Umxholo
- Yenza isigqibo sokuba uza kuhlala phi
- Fumana iimali zakho ngokulandelelana
- Cinga ngezinto onazo
- Jonga amatyala kunye nezinto ezisetyenziswayo
- Cacisa malunga nolindelo lwakho
- Yakha inethiwekhi yakho yenkxaso
Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba uzama kangakanani, kubonakala ngathi umtshato wakho uza kutshabalala. Mhlawumbi sele uzame ukuthetha ngayo. Mhlawumbi uzame iingcebiso zezibini okanye unyango oluthile. Ngamanye amaxesha awunakubona ngamehlo, nantoni na. Xa ufika kweli nqanaba, ukwahlukana kunokuba ngumzamo wokugqibela wokufumanisa ukuba umtshato wakho unokulungiswa ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuwuqhawula.
Ukwahlula lixesha elinemvakalelo. Unokuziva ukwi-limbo, ungaqinisekanga nokuba umtshato wakho ungasindiswa okanye cha. Kukho umbuzo wokuba iqabane lakho liya kufuna ukuligcina. Kwaye ke kukho izinto ezifanelekileyo ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe.
Ukujongana necala lokwahlulahlula ngokukhawuleza kangangoko unakho kuya kukushiya ngakumbi indawo yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo zokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo zakho kunye neemfuno zakho. Smooth indlela kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngezi ngcebiso zisebenzayo zokwahlukana neqabane lakho.
Yenza isigqibo sokuba uza kuhlala phi
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bafumanisa ukuba ukuhlala kunye ngexesha lokwahlukana akuyonto- kwaye kulula ukubona ukuba kutheni. Ukwahlukana lithuba lakho lokwenza into oyifunayo emtshatweni wakho, nakubomi bakho ngokubanzi, kwaye ngekhe ukwenze oko ngelixa uhlala endaweni enye.
Kuya kufuneka wazi apho uza kuhlala khona emva kokuba nizahlule. Ngaba unyibilikile ngokwasemalini ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungaboleka indawo yakho? Ngaba uya kuhlala nabahlobo okwethutyana okanye ucinge ngokwabelana ngendlu? Lungisa imeko yakho yokuhlala ngaphambi kokuba uhlukanise.
Fumana iimali zakho ngokulandelelana
Ukuba utshatile, amathuba okuba ezinye zezezimali zakho zibanjiswe. Ukuba unayo iakhawunti yebhanki edibeneyo, ukuqeshisa ngokudibeneyo okanye ukubambisa ngento, utyalomali okanye nayiphi na enye impahla ekwabelwana ngayo, kufuneka ube nesicwangciso sokuba wenze ntoni nabo xa kwaqala ukwahlukana.
Okona kuncinci, uyakufuna iakhawunti yakho eyahlukileyo yebhanki, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba umvuzo wakho uhlawulwa kwiakhawunti. Uyakufuna kwakhona ukujonga ukuba awufikeleli kumatyala axabisekileyo.
Yolula imali yakho phambi kokuba wohlukane- iyakukugcinela ingxaki enkulu xa ixesha lokwahlula lifikile.
Cinga ngezinto onazo
Uya kuba nezinto ezininzi ekwabelwana ngazo- kuya kwenzeka ntoni kubo? Qala ngezinto ezinkulu ezinje ngemoto, ukuba ngamagama akho omabini, kunye nefenitshala. Kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba ngubani onelungelo kwinto leyo, kwaye ngubani oza kuyigcina.
Ukuba uza kuhlala wedwa, kufuneka ujongane nokwahlulwa kwezinto zakho. Qala ukucinga ngento ekufuneka uyigcinile, kwaye uyonwabile ukuncama okanye uthenge enye ingxelo.
Nyaniseka ngokwenene malunga nezinto ongenakuhlala ngaphandle kwazo. Ukwahlula lixesha lokurhafisa kwaye kulula ukubanjwa kumlo wokulwa kwanezinto ezincinci. Yeka ukulwa ngaphambi kokuba baqale ngokunyaniseka malunga nento oyifunayo ngokwenene, kwaye uyeke izinto ezingabalulekanga.
Jonga amatyala kunye nezinto ezisetyenziswayo
Amatyala kunye nezinto eziluncedo zihlala zizenzekelayo, kwaye hayi engqondweni yakho. Ukuba ucwangcisa ukwahlula, nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka ubanike ingcinga.
Yiya kuwo onke amatyala akho asekhaya - umbane, amanzi, i-intanethi, ifowuni, kwanokubhaliselwa kwi-Intanethi. Zingakanani zona? Ngubani obahlawulayo ngoku? Ngaba bayahlawulwa kwiakhawunti edibeneyo? Chaza ukuba ngubani oza kuba noxanduva lwento xa ixesha lakho lokwahlukana liqala.
Uninzi lwamatyala, ewe, aqhotyoshelwe kwikhaya ohlala kulo. Yikhumbule loo nto ukuze ungaphenduli uxanduva lwamatyala ahambelana nendlu ongahlali kuyo ngoku.
Cacisa malunga nolindelo lwakho
Nobabini kufuneka ningene ngokwahlukana kwenu nentloko ecacileyo. Oko kuthetha ukufumana ingcaciso yokwenene malunga nokuba kutheni nizahlulahlula kwaye nilindele ntoni kuyo.
- Ngaba unethemba lokwakha umtshato wakho kwakhona?
- Okanye ngaba ubona ukwahlukana njengethuba lokulingwa komtshato?
- Ucinga ukuba ihlala ixesha elingakanani?
Ukwahlukana kungathatha ixesha kwaye akufuneki kungxanyiswe, kodwa ixesha elibi liya kukunceda uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni.
Cinga ngendlela oza kunxibelelana ngayo ngexesha lokwahlukana. Ngaba nisazobonana, okanye ngaba ninokukhetha ukuhlala bodwa ixesha lonke? Ukuba unabantwana, kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ukuba baya kuhlala nabani kwaye ngubani, kunye namalungelo okundwendwela omnye umntu.
Yakha inethiwekhi yakho yenkxaso
Ukwahlula kunzima, kwaye inethiwekhi yenkxaso elungileyo ejikeleze wena yenza wonke umahluko. Vumela abona bantu usondeleyo kubo baqonde ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, kwaye ubanike iintloko phezulu ukuze ufumane inkxaso engaphezulu ngeli xesha.Yazi ukuba ungathetha nabani, kwaye ungoyiki ukufikelela kwaye njengoncedo oluncinci.
Unokucinga ngokujonga i-Therapist ngokukodwa okanye njengesibini, ukukunceda uhambe ngendlela eyohlukileyo kunye neemvakalelo eziguqukayo zokwahlukana.
Ukwahlukana neqabane lakho ngumceli mngeni. Khathalela imiba esebenzayo ngokukhawuleza kangangoko unako ukwenza ukuba kube lula kuwe kwaye zinike indawo oyifunayo ukuze uqhubele phambili.