Umxholo
Xa ndicinga ngegama elisempilweni, ndicinga ngemeko yokuphila kakuhle; into esebenza njengokufanele ukuba ikho; ukukhula nokukhula ngokufanelekileyo; Kwaye ndiqinisekile ungongeza ezinye iinkcazo.
Ndiza kudibanisa "ubudlelwane obuphilileyo" ngokuthi into ekhulayo, ikhule, kwaye isebenze ngendlela eyenzelwe ngayo.
Ndakhe ndeva umntu esithi "ukwakha ubudlelwane" are "Abantu ababini abanokwazi ukunxibelelana enqanaweni esiya kwindawo enye, ”Nantsi inkcazo yam epheleleyo yobudlelwane obuphilileyo.
Abantu ababini abanokwazi ukunxibelelana, besiya kwindawo enye, ngelixa bekhula, bekhula kwaye bekhula kunye ngendlela eyonyusa umgangatho kunye nemo yobomi bomnye nomnye. (wow, yinkcazo ende yobudlelwane obuphilileyo)
Izitshixo ezisixhenxe zobudlelwane obusempilweni
Kukho izitshixo ezisixhenxe endizifumene ngokwam ezisebenza kunye ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo ebomini bethu.
Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo buquka:
- Ukuhloniphana
- Ithemba
- Ukunyaniseka
- Inkxaso
- Ubulungisa
- Izazisi ezahlukileyo
- Unxibelelwano oluhle
Ukuhloniphana
Ukuba uthando luyindlela ezimbini, "unika kwaye wamkele", injalo nembeko.
Kukho amaxesha endicinga ukuba umfazi wam angakhathazeka malunga nezinto ezingenamsebenzi, ezona zingabalulekanga kulwalamano lwethu olunempilo.
Izinto ezinje ngala “mabhulukhwe mahlanu abonakala engcono ngale siketi?”, Ngelixesha sele silibekile ixesha lesivumelwano. Okwangoku ndizakucinga “Khetha nje sele” kodwa ngenxa yentlonipho ndingathi, “obomvu uncoma iinwele zakho, hamba nalo (usafaka oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka).
Inqaku yile, sonke sinoluvo lokuba iimvakalelo zomnye umntu, izimvo, ukukhathalela kunye nokuphendula ngamanye amaxesha kuyasidenge, ndiqinisekile ukuba umfazi wam uziva ngendlela efanayo malunga nezinye zam kodwa, thina hloniphanani ngokwaneleyo ukuba samkele iikhonsepthi zethu kunye neendlela zethu ezahlukeneyo, ngaphandle kokurhabaxa, ukuthukana nokungazicingeli iimvakalelo zomnye nomnye.
Ithemba
Into ekunokuba nzima ukuyifumana kwaye ilahleke ngokulula. Elinye lamanyathelo kubudlelwane obuphilileyo kukwakha nokugcina ukuthembana okungagungqiyo phakathi kwamaqabane.
Ngenxa yokuba uninzi lwethu luye lwenzakaliswa, lwaphathwa kakubi, lwaphathwa kakubi, lwabanobuhlobo obubi, okanye lafumana ubundlobongela kweli hlabathi ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthembana kwethu akuzi lula okanye kungabizi mali ininzi.
Uninzi lwethu, ukuthembela kwethu akufumaneki ngamazwi kuphela kodwa, ngokuzingqina kwethu rhoqo.
Kufuneka kubekho inqanaba lokuthemba kubo bonke ubudlelwane ukuze bakhule bephilile kwaye basebenze.
Ukuba umfazi wam uyaphuma nabahlobo kwaye uhlala emva kwexesha, ndingavumela ingqondo yam ukuba igcwale imibuzo emininzi eya kuphazamisa uxolo lwam kwaye indibeke kwimeko embi kakhulu xa ebuya. Ngaba wadibana nomnye umntu ngaphandle? Ngaba umhlobo wakhe usemfihlakalweni yakhe?
Ngelixa ndiqala ukungamthembi ngaphandle kwesizathu kwaye ndonyusa ukungazithembi kwam, ndikhetha ukungafuni.
Kuya kufuneka ndikhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndimthembe ukuba uyakugcina ukuzibophelela kwakhe kum nokuba sikunye okanye sahlukene, kwaye ndimnike igumbi lakhe ukuba likhule ngaphandle kokwenza ulwalamano lwethu nezinto endizicingayo kunye noloyiko ngaphandle kokuba andinike ubungqina obungenakuphikiswa bokungamthembi.
Ngenxa yokuthembana, ubudlelwane bethu buvulekile, bukhululekile, buyaqina kwaye buyathandeka nasemva kweminyaka eli-10.
Inkxaso
Inkxaso inokuza ngeendlela ezininzi kwaye ibanzi kakhulu ukuba ingene kwingxoxo epheleleyo apha kodwa, kukho inkxaso ngokwasemoyeni, inkxaso ngokwasemzimbeni, inkxaso engqondweni, inkxaso yokomoya, inkxaso yemali njl.
Ubudlelwane obusempilweni buvelisa imeko eshushu nexhasanayo apho sinokuzihlaziya kwaye sifumane amandla okuqhubeka imihla ngemihla. Umzekelo;
Ngezinye iintsuku uLonnie wayeza evela esikolweni edinwe eyimfe emva kosuku oludinisayo lokufundisa. Ndihlala ndibuza, "ibinjani imini yakho?," Eya kuthi ikhuphe ulwandlalo lwamaxhala, ukukhathazeka kunye neengxaki ezenzeke emini.
Oku kuya kuqhubeka okwethutyana njengoko ndiphulaphule ngokulula ngelixa uLonnie ekhupha iimvakalelo zakhe ezigciniweyo ukusuka kumhla wakhe ngaphandle kokugxeka okanye ukugweba.
Emva kokuba egqibile bendihlala ndimqinisekisa ukuba ungutitshala obalaseleyo kwaye wenza umsebenzi omangalisayo kunye nabantwana ababonakala ngathi bayazola ingqondo.
Siyaxhasana ngeendlela ezininzi ezisinceda ukuba sikhule kwaye sobabini sixhamle kubudlelwane kunye nenxalenye yobomi bomnye nomnye.
Oku kusibangela ukuba sisondele kunye kwaye kuphembelele umlilo wothando lwethu omnye komnye.
Ukunyaniseka
Ukukhula njengabantwana sasisithi, "ukunyaniseka yeyona nto ilungileyo," kodwa njengabantu abadala, sonke siye safunda ukuyifihla inyaniso. Nokuba kukonga ubuso, kwandise imida yenzuzo, ukugqwesa kwimisebenzi, kuthintele ukungqubana, sonke siphulukene nokunye ukuba ayikuko konke ukunyaniseka ebesinako njengabantwana.
Kukho icandelo kumdlalo bhanyabhanya "A Bambalwa Amadoda Alungileyo" apho umlingiswa kaJack Nicholas ngexa lokuthethwa kwetyala athi, "Inyaniso, awukwazi ukuyiphatha inyani."
Ngamanye amaxesha sonke siziva ngathi omnye umntu esinyanisekileyo kuye, akakwazi ukujongana nento eyenzekileyo. Ke, sihlala sithe cwaka de bafumane kamva kwaye iziphumo ziye zanda.
Elinye lamacandelo obudlelwane obusempilweni yingqibelelo okanye ukuthembeka. Kufuneka kubekho inqanaba elithile lokunyaniseka, ngaphandle kwalapho ubudlelwane bungasebenzi khona.
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ukunyaniseka kubudlelwane kuyinyani kuwe nakumnye umntu obeke ixesha lakho, amandla kunye neemvakalelo kuye.
Ngelixa sinokuphulukana noku kube kanye ngexeshana, senza konke okusemandleni ukugcina oku phakathi komnye nomnye.
Ingqiqo yobulungisa
Mna nomfazi wam sidla ngokufika ekhaya ngexesha elifanayo ngokuhlwa ngokuhlwa kuba uhambo lokuya nokubuya emsebenzini lukwindawo enye.
Sobabini sidiniwe, silambile, sikhathazekile kwimeko yeemini kwaye sinqwenela nje isidlo esishushu kunye nebhedi efudumeleyo.
Ngoku, luxanduva lukabani ukulungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nokwenza imisebenzi yendlu?
Amanye amadoda anokuthi, “luxanduva lwakhe, ngumfazi nenkosikazi ekufuneka bekhathalele ikhaya!” Abanye abantu basetyhini banokuthi, "luxanduva lwakho, nguwe indoda kwaye kufuneka ukhathalele umfazi wayo!"
Nantsi into endiyithethayo.
Masibe nobulungisa kwaye sincede sobabini.
Ngoba? Ewe, siyasebenza sobabini, sihlawula amatyala, sobabini sagqiba kwelokuba singayiqeshi intombazana, kwaye sobabini sidiniwe ekupheleni kosuku. Ukuba ndifuna kakhulu ubudlelwane bethu bukhule busempilweni, asifanelanga ukuba sobabini senze lo msebenzi?
Ndiqinisekile ngokupheleleyo ukuba impendulo ngu-ewe kwaye ndiyibonisile iyinyani kule minyaka idlulileyo.
Ewe ewe, ndizamile ngenye indlela, kodwa ihlala ishiya ubudlelwane bunoxinzelelo, buyaphazamisa kwaye buphazamisa unxibelelwano lwethu nalu ukhetho. Sinokukhetha ukuba nobulungisa kwimicimbi enxulumene nolwalamano kunye nokukhula okunempilo okanye ungabi nabulungisa kwaye uphelele wedwa.
Izazisi ezahlukileyo
UConrad, bendicinga ukuba sifuna ukuba nye kubudlelwane bethu, ukwahlulahlula izazisi zethu kunganceda njani ukudala ubudlelwane obunempilo?
Ndiyavuya ubuzile.
Into esihlala siyenza kubudlelwane ukuzama nzima ukufanisa ubunikazi bethu nomntu esinaye size silahle umkhondo wethu. Yintoni le isenza ukuba sixhomekeke kakhulu kubo kuyo yonke into ukusuka ekuxhaseni ngokweemvakalelo ukuya kuncedo lwengqondo.
Oku kubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kubudlelwane kwaye kukhupha ubomi kwelinye iqabane ngokufunxa iimvakalelo zabo, ixesha, njl njl. obu budlelwane kwaye abunakuqhubeka nokuba ayisebenzi.
Sisahluke ngeendlela ezininzi kwaye iyantlukwano yethu yeyiphi eyenza nganye yahluke.
Yikholwe okanye ungakholelwa, lo mahluko ngowona nto itsalela amaqabane ethu kuthi; Ucinga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa siqala ukuba njengabo? Kulula, bayadika kwaye baqhubeke.
Kuya kufuneka uthande kwaye uzixabise ukuba ungubani ngaphambi kokuba nabani na akuxabise kwaye akuthande.
Ungulowo ubumele ukuba unguye, ke gcina isazisi sakho, ngabo abo bafuna nawe. Izimvo ezahlukeneyo, umbono njl.
Unxibelelwano oluhle
Iyahlekisa ngokwenene indlela esivele sibambe ngayo amagama kwiindlebe zabanye size sibhekise kuyo njengonxibelelwano. Unxibelelwano lubhekisa ekuphulaphuleni, ekuqondeni nasekuphenduleni.
Jonga kwakhona:
Kuyamangalisa ukuba amagama ahlukeneyo athetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo. Unokuxelela iqabane lakho into kwaye uthetha into enye ngelixa beva kwaye beqonda into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo.
Into esihlala siyenza xa sinxibelelana simamele ngelixa omnye umntu ethetha ngendawo yokutsiba ungene kwaye sinike ezethu izimvo novavanyo lwemeko.
Olu ayilulo unxibelelwano oluyinyani.
Unxibelelwano lokwenyani kulo nabuphi na ubudlelwane lubandakanya umntu omnye othetha ngomba othile ngelixa elinye iqela liphulaphule lide iqela lokuqala ligqibe ngokupheleleyo, emva koko iqela lesibini liphindaphinde into eviweyo ukucaciselwa kunye nokuqondwa ngaphambi kokuba liphendule kuloo ngxaki.