.
- Umzuzu ocinga ukuba uyazi iingcinga zeqabane lakho, iimvakalelo zakho, okanye indlela oziphethe ngayo, ngumzuzu wokuba ungoneliseki.
Endaweni yoko, zikhumbuze ukuba uhlale unomdla malunga neqabane lakho kunye nawe, kwaye uhlala ujonga apho ungafunda khona ngakumbi.
UKathy Dan Moore (LMFT)
Njengengcali yoMtshato neyosapho, esona sizathu sokuqala ndibona izibini zisiza kunyango kukuba bazityeshele iimpawu zokulumkisa ixesha elide. Nanga amacebiso amabini anokugcina umtshato wakho usempilweni, wonwabile kwaye uqhuba kakuhle.
- Zibophelele kunxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nokuba ungaziva ungakhululekanga kwaye ungonwabanga kangakanani.
Kubalulekile ukuba uphuhlise ixesha kunye nendawo oza kuyichitha neqabane lakho rhoqo, ke unethuba lokunxibelelana malunga neminqweno yomnye nomnye, iinjongo, uloyiko, ukukhathazeka kunye neemfuno.
Yamkela ukuba uyayibona imeko ngokusebenzisa ilensi yakho kwaye usebenze ngokudala ulwelo, ingxoxo eqhubekayo ukufezekisa ukuqonda okungcono kwimbono yomnye.
- Oku kunokuvakala kungqubana; Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukugcina izinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto ozenzayo ngelixa usenza nemidla efanayo.
Inzondo iyabila xa uncama izinto ozithandayo. Kwaye ukufumana amava ahlukeneyo kukuvumela ukuba ube nezinto ezinomdla kakhulu zokwabelana neqabane lakho.
Kwangelo xesha, ukufumana imisebenzi kunye namava owonwabela kukwenza kunye kudala ukufana kunye nokudibana emtshatweni wakho.
Gcina intlantsi iphila!
Le yayiyingcali yethu yokujikeleza kwezinye zezona ngcebiso zibalulekileyo zomtshato owonwabileyo kwaye usempilweni. Lilonke, umyalezo kukuba umtshato awudingi ukuba ungabinayo intlantsi kunye nochulumanco, nokuba ithini iminyaka edlulileyo!
Ke gcina umtshato wakho uhlaziyekile kwaye unika umdla ngezi ngcebiso, kwaye wonwabele ukonwaba emtshatweni.