Umxholo
- 1. Bavula iingcango zamava amatsha
- 2. Ukubonelela ngamathuba amaninzi okuphumelela kunye
- 1. Ayikwazi ukulandela iimfuno zakho
- 2. Ukubeka wena neemfuno zakho kuqala
- 1. Zama indlela 'yesandwich'
- 2. Lumka xa ugxeka
Uthanda ii-comedies zothando, kodwa iqabane lakho liyazithanda iintshukumo zeemovie. Ungumntu otya imifuno, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukutya inyama. Uyalithanda iqabane lakho, kodwa ungaziva ngathi awufani kwaphela. Ukuba anivumelani ngesidlo okanye i-movie, niya kukwazi njani ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nezinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini, njengakuqala nini usapho okanye ukuba nihlale phi?
Kukho iyantlukwano kulwalamano ngalunye. Isitshixo kukungaboni lo mahluko njengemithombo yongquzulwano, kodwa njengento yokuxabisa.
Kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukuyihlonipha kwaye uyihloniphe indlela iqabane lakho lahluke ngayo kuwe.
Kodwa, umahluko ubumba njani kwaye ubuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane bakho?
Ukwahluka kunceda njani ulwalamano lwakho
1. Bavula iingcango zamava amatsha
Njengabantu, kukwindalo yethu ukuba sithambekele kubantu abanomdla ofanayo. Ngelixa oku kuyasinceda kwaye kusinceda ngeendlela ezininzi, akusivumeli ukuba sihlangabezane nayo yonke into enokubonelelwa bubomi.
Umahluko kubudlelwane bakho, uya kuba nakho ukudibana nabantu kwaye wenze izinto eziza kutshintsha umbono wakho wehlabathi ukuba ube ngcono.
Ngokuzivula nokufumana ukubhencwa kwindlela eyahlukileyo yokuphila neyokuphila, siyakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezingcono nezifundiswe ngakumbi malunga noko sifuna ukukwenza ebomini bethu. La mava ohlukeneyo obomi asinceda ukuba sijonge ngaphaya kwento eqhelekileyo, isenza ukuba siziveze ngokupheleleyo kwaye sibekho ngakumbi kwihlabathi.
Unokuziva ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buyomelela ngenxa yomnqweno weqabane lakho lokuzama ezinye zezinto onomdla kuzo. Amava ekwabelwana ngawo anokuqhubeka nokusondeza, esomeleza umanyano olukhethekileyo enabelana ngalo.
2. Ukubonelela ngamathuba amaninzi okuphumelela kunye
Uya kumangaliswa zizinto onokuziphumeza xa nisebenzisa umahluko kunye. Umzekelo, ukuba awukwazi ukufumana izivumelwano ezilungileyo kodwa ungumbalo wezibalo, unokukhathalela uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali ngelixa iqabane lakho linokugqiba ukuba lenze ntoni ngalo.
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Ukuba namandla ongenalo iqabane lakho, kuyanceda ukomeleza ubudlelwane bakho kunye nolwalamano, okukunceda ukuba ufunde ngakumbi ngeqabane lakho.
Umngcipheko wokungafani kakhulu
1. Ayikwazi ukulandela iimfuno zakho
Ngelixa ukwabelana ngezinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto ozithandayo zinceda ukomeleza ubudlelwane bakho, umntu ngamnye usenamaxesha akhe adlulileyo kunye nomdla. Ukuba awukwazi ukulandela izinto ozithandayo, oko kunokubangela ukuba unciphise amandla kunye nokukhathazeka ngokwemihla ngemihla.
Olu xinzelelo lunokuchaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane bakho, oku kubangela ungquzulwano kunye nokuwa phakathi.
2. Ukubeka wena neemfuno zakho kuqala
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba imvakalelo yokusebenzisana kunye nokulalanisa sisiseko sobudlelwane obuyimpumelelo.
Abantu kufuneka bathathele ingqalelo iimfuno kunye neemfuno zamaqabane abo bazibeke phambili kunezabo.
Ulwalamano alunakulunga ukuba luphumelele ukuba abantu babeka iimfuno zabo kuqala, ngenxa yokuba ezinye zabo ezibalulekileyo ziya kudinwa kukungakhathalelwa kunye nokungahoywa ixesha elide.
Ukuba awukwazi ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho kwinqanaba elinzulu kakhulu ngenxa yeyantlukwano yakho, kuba nzima ukugcina uthando, ukuqonda, kunye nemvakalelo yokhuseleko kubudlelwane.
Ungawulawula njani umahluko kubudlelwane bakho
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba iingxabano ziyinxalenye yobudlelwane bonke. Nokuba umahluko yinto encinci njengawe, khetha ukulala uvule iwindow, kodwa iqabane lakho likhetha ukuba livaliwe, okanye into entsonkothileyo, njengokubakhulisa njani abantwana; Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba okona kubaluleke ngakumbi yindlela ozixazulula ngayo, hayi le nto ziyiyo.
1. Zama indlela 'yesandwich'
Sonke sijonge omnye obalulekileyo oza kusenza sizive sixabisekile, sithandwa, kwaye sinconywa. Kuba ukungavisisani kunye nokugxekwa kungazithomalalisa ezi mvakalelo, kubalulekile ukufumana iindlela zokuzibuyisela. Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukwenza 'isandwich.’
Isixhobo esibalulekileyo kwilizwe lezoshishino, isandwich kuthetha ukubeka izimvo ezimbi phakathi kwezi zimbini zilungileyo.
Umzekelo, 'Ubalasele ekufumaneni izisombululo kuzo zonke iintlobo zeengxaki. Kungakuhle ukuba ungasifumana isisombululo sokungalunganga kwigumbi lethu lokulala. Ndiyayithanda indlela oyinyamekela kakuhle ngayo ikati yethu. Ubonakala onwabile kwaye usempilweni! ' Nangona kunjalo, qiniseka ukuba ukuncoma okunikezelayo ngu inyani kwaye inyanisekile, okanye isandwich ayizukusebenza.
2. Lumka xa ugxeka
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba kuya kufuneka ugxeke imeko ethile okanye indlela oziphethe ngayo, hayi ubuntu beqabane lakho. Akuvelisi kakhulu ukukhalaza ngobuntu bakho obubalulekileyo, ikakhulu kuba omnye umntu uya kuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo ngokuzikhusela. Ukugxekwa okunje kuya kujongela phantsi iimvakalelo zokuthandwa nokuxabiseka eziyimfuneko kubudlelwane obomeleleyo nobusempilweni.