Umxholo
- Uqhawulo-mtshato luphawula ukuphela komtshato, hayi usapho
- Ukwabiwa kwelungelo lokugcina umntwana yeyona ndlela yokuhamba!
- Yeka ukwenza iyelenqe ngokuchasene ne-ex yakho
- Nika indlela kwintengiselwano evulekileyo yencoko yababini
- Fikelela kuncedo lweengcali
Abazali kufuneka bayamkele into yokuba umntwana wabo akanakho ukukhula okanye amandla okunyamezela le meko ibuhlungu ibangelwa luqhawulo mtshato. Abantu abatshatileyo kufuneka bathathe inxaxheba kwimeko esempilweni ukunciphisa impembelelo ebuhlungu yokuqhekeka komtshato emntwaneni wabo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Abantu abathandanayo abaphatha ngokuqhekeka ukwahlukana kwabo kwaye bayavumelana kukhuseleko olwabelwanayo banempilo esempilweni, banentlalontle, bavuthiwe ngokwasemoyeni, kwaye banabantwana abaqhuba kakuhle ezifundweni. Ubudlelwane babo (babantwana) bobabini abazali bayalingana, kwaye baziva ngathi babalulekile kwaye bayinxalenye yosapho olunothando nolukhathalayo.
Eli nqaku liza kubonelela ngokukhawuleza kwengcaciso ngendlela umfazi noqhawulo-mtshato abanokujongana ngayo nomntwana wabo ongacwangciswanga wabanjwa phakathi kobudlelwane obuphelayo. Abazali banokuthi balugcine njani kakuhle ukukhula komntwana wabo njengoko behlala njengabantu ababini abahlukeneyo?
Uqhawulo-mtshato luphawula ukuphela komtshato, hayi usapho
Nangona wena kunye nomntu owoyikekayo ebekade enithiyile isibindi somnye nomnye kwaye ungavumi nokuba uthwale ubukho obubi bomnye nomnye. Kuya kufuneka ujongane nenyani yokuba nobabini ninomntwana enimzise kunye kulo mhlaba kunye, kwaye nobabini njengabazali ninoxanduva lokuphila kakuhle.
Awuyi kuphinda usebenze kunye njengesibini, kodwa loo nto ayikuthetheleli kumsebenzi wakho njengabazali.
Ungachonga njengabantu abadala abazimeleyo, kodwa ebantwaneni, unguMama noTata kuphela abaza kuvela kwimisitho yabo yokuzalwa, bacwangcise iiholide zosapho, kwaye babekho kwii-PTMs esikolweni.
Kuya kufuneka ulalanise ngenxa yolonwabo lomntwana wakho kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Ukwabiwa kwelungelo lokugcina umntwana yeyona ndlela yokuhamba!
Umntwana wakho uyinto encinci yeemvakalelo oziva ekhathazekile, edidekile, kwaye engakhuselekanga kwimpikiswano edinisayo yemfazwe phakathi kwakho ne-ex yakho; kuyabathatha, kwaye bakhula benomsindo kuni nobabini ngokubafaka kule meko ingathandekiyo kumagumbi enkundla bekhetha ukuba bafuna ukuhlala notata wabo okanye umama wabo.
Kulungile kakhulu ukuba umntwana wakho ahlale kule mfazwe yemihlaba yezigcayiseli oyenzileyo kunye nowakho wangaphambili.
Endaweni yokuba nobabini nivumelane ngokwabelana abantwana bakho kunye ukuqinisekisa ukuba bayayonwabela indlela yokuphila eqhelekileyo. Zive ukhululekile ukuseta iintsuku ezifanelekileyo ezikulungeleyo abantwana kunye nabantwana bakho njengoMvulo kude kube ngooLwezithathu bechithe indawo kaMama kwaye ngoLwesine kude kube ngeCawa babelwe utata. Unokutshintsha ishedyuli amaxesha ngamaxesha ukubonelela umntwana wakho ngobudlelwane bomzali obulungeleleneyo.
Yeka ukwenza iyelenqe ngokuchasene ne-ex yakho
Ayisiyomfihlo ukuba uyalidelela iqabane lakho langaphambili ngexabiso elincomekayo lomdla, kodwa loo nto ayikuthetheleli ngokuthoba isimilo sabo phambi kwabantwana bakho. Le yintshukumo yokubetha kancinci xa abantu beqhekeza isiqingatha sabo, umntwana wakho akalufuni olohlobo lokuvezwa okuyingozi.
Ewe uyabulala, kwaye ewe umntu wakho wakudala kungenzeka ukuba wayeliqabane elibi. Kodwa uya kuzinxila kuphela ngentiyo uze ungcolise iingqondo zabantwana bakho ezingenakuthanani nenzondo.
Nika indlela kwintengiselwano evulekileyo yencoko yababini
Unxibelelwano yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye nokuba nomjelo wonxibelelwano ovulekileyo apho okusingqongileyo kukhuselekile ukuthetha kubalulekile, ngakumbi kwindlu eqhekekileyo.
Yiva abantwana bakho ngaphandle kwayo nantoni na abafuna ukuyithetha okanye indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kule ntsapho intsha, bamkele ukuba bazivakalise ngokukhululekileyo kwaye babe nokwamkela.
Ngokumalunga ne-ex yakho kunye nawe, yenza imeko enembeko apho nobabini ninokuthetha malunga nokuhamba kwakho okulandelayo okanye nixoxe ngamashishini osapho abalulekileyo ngaphandle kokuphikisana ngayo nantoni na.
Fikelela kuncedo lweengcali
Akukho hlazo ekufikeleleni kwingcali ngeli xesha linzima lokudinga; ukubonisana nonyango lweentsapho okanye umcebisi unokukunika isikhokelo kunye nenkxaso eninzi.
Ezi meko sele zinzima ukusingatha, kwaye akukho mthetho uthi kufuneka uyenze wedwa.
Cwangcisa ukuqeshwa ngeveki okanye ngenyanga kunye nonyango losapho kwaye uphawule inkqubela yakho, uxoxe nangaluphi na unxunguphalo okanye uxinzelelo, sombulula izisombululo kwiingxaki ezinxulumene nembambano. Kuya kuba luncedo kuphela kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo ngokuya kwiseshoni yekhatati, kwaye abantwana bakho baya kuba nakho ukubeka umthwalo wabo kwaye baphucule naziphi na iingxaki zengqondo ezibakhathazayo. Iya kuba kukuphucula usapho lwakho ukuthatha inyathelo elinje.