Umxholo
- 1. Ukutyala imali kwiqabane lakho
- 2. Ukubeka imfuno yakho ukuba ilunge
- 3. Ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo
- 4. Ungazilibali iimfuno zakho
- 5. Ukubeka iinjongo kunye
Ubunye emtshatweni linqanaba elinzulu lobudlelwane kunye nokunxibelelana isibini esinaso omnye komnye kunye noThixo. Izibini zihlala ziphulukana nemvo yobunye, enokuthi ngokuthe ngcembe ibangele ukonakala komtshato. Umtshato ayisiyokuzibophelela kwiqabane lakho, kodwa luhambo lokwakha ubomi kunye.
IGenesis 2:24 yabelana ngala “mabini aba banye” kwaye uMarko 10: 9 ubhala oko uThixo akumanyileyo "makungahlukaniswa mntu." Nangona kunjalo, iimfuno ezikhuphisanayo zobomi zihlala zihlulahlula obu bunye uThixo abenzelwe umtshato.
Nazi iindlela ezi-5 zokusebenza kubunye kunye neqabane lakho:
1. Ukutyala imali kwiqabane lakho
Akukho mntu ufuna ukuba ngowokugqibela kuluhlu lwezinto eziphambili. Xa izinto eziza kuqala ebomini ezikhuphisanayo zikhula, kulula ukuzifumana utyiwe yile micimbi. Sisoloko sifumanisa ukuba sizinika okona kulungileyo sinako kwimisebenzi yethu, ebantwaneni nakubahlobo. Nokuba sithatha inxaxheba kwizinto ezintle nezibonakala zingenabungozi esizenzayo ebomini bethu, njengokuzinikela ecaweni okanye ukuqeqesha umdlalo webhola ekhatywayo yomntwana, ngokulula kungasusa elo xesha lixabisekileyo kwiqabane lethu. Oku kunokubangela ukuba abatshati bethu babe nentsalela kuphela ekupheleni kosuku. Ukuthatha ixesha lokunika ingqalelo esemgangathweni kwiimfuno zomlingane wethu ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomoya kuya kunceda ukubonisa ukuba uyakhathala kwaye banomdla. Ukubonisa oku kunokubandakanya ukuthatha imizuzu eli-15 ukubuza ngeziganeko zosuku lwabo, ukupheka isidlo esikhethekileyo, okanye ukubamangalisa ngesipho esincinci. Le yimizuzu emincinci eya kuthi ikhule kwaye ikhule umtshato wakho.
Kuba apho bukhona ubutyebi benu, yoba lapho nentliziyo yenu. ” UMateyu 6:21
2. Ukubeka imfuno yakho ukuba ilunge
Ndakhe ndaxelela isigulana ukuba uqhawulo mtshato lubiza imali eninzi kunokuba lunge. Kwimfuno yethu yokulunga, siphela sikhubaza amandla ethu okuphulaphula oko amaqabane ethu azama ukunxibelelana nathi. Sibambe ngxi malunga nendlela esivakalelwa ngayo, emva koko sizibandakanye nekratshi lethu, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo siqinisekile ukuba "silungile". Kodwa, kulunge ngantoni ukuba lilungelo emtshatweni? Ukuba simanyene emtshatweni wethu, akukho lungelo kuba sele sisinye kunokuba sikhuphisane. UStephen Covey wacaphula amazwi athi, “funa kuqala uqonde, emva koko uqondwe.” Ngexesha elizayo xa ungavumelani neqabane lakho, nigqibe ekubeni ninikezele ngentswelo yenu yokuba nilungile, kumzamo wokuva nokuqonda imbono yeqabane lakho. Cinga ukhetho lobulungisa kunokuba ulunge!
“Yibani nothando omnye komnye. Bekanani ngakumbi. ” KwabaseRoma 12:10
3. Ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo
Ukuqala incoko ngo “Ndiyakhumbula xa u ...” kubonisa ukuqalisa kabuhlungu kunxibelelwano lwakho neqabane lakho. Ukukhumbula iintlungu zangaphambili kunokubangela ukuba sizithwale kwiingxabano ezizayo kunye neqabane lethu. Sinokubambelela ngenqindi yentsimbi kokungekho sikweni okusenzileyo kuthi. Ngokwenza njalo, sinokusebenzisa oku kungabikho kokusesikweni njengesixhobo xa kusongezwa ezinye izinto. Emva koko sinokukugcina oku kungabikho kokusesikweni, kodwa siphinde sikuveze kwakhona kwixesha elizayo xa siziva sinomsindo kwakhona. Ingxaki ngale ndlela kukuba ayisokuze isiqhubele phambili. Ixesha elidlulileyo lisigcina similiselwe. Ke, ukuba ufuna ukuqhubela phambili kunye neqabane lakho kwaye nenze "ubunye," kungalixesha lokuba uyeke elidlulileyo. Ngexesha elizayo xa uhendelwa ukuba uveze iintlungu okanye imiba evela kwixesha elidlulileyo, zikhumbuze ukuba uhlale kumzuzu wangoku kwaye ujongane neqabane lakho ngokufanelekileyo
“Zilibele izinto zangaphambili; musa ukuhlala kwixesha elidlulileyo. ” UIsaya 43:18
4. Ungazilibali iimfuno zakho
Ukuba negalelo nokunxibelelana neqabane lakho kuthetha ukuba wazi ukuba ungubani na kunye neemfuno zakho. Xa siphulukana nomnqweno wokuba singobani, kunokuba nzima ukuba ungubani kwimeko yomtshato. Kusempilweni ukuba neengcinga kunye nezimvo zakho. Kusempilweni ukuba nomdla ongaphandle kwekhaya lakho nasemtshatweni. Ngapha koko, ukuzikhangela kwiminqweno yakho kunokwenza umtshato wakho uphile kwaye uphile. Ingenzeka njani le nto? Njengoko ufumanisa ngakumbi ukuba ngubani kwaye yintoni umdla wakho, oku kwakha isiseko sangaphakathi, ukuzithemba, kunye nokuzazi ngokwakho, onokukuzisa emtshatweni wakho. Umqolomba kukuqiniseka ukuba le midla ayibeki phambili kunomtshato wakho.
"... nantoni na oyenzayo, yenzele uzuko lukaThixo yonke into." Eyoku-1 kwabaseKorinte 10:31
5. Ukubeka iinjongo kunye
Khawucinge ngebali lakudala elithi “izibini ezithandaza kunye zihlala kunye.” Ngokunjalo, izibini ezibekela iinjongo kunye, ziyafezekisa kunye. Cwangcisa ixesha apho wena neqabane lakho niza kuhlala phantsi nithethe malunga nekamva elikuphathele lona nobabini. Ngawaphi amanye amaphupha onqwenela ukuwafeza kule minyaka, 1, okanye 5 izayo? Yeyiphi indlela yokuphila ofuna ukuba nayo xa uthatha umhlalaphantsi kunye? Kubalulekile ukuba ujonge rhoqo iinjongo ozibekele neqabane lakho, ukuvavanya nokuxoxa ngohambo endleleni, kunye nokulungiswa ekufuneka kwenziwe njengoko uqhubela phambili kwikamva.
“Ndiyazazi izicwangciso endinazo ngani, itsho iNkosi, ndiceba ukuba niphumelele, ndinganenzakalisi, ndicinga ukuninika ithemba nekamva.” UYeremiya 29:11