Umxholo
- 1) Ukuthatha umphefumlo onzulu
- 2) Ukuchaza umzuzu, usebenzisa uvelwano kunye nokuchaza indawo okuyo
- 3) Ukuthatha ikhefu
- 1) Ukuthatha umphefumlo onzulu
- 2) Vakalisa uvelwano
- 3) Zibuze "Kutheni ndizenza ukuba ndizive ndikhathazekile yile nto?"
- 4) Usebenzisa amagama akho ukunceda iqabane lakho liqonde indawo yakho
Unxibelelwano yenye yazo, ukuba ayingoyena mntu ubalulekileyo kubudlelwane. Yintoni kunye nezinto ekuthiwa zidlala indima enkulu kwimpilo yobudlelwane. Kwanale ubudlelwane obuphilileyo, kukho ukungavisisani. Abantu ababini banamava ahlukeneyo kunye nemibono kwizinto kwaye ngelixa benokunxibelelana kwaye bethetha ngayo, into ethethwayo inokulahleka kuguqulo.
Amagqabantshintshi enziwa ngapha nangapha, omnye umntu uyacaphuka kwaye iqabane lakhe lithi, "Zolile." Amagama amabini amancinci athi xa kuthethwa phakathi kwengxoxo eshushu kufana nokukhanyisa umdlalo kwaye uwuphose kudaka lwepetroli. Ngokwesiqhelo, izinto ziyenyuka ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunzima ukuba umntu A aqonde ukuba kutheni umntu B ecaphukile kwaye umntu B akakwazi ukuveza ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni kuphazamisile.
Ke nantsi into. Ngelixa la magama ngokwawo engacetyelwanga ukuba angalunganga okanye abe yingozi, kule meko baneziphumo ezingathandekiyo. Ukuthetha oku phakathi kwempikiswano kunokuziva ngathi kuyakhatywa kwaye kuqhutywa ziimfuno, kuyafana nokuthi "Yicime" eyona nto banokuyivuma ayincedisi kwaphela kule meko. Ke, wenza ntoni ngayo?
Ukuba ungumntu A kwaye ufumanisa ukuba uhlala usitsho, kuhlala kungenxa yokuba ubona ukukhathazeka iqabane lakho elijamelana nalo kwaye ngenxa yokuba uyakhathala, ufuna ukunika intuthuzelo kwaye uvumele indawo ukucoca ukungabikho koqhakamshelwano nokusombulula umba. Kwixesha elizayo, qaphela:
1) Ukuthatha umphefumlo onzulu
Ihlala iluncedo kwaye ikunika ithuba lokulawula iimvakalelo zakho ngaphambi kokuba uthethe.
2) Ukuchaza umzuzu, usebenzisa uvelwano kunye nokuchaza indawo okuyo
Zama ukuthetha into efana nokuthi “Ndiyabona ukuba uyacaphuka kwaye yayingezonjongo zam. Makhe ndichaze bhetele ukuba ndithetha ukuthini. ”
3) Ukuthatha ikhefu
Ihlehlisa incoko ukuze inyuse amathuba okuba nencoko eluncedo ngakumbi. Ungathetha into enje ngokuba "Mhlawumbi okwangoku ayiloxesha elifanelekileyo lokuba nale ncoko. Andifuni ukuba omnye wethu akhathazeke okanye axabane. Singathetha ngayo ...? ” Isivumelwano nale kukuba kuya kufuneka unike igama ixesha elithile. Ungayivumeli ihlale ngaphandle kwesisombululo.
Ukuba ungumntu B kwaye kuthethwe njalo kwaye uziva ngathi unomlilo ngaphakathi, zama:
1) Ukuthatha umphefumlo onzulu
Inceda ekulawuleni iimvakalelo kwaye ikusindise kwintloni kamva xa usenza intetho engathandekiyo (nangona ungenanjongo).
2) Vakalisa uvelwano
Ngelixa kunokuba nzima ngalo mzuzu, kuhlala kukho injongo yako. Sithi “Ndiziva ndicaphukile kwaye ndiyazi ukuba uzama ukundenza ndizive ngcono. Masithathe inyathelo ukubuyela emva kwaye siqale ngokutsha. ” Kuphephe ukudibanisa igama elithi "kodwa" kule meko kuba uyayilahla into ozama ukuyifeza kwaye akubuyisele kwipateni efanayo yokubuyela umva nokubeka ityala.
3) Zibuze "Kutheni ndizenza ukuba ndizive ndikhathazekile yile nto?"
Lo ngumbuzo onomdla kuba ubuyisela ujoliso kuwe kunye nendlela oyitolika ngayo imeko kunye nento ethethwayo. Ngelixa isihloko kunye nezinye zezinto ezithethwayo ziyacaphukisa, ungalawula ukuziva ukhathazekile kwaye usebenze ngokudakumba kwakho kwincoko neqabane lakho nxamnye nokuba nomsindo kunye nokunxibelelana gwenxa kuguqukele emfazweni.
4) Usebenzisa amagama akho ukunceda iqabane lakho liqonde indawo yakho
“Xa oku kusenzeka, kubangela iziphumo. Ndiziva ndikhathazekile ngenxa yokuba [gcwalisa okungenanto]. Ndiziva ndingcono / ndingacaphukanga / ndingenaxinzelelo xa ... Akukho mntu ugqibelele kwaye ubudlelwane bunamaxesha anzima. Cofa ekuthembeni nakukhathalelo okholelwa ukuba lukhona kubudlelwane bakho, hlala kude nesigwebo kunye nomdlalo wokugxeka, thatha umphefumlo onzulu kwaye ucofe iqhosha lokuqalisa kwakhona amaxesha amaninzi njengoko ufuna.