Umxholo
- 1. Yazini amandla kunye nobuthathaka bomnye nomnye
- 2. Yiba nolindelo olusengqiqweni
- 3. Mthande umlingane wam ngendlela abafuna ukuthandwa ngayo
- Kukuthini ukuthatha konke oku?
Njengabantu, sonke singabantu abadinga uthando, uthando, kunye nenkxaso ekugqibeleni.
Inkxaso ephambili ebomini bethu ithanda ukuba lusapho lwethu lwenyukliya-iqabane lethu nabantwana. Njengoko unokuthelekelela, isiseko sayo nayiphi na intsapho esempilweni ngokwenene yeyunithi yabazali.
Ngaphandle kokulingana kule ndawo, ezinye iindawo zinokuphela zithwele ubunzima kwaye ekugqibeleni kwiimeko zoxinzelelo olugqithisileyo okanye iimfuno ezingagungqiyo, ziyawa phantsi koxinzelelo.
Ke sisakha njani isiseko esomeleleyo?
Apha ngezantsi kukho iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba nenze kwaye nigcine ubudlelwane obuqinileyo kwaye ke, iyunithi yosapho eyomeleleyo.
1. Yazini amandla kunye nobuthathaka bomnye nomnye
Izibini ezininzi okanye abantu abaqhawule umtshato abathi beze kum bezokunyanga babonisa iingxaki ezinkulu kule ndawo.
Bangena kwimilo kuba beziva ukuba iqabane labo lisenokungadlali. Nangona kunjalo, xa sifika phantsi, ayisiyiyo into yokuba iqabane labo alizange lenze iinzame zokwenza njalo, kukuba indlela yabo yokucinga okanye yokusebenza ibabeka engxakini enkulu ngesicelo esenziweyo kwaye bayasilela kuba ngayo.
Ukuba iqabane lam alilunganga kakhulu kwezemali (kodwa ndim) yenza njani ingqiqo ukubacela ukuba babe ngabo balinganisa incwadi yokutshekisha?
Ndiphela nje ukukhathazeka (kwaye nabo). Kwiimeko ezininzi, sinokuphikisana, kwaye ndiza kuphelela ekubeni ndiyenze ngokwam.
Oku kunokukhokelela ekwakheni okanye kwinzondo kwanokudelela.
Njengabantu abatshatileyo, kufuneka sixoxe ukuba ngawaphi amanye amandla ethu kwaye sisebenzise oku ukunikezela uxanduva ngokwethu ithuba elifanelekileyo lokuphumelela njengeqela.
2. Yiba nolindelo olusengqiqweni
Oku kunxulumene ngokupheleleyo nenqaku lokuqala.
Akufuneki sazi kuphela ukuba ziziphi izinto ezomeleleyo omnye nomnye kwaye sizakhele zona kodwa sibe nembono ecacileyo nesengqiqweni malunga noko silindeleyo.
Nokuba iqabane lam likulungele ukuhlamba izitya okanye ukukhupha inkunkuma, kufuneka ndiqonde ukuba ingakanani kwaye ilindelwe nini ukuba benze ezi zinto. Andikwazi ukucaphuka xa ndicela iqabane lam ukuba lihoye into ethile ngosuku okanye ixesha elithile kodwa baxakeke zezinye izibophelelo abangenako ukufikelela kuzo ngelo xesha.
Kungalula ukucinga ukuba siyazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwaye senza izicelo ngokusekwe koku kodwa inokuba yenye indawo izibini zihlala zikhuphuka.
Ixesha elingaphezulu, bayayeka ukubuza kwaye baqale ukucinga.
Oku akupheleli nje ekuziphatheni kodwa kwiingcinga nakwiimvakalelo ngokunjalo. Sidinga ukunxibelelana ngokubonisa iimfuno zethu, ukufumana ingxelo kwiqabane lethu malunga nokuba bangadibana njani okanye nini, kwaye bathethathethane ngento efanelekileyo kubo bobabini. Kungoko kuphela apho banokuthi baphendule ngokwentlanganiso (okanye ukusilela ukuhlangabezana) nesicelo sethu.
3. Mthande umlingane wam ngendlela abafuna ukuthandwa ngayo
Le yenye enkulu.
Izibini ezininzi endidibana nazo aziziva zithandwa okanye zixatyiswa ngamaqabane abo. Ngaphandle kweemeko ezinobungozi ezibonakalayo njengokuhlukunyezwa ngokweemvakalelo, ukulahlwa, okanye imicimbi; ayikuko ukuba iqabane labo alizenzi izinto ezinothando kodwa ababathandi ngendlela eqinisekisa kwaye ixhasa oku.
Ndibona ntoni?
Elinye iqabane lizama ukubonisa uthando ngendlela bona ngokwabo abangathanda ukulifumana ngayo. Iqabane labo linokubaxelela nokuba bafuna ntoni kodwa banokulithathela ingqalelo okanye bakufumanise kukhululeke ngakumbi kubo ukuzenzela ngokwabo.
Oku kuthumela kuphela umyalezo wokuba abamameli okanye kakubi-awukhathali. Yazi iilwimi zothando lomnye kwaye uzisebenzise!
Kukuthini ukuthatha konke oku?
Ekugqibeleni, iyabila kunxibelelwano, ukuqonda kunye nokwamkelwa.
Kuya kufuneka samkele iqabane lethu kunye nathi ukuba singoobani kwaye sisebenze ngaphakathi kwemida yoku ukwakha nokugcina isiseko esomeleleyo.
Ayizukuyenza kakuhle kuphela ubudlelwane bethu njengesibini, kodwa iya kunceda lonke usapho lwethu ukuba lube nolwalamano olusondeleyo omnye nomnye.
Iya kusebenza njengemodeli yokufunda kubantwana bethu ukuze babe nobudlelwane obunempilo kunye nabo, abo babakhathaleleyo, kwaye ekugqibeleni babe ngabantu abadala abanothando.