Umxholo
- Imvakalelo yokungaqiniseki, oku akunakuba yinyani
- Ukubuza ukuba ulibona njani ilizwe
- Yonke into eyenzekileyo ngaphambili ibubuxoki nje
- Uyayithandabuza indlela ozixabisa ngayo.
- Uye uzigxeke
- Uyathandabuza yonke into eyakhe yakuxelela iqabane lakho.
- Kwaye owona mbuzo ubalulekileyo uzibuza wona.
- Ngubani onokuba ngumphindisi waphinda?
- Kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo
Kubi ngokwaneleyo xa iqabane likopela iqabane lalo ngexesha elinye.
Khawufane ucinge indlela ekulusizi ngayo ukwazi ukuba iqabane lakho, umntu obuthembele kuye ngokupheleleyo kwaye uthembise uthando lwakho phambi koThixo, abahlobo, kunye nosapho, ungumphangi ophindayo?
Kuphela ngabantu abaye bakwimeko ebuhlungu enjalo abanokuyiqonda intlungu enzulu neyonakalisayo enokubangelwa yile nto.
Emva kokufumanisa ukuba amaqabane abo ngumkhohlisi onganyangekiyo, iimvakalelo zeqabane elingcatshiweyo, inene indalo iphela, zijikile ngokupheleleyo. Ezinye iimpendulo eziqhelekileyo kolu xinzelelo zibandakanya:
Imvakalelo yokungaqiniseki, oku akunakuba yinyani
Ingqondo yakho icothisa yonke into phantsi ukuze ukwazi ukuyithatha kancinci, izama ukunciphisa ukoyikeka kwento eyenziwe liqabane lakho.
Ukubuza ukuba ulibona njani ilizwe
Ukuba oyena mhlobo wakho usenyongweni, umthandi, kunye nokuzithemba bayakwazi ukufihla obu bomi besibini nazo zonke iindlela zabo zokukopela, ungakholelwa njani ukuba nantoni na oyibonayo yeyona nto iyiyo? Uqala ukungazithembi ukuba ungubani na ngokwenyani.
Yonke into eyenzekileyo ngaphambili ibubuxoki nje
Akunakwenzeka ukuba iqabane elihlambulukileyo lalikuthanda, lincoma, kwaye likuxabise. Uzixelele ukuba yonke loo nto yayiyinto engekhoyo kuba iqabane lakho lalinakho ukuxoka nokukhohlisa.
Uyayithandabuza indlela ozixabisa ngayo.
Ukuba kuphela ubukhe wabelana ngesondo ngakumbi, ukunikela ingqalelo ngakumbi, ukufumaneka ngakumbi, ukuthanda ngakumbi, nangakumbi .... nantoni na omnye umntu anayo yokulukuhla umyeni wakho.
Uzixelela ngokwakho ukuba ubungcono kancinci kunale nto uyiyo ngoku, ngekhe baphambuke. Nangona kunjalo, izizathu zokukopela zokukopela azinanto yakwenza nawe nayo yonke into enokwenza neempawu zabo zobuntu!
Uye uzigxeke
Uyazibuza ukuba kwenzeka njani ukuba ube yimfama kangaka ukuze ungaboni ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni emva kwakho. Ingakumbi ukuba iqabane lakho beliqhatha nomntu okwisangqa sabahlobo bakho.
Uyathandabuza yonke into eyakhe yakuxelela iqabane lakho.
Uyazibuza ukuba wayenakho ukuyigubungela le nto, yintoni enye awayeyigubungela? Unokuba ngumcuphi wakho, uhamba ngefowuni, ii-imeyile, iipokotho kunye nemisebenzi ye-intanethi.
Kwaye owona mbuzo ubalulekileyo uzibuza wona.
Uzifumana ushukuma phakathi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uhlale okanye uhambe?
Ngubani onokuba ngumphindisi waphinda?
Nazi ezinye zeempawu eziqhelekileyo eziphinda zabelane ngabakhohlisi
- Ukuziphatha kwabo kwangaphambili kubonisa kakuhle indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwixa elizayo. Iqabane eliye laqhatha ngaphambili kunokwenzeka ukuba likopishe kwakhona.
- Bacinga ukuba imithetho yoluntu ayisebenzi kubo, okt, zii-sociopathic narcissists. Balijonga ihlabathi njengendawo yentengiso enokhuphiswano, indawo apho kufuneka babe phezulu, kungenjalo omnye umntu uza kuboyisa. Baziva benelungelo.
- Umlutha udlala indima ebomini babo. Oku kunokuba butywala, iziyobisi, umdlalo okanye ukugembula.
- Abayi kuba zezabo izenzo zabo. Bayakopa- yimpazamo yeqabane labo!
- Basenokukugxeka ngokungagcini ukukhanga kwakho, okanye ukungafuni isondo rhoqo xa besenza, okanye ukungabikho ngokupheleleyo xa befuna.
Ukuba uhlala umkhohlisi, nazi ezinye iingcinga onokuthi ucinge ngazo. Amaqabane ahlala kwezi meko anika ingxelo:
- Ukuba neengcinga ezingapheliyo ezijolise kwinto eyenziwe liqabane lakho okanye okwenzayo ngoku. Uphinda uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ucobe umdla Ubuye uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ucinge
- Uba paranoid, kwaye ngokuqhubekayo ujonge iimpawu zokungathembeki kwabo. Uhamba ngeerekhodi zabo zefowuni, i-imeyile, isipaji, nantoni na enokubonisa into osele uyikrokrela.
- Ukuxhalaba rhoqo ukuba awukwazi ukulandelela iqabane lakho. Uhlala ukholelwa ukuba ukuba abayiphenduli ifowuni yabo okanye ukuba babuya emva kwexesha ekhaya, ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuba naloo mntu.
- Iindlela zakho zokulala ziphazamiseka. Nokuba awukwazi ukulala, okanye awukwazi ukulala. Ingqondo yakho yi-hamster engagungqiyo ebaleka ivili. Awunakuzicima iingcinga zento abayenzileyo okanye uzolise ingqondo yakho ngokwaneleyo ukuvumela ukuba uphumle kwimodi yokulala.
- Iipatheni zakho zokutya ziyaphazamiseka. Ungaphulukana nomdla wakho wokutya okanye ungafumani ukonyuka kokutya. Ukutya kusenokungakuniki mdla kokuncinci, okanye ungntywila kukutya okungekho mpilweni, ngakumbi iilekese, ezakukunika i-endorphin, "uzive kamnandi" (ngaphambi kokwenza ungqubeke kwaye uzive woyikeka nangakumbi).
- Ukungakwazi ukugxila, okuchaphazela umsebenzi wakho.
- Iintloni kunye neentloni ngakumbi xa uxela okwenzekileyo kwisangqa sabahlobo bakho.
- Umsindo nomsindo.
- Isimo esigqibeleleyo sokuphulukana nozinzo kunye nentembelo.
Kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuhlala nomntu okopayo, uya kudinga uncedo.
Kuya kufuneka ujonge kuwe kunye neemfuno zakho ukuba unqwenela ukuhlala neli qabane. Nceda unxibelelane nomcebisi ngemitshato ukuze akuncede ufumane inkxaso yobungcali efunekayo ukuze uhlele ukuba uza kuhlala njani kule meko kwaye wonwabile.
Ngaba ufanele uhambe? Mamela amathumbu akho. Ukuba iintlungu zokuhlala nalo mntu zingaphaya kovuyo onalo kunye nabo, yiyale loo nto kuba ikuxelela into ebalulekileyo. Nguwe kuphela owaziyo okulungeleyo.
Sebenzisa i-Therapist enelayisensi njengebhodi enesandi njengoko usebenza ngendlela eya kwisigqibo iya kuba lelona nyathelo lilungileyo onokulenza kule meko. Umnqweno omhle!