Umxholo
- 1. Ndiyazithanda
- 2. Ndifuna ukonwaba
- 3. Ukubabiza ngamagama
- 4. Ndihlala ndizithiyile iinwele / ilizwi / umzimba wabo
- 5. Ndizakufumana umntu ongcono
Ukwahlukana kunokuba sisigqibo esibuhlungu kakhulu.
Uninzi lwabantu lunokuvela kuyo ngokwesiqhelo, nangona kunjalo, ukuphela kobudlelwane bothando kunokukhokelela ekusebenzeni komzimba omzimba obuthathaka, kwiingcinga ezingafunekiyo, nasekulaleni. Ngelixa uphakathi koqhawulo-mtshato, nkqu nabona bantu basebenza nzima nabakhuthazayo banexesha elinzima lokuphela ngalo kunye nokuqhubeka nobomi babo.
Ngoku ngexesha lokwahlukana, usenokuba unoxinzelelo kwaye ucinga nokuzibulala; ngakumbi ukuba unamathele kakhulu emntwini. Nangona kunjalo, xa ezi ngcinga zokwahlukana zingasakukhathazi, kuya kufuneka utshintshele kwezinye iingcinga ezisempilweni eziya kukunceda uqhubeke.
Ukuba uyahlukana kwaye kufuneka uzikhethele kuya kufuneka uzikhumbuze kaninzi ngezi ngcinga zilandelayo:
1. Ndiyazithanda
Ngokuqinisekileyo oku kuyitshisi kwaye kuyathandeka kodwa kuyasithemba, kuyasebenza.
Ukuzithanda kubaluleke kakhulu kuba ekupheleni kosuku nokuba uza kubani ebomini bakho ukuba uyazithanda, akukho mntu unokukuhlisa.
Uyaziphendulela ngezigqibo nezenzo zakho kunye nesiphumo sesi senzo.
Ukuba uyazithanda, uya kuba nolawulo olupheleleyo lweemvakalelo zakho kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kuthobela esinye isidenge esithe sahlukana nawe ngomyalezo obhaliweyo.
2. Ndifuna ukonwaba
Ngoku, oku kunokubonakala ngathi yenye ingcinga ebubudenge kunye nombuzo osisimumu njengongafuniyo ukonwaba? Kodwa ingxaki namhlanje kukuba abantu abaninzi abaya ekwahlukaneni abafuni konwaba. Bayeka izinto ezincinci zibaphazamise kwaye bazulazule ngomsindo omfutshane kakhulu.
Bayaphambana zizinto ezingenamsebenzi kuba belibele kukonwaba.
Okanye abafuni konwaba kwakhona. Ukuzikhumbuza malunga nokonwaba kwaye nokuzama ukuncuma kunokunika ukoneliseka kwangaphakathi okudingayo. Ukonwaba kunokukunceda uqhubeke ngendlela esempilweni.
3. Ukubabiza ngamagama
Ngoku asikuthandi ukuqalekisa konke konke, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukusebenzisa ulwimi olubi kunokuba kuhle kuwe.
Ukuthuka iqabane lakho ngokwahlukana nawe ulibize ngazo zonke iintlobo zamagama kunokukuzisela ulwaneliseko olungafani nolunye. Ungayihleba, uyicinge okanye uyikhwaze kodwa ukuyikhupha konke kuya kunceda ekuthomalaliseni iintlungu.
4. Ndihlala ndizithiyile iinwele / ilizwi / umzimba wabo
Khumbula eyona nto ikucaphukisayo malunga nokunye kwakho okubalulekileyo okusoloko kukukhathaza, kodwa awuzange uvume ngokwakho oko kuba wawuthandana naye.
Ewe kuba awusekho kunye, lixesha lokuba uchithe ubumdaka. Beka phantsi izibuko zakho zothando kwaye uzibuze ukuba yintoni eyona nto ikutsalele kuye. Nokuba kukho into encinci njengomswane wakhe ocaphukisayo, yamkele. Oku kuya kunceda ekwenzeni ukuba uqaphele ukuba i-ex-yakho yayingafezekanga njengoko ucinga ukuba wayenjalo.
Esi siphoso siya kunceda ekwenzeni uqhubeke.
5. Ndizakufumana umntu ongcono
Ngoku, la magama kunokuba nzima kakhulu kuwe ukuwathetha ingakumbi ukuba ubunenkolelo yokuba umntu wakho wangaphambili ngumphefumlo wakho. Ndithembe, wonke umntu ebekhona, kwaye eli binzana kunokuba yeyona nto inzima ukuyithetha kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu.
Zikhumbuze ngento yokuba ewe, uya kudibana nomntu ongcono, oku akunakuphepheka. Kwiinyanga ezine okanye unyaka ukusukela ngoku, uya kujonga ngaphezulu kwegxalaba lakho kwaye ufumane umntu ongcono ekulindile. Lo mntu uya kuba nobubele nothando kwaye aqole ngakumbi.
Baya kuba yinto echaseneyo ne-ex yakho, kwaye awuyi kuphinda ukhumbule ixesha lakho elidlulileyo. Ke kubalulekile ukuba uzikhumbuze ngento ekufaneleyo.
Uyazikhumbuza ngento ephethwe likamva kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ufanelekile ngaphezulu ukuze ungaze ulungiselele nantoni na engaphantsi.
Le ngcinga ibaluleke kakhulu xa uhamba usuka ekwahlukaneni.
Ukufumana ukophuka kwentliziyo, kufuneka utshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo. Oku akuthethi ukuba indlela ocinga ukuba ayilunganga, kuthetha nje ukuba kufuneka uziphazamise ngendlela umntu owayekade engahlali ezingqondweni zakho.
Ukucinga malunga nezinto ezichazwe kweli nqaku kuyakonwabisa kwaye uqhubeke ngendlela esempilweni. Qiniseka ukuba uzikhumbuze amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuba ulufanele lonke ulonwabo emhlabeni kwaye kungekudala uzakuqhubeka kweli xesha linzima lobomi bakho.