Umxholo
- Esi sibini siyasebenza kakhulu
- Ixesha elinye nelinye liyachaphazeleka
- Ukusondelelana kunye nokuthembana kuyancipha
Ngokoluvo lwam, ubutyebi bezinto eziphathekayo, ubutyebi, nokubawa kwalo naluphi na uhlobo akufuneki kube yinto oyithandayo. Nangona kunjalo, ngemali enkulu kuza uxanduva olukhulu. Ukuba ukhe wathandana ngokunzulu uyazi ukuba kukho iziphumo zokhetho olungelulo oluchaphazela abantu ababandakanyekayo, ngakumbi ukuba esi sibini sitshatile. Ngequbuliso, inkcitho embi yomntu ichaphazela enye kwaye uzinzo luba yinto yexesha elidlulileyo.
Imali sesinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuba abantu bahlukane. Ukudlula ekubaweni, umona, kunye nezinye izinto ezinjalo kubalulekile, kodwa xa ukungakhathali kwelinye iqabane lakho kusenzakalisa elinye okanye usapho, akukho nzima ukubona ukuba kutheni le nto ihlala iyingxaki eparadesi. Alithandabuzeki elokuba imikhwa yokuchitha ngokungekho ngqiqweni, ityala kunye nokungazinzi kwemali kunokudiliza ukuthembana kunye nentuthuzelo kubudlelwane.
Ndifuna ukuvavanya umrhumo othathwa ngamatyala kubudlelwane obuninzi kunye nendlela yokuthintela uxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko ngenxa yezakhono ezingezizo zokulawula imali. Mhlawumbi, ngokuzilungiselela kwangaphambili, sinokuthintela isiphithiphithi ekuthwaleni izinto esinazo nabantu esibathandayo.
Esi sibini siyasebenza kakhulu
Ndinomhlobo osapho lwakhe lusematyaleni amakhulu. Uyazisebenzela ethanjeni yonke imihla ngenxa yokuchitha ngokungekho ngqiqweni izigqibo ezenziwe nguye kunye nenkosikazi yakhe kwaye akalifumani ixesha lokulala. Usebenza imini yonke, afike ekhaya, emva koko alale kuba engenakho ukungabinako.
Ewe akunampilo oku. Uye wandivuma ukuba waphoswa yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi babantwana bakhe kuba kuye kwafuneka asebenze kakhulu. Ubuninzi bengxaki yosapho lwakhe ibilusizi ngenxa yokuchitha ngendlela engeyiyo kwinkosikazi yakhe kunye naye, kwaye inzala eyonyukayo kumatyala abo yenze izinto zambi ngakumbi.
Ityala libangela ukuba izibini zisebenze kakhulu. Xa uhlala kwimali oyirholayo uyirhola, kunokubonakala ngathi ayikho enye indlela. Ukuba nguwe lo, ndincoma ukuyeka iindleko ezincinci kwaye ubeka ityala lakho. Endaweni yobusuku obuthandekayo, iqabane lakho kwaye kuya kufuneka uye kunyuka kunye nepikniki. Unokwazi ukunciphisa ezinye zeendleko zakho zokuphila. Ndiyazi abantu abaninzi, nam ndibandakanyile, abakhalaza ngemali kodwa bangaze bacinge ukuba banokuhlawula kakhulu irente. Ukuba awunayo indlu, cinga ngokufumana indawo enokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho ngelixa ikuvumela ukuba ungabi noxinzelelo lwezezimali. Yila indlela onokugcina ngayo imali, kwaye kwixesha elizayo ayizukuba ngumqobo omkhulu kuwe.
Ixesha elinye nelinye liyachaphazeleka
Ndikhankanyile ukuba umhlobo wam uhambe ixesha elide engaluboni usapho ngenxa yetyala abanalo ukusukela oko wayesebenza nzima ukuze abagcine. Kwaye nabantwana abancinci abancinci kwakunzima ukuba umfazi wakhe asebenze ixesha elaneleyo ukunceda ngezemali.
Mandicace, anditsho ukuba ukusebenza kakhulu okanye ematyaleni kuya kubangela uqhawulo-mtshato. Kodwa abantu abatshatileyo bafuna ixesha labo bodwa. Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba kubalulekile ekugcineni unxibelelwano olusempilweni.
Nditsho nakubomi bam, ndibukele ukunqongophala kwexesha ndedwa elichaphazela ubudlelwane bamalungu osapho kwangoko. Xa ungachithi ixesha kunye, ulibale indlela yokunxibelelana. Amalungu osapho lwam awaphikisani okanye axoxe kakuhle ngemicimbi kunye namaqabane abo kwaye ndiyakholelwa ngokwenene ukuba ukusebenza kwabo kakhulu kuthintele inkqubela phambili.
Ukuba uzibona ungenalo ixesha lokuchitha neqabane lakho, okanye udiniwe kakhulu ukuba ungaxoxa ngeengxabano phakathi kwakho, yinto ofuna ukuyitshintsha kwaye uyiqonde kwangoko. Ndiyazi ukuba ayisiyonto ilula kangako leyo, kodwa ukuhlala ubusuku obuncinci ngeveki (nobabini nibeke esichengeni iishedyuli zenu) inokuba ngumahluko phakathi komtshato osondeleyo kunye nolusizi.
Ukusondelelana kunye nokuthembana kuyancipha
Ukuthembela kuko konke ubudlelwane obulungileyo obusekwe phezu kwabo. Imikhwa emibi yenkcitho ibandakanya amaqabane angathathelani. Oko kukodwa kungayiqhekeza intembeko, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba inkcitho embi kubambiswano ihlala ibandakanya ukunganyaniseki.Akukho mbuzo kufuneka ubuzwe: ukungabi nabulumko kwimali yakho kungonakalisa ukuthembana kwakho neqabane lakho, kwaye kuhlala kunjalo.
Kutshanje intombi yam indixelele ukuba ivakalelwa kukuba andiyicingi kakhulu kwaye ndiyadika ngokwenza njalo. Akaphosisi- ndisebenzisa ixesha lam elininzi ngokuzingca kwaye ndinomkhwa wokuzixakekisa kwaye ixesha lethu sikunye liqhelekile kwaye liqhelekile. Khawufane ucinge indlela ebekuya kuba kubi ngayo ukuba sitshatile kwaye sabelana ngemithwalo yethu yemali. Ukuziva ngathi umntu akakuqwalaseli kangako kwaye ukubeka emngciphekweni wokuphulukana nozinzo lwakho? Kanye nokuthintela inkululeko yakho kunye nolonwabo? Olu ayilohlobo lobudlelwane olwakhiwe kukuthenjwa- lulwalamano apho ukuthembana kuye kwaphulwa.
Ndibona kufanelekile ukuba ndisebenze ngokuthembeka kunye nokubekwa elubala kubudlelwane ukuze konke ukuthembana kuhlala kunganyanzelekanga. Ndikunye neqabane lakho, sele nizinikele kunye ubomi benu bonke. Kodwa ukuba awunyanisekanga okanye awuyikhathaleli imali yakho kunye nabo, ukunganyaniseki kunesiphumo sobomi bokwenyani obukufumana ngokukhawuleza.
Logama nje bobabini abantu kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo bekwazi ukuzimela kwizenzo zabo kunye nokulalanisa, likho ithemba. Ungaze ucinge ukuba ngenxa yokuba ezi zinto zisenzeka kufuneka ziqhubeke zisenzeka kuwe. Thetha omnye komnye, uthembeke omnye komnye, ulwe kunye, kwaye ufike kwindawo apho unokuphinda uthembele omnye komnye! Ukuyekelela nokuzincama kuthetha yonke into.
URobert Lanterman
URobert Lanterman ngumbhali ovela eBoise, kwi-ID. Ubonakalisiwe kwiiwebhusayithi ezingaphezulu kwama-50 malunga neshishini, umculo, kunye nezinye izihloko ezahlukeneyo. Unokufikelela kuye kwi-Twitter!.