Umxholo
- Unyango oluthe cwaka xa kuthelekiswa nomdlalo wokukhwaza
- 1. Qiniseka ukuba bayayazi nengxaki leyo
- 2. Livume ityala lakho
- 3. Sebenzisa ulwimi lwakho utsho
- 4. Qiniseka ukuba abakuqondi kakuhle
- 5. Thatha ixesha
- 6. Cela uncedo lobungcali
- 7. Zithande iingxaki zakho
- Isithandwa asizifezekisi iimfuno zakho
“Andithethi nawe”
- "Kwenzeke ntoni?"
- / cwaka /
- Ndenze ntoni? ”
- / cwaka /
- "Ungayichaza into ekucaphukisileyo?"
- / cwaka /
“Andisathethi nawe, wohlwaywa, unetyala, undonile, kwaye kubi kwaye kubuhlungu kum kangangokuba ndivale zonke iindlela zokuxolela!
“Kutheni ndisebenza kubudlelwane bethu bona bengenzi?
Kutheni ndisiya phambili behleli nje phezu kwemigaqo kunye nenzondo, bengahoyi iimfuno zobudlelwane? ”
Xa ukufikelela ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane lakho kuvaliwe, xa bengasangenanga kuwe, xa bengakuhoyi kunye nengxaki uqobo, uziva ungenaluncedo kwaphela, ulilolo, ulahliwe, kwaye ungafunwa liqabane elingaxhasiyo.
Unokuziva ungakhathalelwanga kwaye unomsindo, kwaye unamava okungakwazi ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo, imvo yokuba lilize nokungabi nantlonelo.
Kwaye ukuba abazali bakho bebehlala benikezela ukungathethi cwaka ngexesha lempikiswano kunye neempikiswano, ukuba liqabane elingahambelaniyo endaweni yokulungisa izinto kubudlelwane xa wawusengumntwana, unokudideka, uxhalabise, kwaye ube nokothuka .
Unyango oluthe cwaka xa kuthelekiswa nomdlalo wokukhwaza
Andithethi nawe → Andikuhoyi → Awukho nje.
Ndiyakhala ndikhwaze → Ndinomsindo → Ndiyakubona kwaye ndiyasabela kuwe → Ukhona.
Esi sikimu asithethi ukuba kufuneka ubeke endaweni yokuthula ngezikhalazo kwaye uziqwalasele njengomsebenzi kubudlelwane bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, oko kuthetha ukuba ukungathethi kudla ngokuba kubi kakhulu kunomsindo, ukungxola, ukuxabana, nokuphikisana.
Logama nje utshintshiselana ngeemvakalelo- nokuba zikhona okanye zilungile- ngandlela thile uhlala unxibelelana neqabane lakho.
Ngethuba nje uqhubeka uthetha-kungakhathaliseki ukuba iingxoxo zakho zijolise kwi-I okanye zilandela imigaqo evela kwiincwadi zengqondo-nangona kunjalo, uqhubeka unxibelelana.
Ke, kubalulekile ukuba ubandakanyeke macala onke kwingxaki. Kodwa uza kuthini xa iqabane lakho lingasebenzi kulwalamano lwakho? Ungathini xa uneqabane elingasaxhasi- umfazi okanye indoda engavumi ukunxibelelana.
Ke, ulungisa njani ubudlelwane bakho?
Nanga amanyathelo angama-7 onokuwathatha ukukhuthaza iqabane lakho elingasekeliyo ukutyala ixesha labo kunye nomzamo kubudlelwane bakho:
Xa umyeni esala ukuthetha ngeengxaki
1. Qiniseka ukuba bayayazi nengxaki leyo
Ingavakala ingenangqondo kodwa iqabane lakho lisenokungazi ngengxaki oyibonayo kubudlelwane.
Khumbula, ukuba sahlukile kwaye ezinye izinto zinokungamkeleki kwenye kodwa ziqhelekile kwenye.
Gcina inkqubo yabo yexabiso, ingqondo, kunye nembono yehlabathi engqondweni kwaye uye kwinqanaba 2.
2. Livume ityala lakho
Ithatha ezimbini ukuya kwi-tango- nobabini ninoxanduva lwengxaki ethe yavela.
Ke, ngaphambi kokuqala ukuvakalisa uluhlu lwakho lwezikhalazo, Vuma isabelo sakho esikhulu okanye esincinci sokuziva unetyala.
Yithi kubo: “Ndiyazi ukuba andifezekanga. Ndiyavuma ngamanye amaxesha ndiyazingca / ndikrwada / ndijolise emsebenzini. Ungandixelela ezinye izinto ezikukhathazayo? Ngaba ungazenza uluhlu lweziphene zam? ”
Eli linyathelo lokuqala lokusondela, ukuqonda, kunye nokuthembela kubudlelwane bakho.
Kuphela kusemva kokuba uqale ukusebenza kwiimpazamo zakho kunye neqabane lakho elibona ukuba, unokubacela ukuba balungise ezabo indlela yokuziphatha naye Kwaye thaca uluhlu lwezinto ezikukhathazayo.
Jonga kwakhona:
3. Sebenzisa ulwimi lwakho utsho
Uninzi lwabantu alunakubuza kwaye luthethe phandle. Zizele ziingcinga zokuba iqabane labo linokuthelekelela iingcinga zabo kunye neemoods zakho ngokungeyonto.
Nangona kunjalo, ukudlala umdlalo wokuqikelela yeyona ndlela imbi yokusombulula ungquzulwano okanye ukubenzela into elungileyo. Ihlala iphela isenza ukuba umntu azive eneqabane elingayixhasiyo.
Akwanelanga ukwabelana ngengxaki yakho. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uxele ukuba leliphi iqabane lakho elinokukwenza ukukunceda:
MUSA: “Ndibuhlungu” (uyalila)
Ke, kufuneka ndenze ntoni?
YENZA: “Ndibuhlungu. Ungandanga? ”
MUSA: "Isini sethu siyadika"
YENZA: “Isini sethu siyadika ngamanye amaxesha. Masenze into yokuyi spice? Umzekelo, ndibone ... ”
4. Qiniseka ukuba abakuqondi kakuhle
Simamela njani kwaye simanyelwe?
Uqinisekisa njani ukuba bakuqonda ngokuchanekileyo kwaye baziva njani ngayo?
Zama obu buchule:
- Khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye nendawo efanelekileyo yengxoxo yakho. Umoya opholileyo kunye nomoya olungileyo ugqibelele.
- Babuze ukuba bakulungele ukuthetha.
- Xelela lonke ixhala lakho kwifomathi egxile ku-I: "Ndiziva ndikhubekile kuba ... Eso senzo sakho sandikhumbuza ... Ndifuna ukuba wenze ... Iya kundenza ndizive ... ndiyakuthanda"
- Buza ke ngoko ukuba bakuvile kwaye bayiqonda. Bayeke baphinde babalise into oyithethileyo. Unokumangaliswa kakhulu ukufumanisa ukuba kweli qabane iqabane elingasekeliyo linokutolika ngokupheleleyo onke amagama akho.
Uthi: “Ngaba ungachitha ixesha elininzi kunye nam?”
Beva: “Iyandicaphukisa le nto kwaye ndikutyhola ngokuchitha ixesha elininzi emsebenzini”
Kodwa khange uthethe kwaye khange uthethe!
5. Thatha ixesha
Emva kwengxabano okanye emva kwengxoxo ngengxaki yakho, thatha ixesha lokuzola, uyicingisise, kwaye ungathethi into ekhubekisayo.
Isisombululo sihlala sivela kwingcinga engahleliwe.
6. Cela uncedo lobungcali
Ukuze ubone le meko kwelinye icala, funda ukuziqonda ngokwakho, ujonge iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho, ufumane indlela kunye neengcambu zengxaki.
Funa uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuze ukwazi ukusebenza kubudlelwane bakho kunye, nokuba nobabini, okanye omnye kuni uziva ukuba uneqabane elingaxhasiyo.
7. Zithande iingxaki zakho
Musa ukoyika ukuvuma ukuba uneengxaki kubudlelwane bakho. Akukho ndawo yokwenza ngathi yonke into ilungile.
Nayiphi na ingxaki ngumqondiso wokuba isibini sakho siza kunyukela kwelinye inqanaba- kwaye lixesha lokuba wenze olu tshintsho, lixesha lokuba uphendule umbuzo ongxamisekileyo uphume kwindawo yakho yokuthuthuzela.
Ukuba nengxaki akukwenzi ube mbi-kukwenza uguquke njengesibini.
Umfazi uyala ukusebenza ngomtshato
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nokwenza ubudlelwane bakho busebenze kwaye ubandakanye wena nobabini kule tango:
- Musa ukutsiba kwizigqibo. Kungcono ubabuze ngethoni engathathi cala: “Uthetha ukuthini ...? Ngaba uyafuna ukuthi ...? Masiyixoxe ... ”
- Sukuyikhupha kwiqabane lakho. Akukho sidingo sokubanyathela ngokungcola. Intlungu oyibangelayo iya kuthi ngokuthe ngcembe ihlambe ubushushu kulwalamano lwakho.
- Thetha. Xa usela iti, ebhedini, ngelixa uhlamba umgangatho, emva kwesondo. Xoxa ngayo yonke into ekukhathazayo.
- Sukungxama kwindawo evuthuzayo yolwalamano lwakho. Hlonipha indawo yakho yabucala kwaye unike inkululeko kwiqabane lakho. Ishishini elahlukileyo, okanye izinto ozithandayo, okanye abahlobo ziyindlela elungileyo yokuphepha ukuxhomekeka kokuziphatha okungenampilo.
- Sukumbakraza ucango ukhwaza "ndiyahamba". Iya kwenza isiphumo kwiqabane lakho kuphela kumaxesha okuqala.
Isithandwa asizifezekisi iimfuno zakho
Ngaba kuhlala kufanelekile ukusebenza kubudlelwane?
Yeyiphi imiqondiso yokuba lixesha lokuba ushiye xa iqabane lakho lingazifezekisi iimfuno zakho?
Ngamanye amaxesha, ayikufanelanga ukusebenza kubudlelwane nokuba niyathandana.
Ukuba uyayiqonda into yokuba iivenkile zophuhliso lwakho zilandela iindlela ezahlukeneyo, unokwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo esiqhelekileyo soku nika omnye nomnye ithuba lokonwaba, kodwa nabanye abantu nakwezinye iindawo
Ngamanye amaxesha, kunokucaca ukuba awusenawo amandla okulwela le nto. Okanye akusekho mnqweno wokuba neqabane elingasekeliyo. Okanye akukho nto iseleyo ukuyilwela.
Ngaba kulungile ukuba:
- andikuhoyanga?
- ndikhwaze okanye sithuke?
- ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabesini esifanayo "ngabahlobo nje"?
- andikuva andithethi nawe?
- ayiphenduli imibuzo yakho?
- banyamalale iintsuku ezininzi kwaye bathi bebexakekile nje?
- uthi "andinakuphila ngaphandle kwakho" kwaye emva kwethutyana "andikudingi"?
- chitha ixesha, uncokole, kwaye ulale nawe kodwa ungathethi ngobuhlobo bakho?
- ukubeka izimvo kwinkangeleko yakho, iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo, izinto ozithandayo, izigqibo zakho ngendlela ekhubekisayo?
Endaweni yokubuza le mibuzo, phendula omnye. Ngaba kulungile kum?
Ukuba kulungile kuwe-landela iingcebiso zethu kwaye ulwele ubudlelwane bakho. Ukuba ayilunganga kuwe - vele ushiye.