Umxholo
- 1. Ziqhelise ukuphinda uhlaziye iingcinga zakho
- 2. Ziqhelanise nengqondo
- 3. Sebenza kunxibelelwano lwakho
Kunokuba nzima ukukholelwa ukuba ulonwabo lunokuzikhethela. Abanye abantu bakwi-mindset ukuba indlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngokweemeko zethu ziqhelekile kwaye kuba asisoloko sikhetha iimeko zethu, impendulo yethu yindlela yokuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo kwiimeko.
Ubomi buzaliswe ngamava, amanye awo anokunika uvuyo olungathethekiyo kunye nolunye usizi olunganyamezelekiyo. Ngelixa ungasoloko uguqula iimeko zakho, unokuchaphazela indlela ophendula ngayo. Iingcinga onempembelelo kuzo ngqo kwindlela oziva ngayo. Ukuze utshintshe indlela oziva ngayo malunga nento oyifunayo kufuneka ucinge ngendlela ocinga ngayo. Le yinto ethatha ukuziqhelanisa, ixesha kunye nomzamo. Ngapha koko, sisakhono osikhulisayo oko kuthetha ukuba uya usiba ngcono kokukhona usisebenzisa. Izibonelelo zalo mkhuba ziwugqibe kakhulu umsebenzi obandakanyekayo kule nkqubo yokutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo ukuze uzive ngokwahlukileyo. Ezinye zezinto eziluncedo zokwazi malunga nendlela onokukhetha ngayo ukonwaba ngakumbi kuwe kwaye ekugqibeleni ubudlelwane bakho.
1. Ziqhelise ukuphinda uhlaziye iingcinga zakho
Indlela esicinga ngayo ngezinto zichaphazela indlela esivakalelwa ngayo. Ingqondo iqhuba iintlungu ngokwasemoyeni nangokwasemzimbeni ngeendlela ezifanayo. Oku kuthetha ukuba nasemva kokuba iintlungu zimkile, inkumbulo yentlungu ihleli. Engqondweni, iintlungu zomlenze owaphukileyo kunye noxinzelelo lwentliziyo eyaphukileyo zabelana kakhulu ngesekethe efanayo. Ngelixa amanye amava (okanye abantu) anokuthintelwa amanye awaphepheki ngokulula.
Thatha ixesha lokuvavanya kwaye uphinde wenze indlela ocinga ngayo malunga namava akho kunye nolwalamano olubalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Ukuphinda usebenze kwakhona kubandakanya ukuchonga iingcinga zakho ezingancediyo kwaye ubeke endaweni yazo ezona zilungileyo okanye eziguqukayo. Amava ngokwawo akatshintshi kodwa indlela ocinga kwaye uziva ngayo inako. Ngaba unengcinga yokwenyani kwaye eguqukayo? Okanye ngaba iingcinga zakho ziyazoyisa, zingenangqondo okanye zinombala ngomsindo? Ukuba uqala ukucinga ngokwahlukileyo, uya kuziva ngokwahlukileyo. Ngokucinga ngendlela esempilweni kunye neyakhayo ngakumbi ukhetha ulonwabo kunye noxolo ngokwakho.
2. Ziqhelanise nengqondo
Ngexesha lobudlelwane bakho, kunokubakho izinto ezenziwa liqabane lakho okanye ezithi uziqwalasele ukuba ziyakukhathaza okanye zibenengxaki kubudlelwane bakho. Unokuziqhelanisa nengqondo ngaloo mizuzu ukuze ukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho. Ingqondo yimeko yokuqwalaselwa okusebenzayo nangokuzimisela okwangoku. Ukuziqhelanisa nokukhathalela ingqondo kunokukuvumela ukuba ulawule indlela oziva ngayo xa unomsindo okanye wenzakalise iqabane lakho. Abantu abatshatileyo abanengqondo banolwalamano olwanelisayo ngakumbi njengoko besilwa kancinane, benendlela encinci yokuzikhusela kwaye bahlala bodwa.
3. Sebenza kunxibelelwano lwakho
Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo lukhokelela kumathuba amancinci okuxabana, ukuqonda ngakumbi iimfuno zomnye kunye nonxibelelwano olunzulu. Ukungabikho konxibelelwano sisizathu esiqhelekileyo sokungaphumeleli kubudlelwane kunye nokungoneliseki.
Amaxesha amaninzi emva kokuba kubudlelwane nomntu ixesha elide, izibini zihlala zakha umbono wokuba iimvakalelo zabo kunye neemfuno zabo kufuneka ziqondwe nje ngabanye kwaye akufuneki zivezwe. Ngelixa oku kunokuba yimeko yezinye izibini okanye kwezinye iimeko, iqabane lakho alingomfundi ngengqondo kwaye akufuneki balindelwe ukuba bazi zonke izinto ngawo onke amaxesha. Ayilulo ulindelo olusengqiqweni olo ke ukudideka kweemfuno ezingafezekiswanga kwaye kuya kwenzeka. Gcina unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo olungenasigwebo kwaye luxhasa. Izidingo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho zingatshintsha kwaye azihlali rhoqo ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ngokudibanisa ezi zinto zintathu zilula, unokwandisa amathuba okuba uxhulumaniso oluzalisekayo ngakumbi neqabane lakho ngokwandisa ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba. Ukonwaba kwakho kuxhomekeke kakhulu kwisimo sakho sengqondo kunokuba kuxhomekeke kwiimeko zangaphandle.
Nalu ulonwabo lwakho oluphambili kunye noxanduva lwakho!