Umxholo
- 1. Sebenzisa intonga
- 2. Buzanani imibuzo
- 3. Ziqhelanise ukubonwa ngamazwi omnye komnye
- 4. Cima ifowuni yakho
- 5. Bhalanani ileta
Iingxaki zonxibelelwano emtshatweni zinokuvela nakweyona mitshato yomeleleyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sonke singabantu, kwaye akukho namnye kuthi ofunda ingqondo.
Ukungaqondani, iimvakalelo ezibuhlungu, kunye neendawo eziphosakeleyo ziyinxalenye yobudlelwane boluntu, kwaye umtshato awufani.
Ukujongana nemiba yoqhakamshelwano emtshatweni kwakamsinya nje ukuba kuvele ubuchule obuxabisekileyo kumtshato wakho nakwikamva lakho kunye.
Kulula kakhulu ukuba iingxaki zonxibelelwano emtshatweni zikhule zize zijike zibe yinzondo, kwaye ubuhlungu obuzelwe kudala.
Uyazi xa ubethe ingxaki yonxibelelwano ngobuhlobo, kukho imvakalelo yokuxhalaba kunye nento engonelisiyo.
Usenokuba ulwa kakhulu kunesiqhelo, okanye ungathethi kakhulu konke konke. Nihlala nilahlekana nentsingiselo yomnye nomnye. Izicelo ziyaphoswa, ukungaqondani kuxhaphakile, kwaye kungabanga thuba lide, nobabini niziva nikhathazekile.
Usenokuzibuza nokuba lixesha lokwahlukana okanye lokuqhawula umtshato.
Ngamanye amaxesha eyona ndlela yokusombulula ingxaki yonxibelelwano emtshatweni kukuthatha indlela entsha. Mhlawumbi ukhe wazama icebiso lesiqhelo elithi “thethani nje omnye komnye” okanye “zamani ukuqonda imbono yomnye umntu.”
Akukho nto igwenxa kuloo nto - ngapha koko, ukuthetha nokumamela ziindlela zonxibelelwano ezisebenzayo kunye nesiseko sonxibelelwano oluhle emtshatweni- kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, imeko ifuna into eyahlukileyo.
Bukela le vidiyo ukuze wazi iindlela ezi-3 ezilula zokuphucula unxibelelwano emtshatweni wakho.
Ukuba unengxaki yokunqongophala konxibelelwano kubudlelwane okanye ukunqongophala konxibelelwano emtshatweni, zama enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi zihlanu zovavanyo olungalindelekanga kwizibini zokucombulula iingxaki zonxibelelwano emtshatweni.
1. Sebenzisa intonga
Oku kuvakala kuphume kancinci emgceni kwaye kunokubangela imifanekiso yokudanisa ujikeleze umlilo wekampu kunye neentsiba kwizinwele zakho ngelixa unxibe isiketi se-boho kodwa usinyamezele okomzuzwana.
Intonga yokuthetha ithetha ukuba kuphela ngumntu ophethe intonga onokuthetha. Ewe kunjalo, ayifanelanga ukuba ibe yintonga yokoqobo, kwaye awunyanzelekanga ukuba ubethe ihippie emporium ekufuphi kuwe (ngaphandle kokuba leyo yinto yakho, kwimeko leyo, yiya kuyo).
Khetha ngokulula into kwaye uvume ukuba nabani na oyibambayo, nguye othethayo, omnye umntu umamele.
Kubalulekile ukuba ungahanjiswa kwaye ujike intonga yokuthetha ibe yintonga ebambekayo. Yitsho isiqwenga sakho, emva koko usinike ngobubele kwaye uvumele iqabane lakho ukuba libe nokujika.
Enye inguqulelo yale ndlela iya kuba kukuseta ixesha lesikhathi ekuvunyelwene ngaso (inokuba yimizuzu emi-5 okanye eli-10), kwaye elowo kuni afumane ithuba lokuthetha isiqwenga sakhe ngelixa elinye limamele.
2. Buzanani imibuzo
Unxibelelwano ngundoqo kubudlelwane, kwaye asking omnye komnye yindlela entle yokuphucula unxibelelwano emtshatweni. Kulula kakhulu ukucinga ukuba iqabane lethu licinga ntoni kwaye sisekele iimvakalelo zethu kunye nezigqibo kuloo nto.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba babecinga enye into ngokupheleleyo? Ungathini xa ucinga ukuba khange bakhuphe inkunkuma kuba bayonqena xa inyani kukuba bediniwe? Ekuphela kwendlela onokufumanisa ngayo kukubabuza.
Hlalani phantsi neqabane lakho nibolekisane ukubuzana imibuzo kwaye nimamele ngokwenene iimpendulo. Ungabuza malunga nemicimbi ethile onayo, okanye ubuze imibuzo ngokubanzi ukuze ube nomkhwa wokumamela.
3. Ziqhelanise ukubonwa ngamazwi omnye komnye
Thembeka, ngaba ukhe wacima xa iqabane lakho lithetha? Okanye uzibone sele ulinde ngomonde ithuba lakho lokuthetha?
Sonke senze uluhlu olukhawulezayo lokwenza ngelixa elinye iqabane lethu lithetha ngamanye amaxesha.
Ayisiyonto imbi ukuyenza-ibonisa nje ukuba iingqondo zethu zixakekile kwaye kuninzi ekufuneka sikwenzile-kodwa ayilunganga indlela yokunxibelelana ngcono kubudlelwane.
Endaweni yokuvumela ingqondo yakho ibhadule, zama ‘Ukulinganisa’ njenge unxibelelwano ngomtshato ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho.
Kulo msebenzi, elowo kuni uyatshintshana ukumamela omnye, kwaye xa isithethi sangoku senziwe, umphulaphuli wenza isipili kumazwi abo.
Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuthetha ngononophelo lwabantwana, unokumamela ngononophelo kwaye uzibuyisele umva “Kwinto endiyivayo, ndiba ngathi uziva ngathi uthatha olona xanduva lokukhathalela abantwana, kwaye lonto iyakuxinzelela uphumile? ”
Yenza oku ngaphandle komgwebo. Mamela nje kunye nesipili. Nobabini niya kuziva nisebenza ngakumbi kwaye nibe nokuqonda okunzulu omnye nomnye, naye.
4. Cima ifowuni yakho
Iifowuni zethu zikho kuyo yonke indawo kwezi ntsuku kangangokuba ukuskrola kuzo okanye ukuphendula yonke into oyivayo iba yinto yesibini.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba likhoboka lethu kweefowuni kunokudlala konakalisa ubudlelwane bethu kwaye kunokubangela ukunxibelelana emtshatweni.
Ukuba uhlala kwifowuni yakho, okanye uphazamisa incoko eqhubekayo "jonga nje" xa usiva isaziso, kunzima ukubakho ngokupheleleyo neqabane lakho.
Ukuphazamiseka kuba yindlela yobomi, kwaye oko kubangela iingxaki zonxibelelwano emtshatweni.
Zama ukucima iifowuni zakho ngexesha ekuvunyelwene ngalo, njengeyure ubusuku ngabunye, okanye rhoqo ngeCawa emva kwemini.
5. Bhalanani ileta
Ukucinga ukuba unxibelelana njani ngobudlelwane okanye unxibelelana njani neqabane lakho?
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuthetha into ofuna ukuyithetha, okanye ujonge kwinto ekufuneka iqabane lakho likuxelele.
Ukubhala ileta yindlela entle yokugxila kwiingcinga nakwiimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ungacinga ngendlela onokuzibonakalisa ngayo, ke ucacile kwaye uthembekile ngaphandle kokuba ukhohlakele okanye ube nomsindo.
Ukufunda ileta kufuna ukugxila kunye nokugxila kwaye kukhuthaze ukuba umamele amazwi eqabane lakho. Nje khumbula ukugcina iileta zakho zihloniphekile kwaye zithambile-ayizizo izithuthi zokukhupha udano.
Iingxaki zonxibelelwano emtshatweni azichazi intshabalalo kubudlelwane, ngakumbi umtshato. Zama ezinye iindlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye kungekudala, uya kufunda ukunxibelelana ngokucacileyo kwaye ujongane nemicimbi yakho kunye.