Umxholo
- Awungomnye endaweni yakho
- Musa ukuzahlula ngokupheleleyo
- Musa ukuphelelwa ngumonde
- Ungalibali ukuba usapho
- Ukuthathelwa ingqalelo kubalulekile
Umtshato yenye yezona bhonkco zintle kakhulu ezinokubakho phakathi kwabantu ababini, kodwa awukhululekanga ebunzimeni. Ngapha koko, umtshato ufana nokulinganisa kumdlalo. Imiceli mngeni iqhubeka ngokwanda ebunzimeni!
Ukuba uza kuba yinxalenye yosapho oludibeneyo okanye sele ulungile oko kuya kuba kukulungele. Sele uza kuphakanyiswa ukusuka kwi-newbie ukuya kwinqanaba leengcali ngokuqhwanyaza kweliso. Yilungele ukungamkelwa ngokufudumeleyo ngakumbi ukuba abantwana bakho bomtshato abakwishumi elivisayo okanye abancinci.
Ngokombono wabantwana, kusenokwenzeka ukuba sesona sizathu sokuba umama okanye utata wabo bemke. Wena ungumfokazi ekufuneka balumke. Abayi kukuthemba kwangoko kwaye unokulindela unyango olubandayo okanye ingqumbo. Ukuya ngethemba lokuhle kodwa ulindele okona kubi.
Nangona kunjalo, izinto azinakuhlala zinje, akunjalo?
Nguwe umntu omdala onoxanduva kobu budlelwane kwaye kufuneka ulungise izinto! kodwa uziva ngathi ulahlekile njengabantwana. Sukuba nexhala, namhlanje sineendlela ezimbalwa ezinokukunceda uphile obona bomi bakho bumnandi nabantwana bakho bomtshato wesibini.
Awungomnye endaweni yakho
Ewe uyazi, kodwa abantwana abayazi.
Kuya kufuneka ubenze babone kuqala kwaye phambili, ukuze ungaziboni uthatha indawo yomzali wabo. Baxhase ngeendlela ezichuliweyo ezenza ukuba baqonde ukuba awuzami kuthatha ndawo yomntu.
Endaweni yoko jonga izinto ezinokukunceda ukuba wakhe ubudlelwane obutsha kunye nabantwana bakho bomtshato. Ngokuqinisekileyo ziphephe iindima zabazali ezinjengokohlwaya nokuzingisa. Okona kungcono ukushiya kubazali be-biological. Ngaphandle koko zilungiselele ukuva izinto ezinje ngokuba "awunguye umama / utata wam!"
Musa ukuzahlula ngokupheleleyo
Ngelixa kungafanelekanga ukuba uthathe indawo yokuba ngumzali, kodwa akufuneki ungazidibanisi kwaphela.
Khawucinge nje ngawe njengomgcini. Khathalela izinto ezifuna ukukhathalelwa. Izinto ezisisiseko.
Benze bazive ngathi likhaya elo ikhaya labo lisafana.
Ukuba ungumpheki olungileyo, ke unethamsanqa njengoko kungekho ndlela ibhetele isiya entliziyweni emva koko isisu. Ukuba awukwazi ungangancami okwangoku. Zininzi ezinye iindlela zokuvula intliziyo evaliweyo.
Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukuthandeka. Zenze ungeneke. Musa ukubenza bazive ngathi abanakuthetha nawe okanye bazisole ngokukuvulela isifuba sakho. Ngalo lonke ixesha vula izimvo, faka abantwana bakho bomtshato wesibini kwiincoko nakwiingxoxo. Bazi ngakumbi.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, gcina uburharha.
Uburharha kunye nobumnandi bongeza kumtsalane kabani. Kungekudala abantwana bayakuqonda ukuba heyi! Awukho mbi kangako, kwaye ukuba awungomzali ngokuqinisekileyo unokuba ngumhlobo.
Musa ukuphelelwa ngumonde
Ukungabi namonde kuya konakalisa umdlalo wakho.
Lumka ungafuni ukonakalisa wonke umsebenzi wakho onzima. Ukuthembana yinto exabiseke kakhulu. Kunzima nokuba abantu abadala bathembane ngokulula. Kwimeko apho umntwana kufuneka ajongane notshintsho olukhulu kangaka, kunokwenza ukuba umntwana alumke kakhulu.
Kuya kuthatha igrisi engqinelanayo enzulu ukukhulisa uhlobo lokuthenjwa ekufuneka lube nalo usapho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uphulukana nomonde wakho uya kuthunyelwa kwangoko kwinqanaba le-0.
Ungalibali ukuba usapho
Kungaba lula ukukhathazeka kwiimeko ezinje, kodwa le yinto enye ongaze uyilibale. Abantwana bakho bomtshato wesibini baninzi njengentsapho yakho. Musa ukubaphatha njengeziko elahlukileyo. Baphathe ngendlela obaphatha ngayo abantwana bakho.
Sukuzama ukwahlula kubazali babo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ungabenzi bajonge kakubi phambi kweqabane lakho njengendlela yokunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwakho. Le yeyona mpazamo inkulu unokuyenza.
Ekupheleni kosuku, bangabantwana nje. Bafuna uthando, inkathalo, kunye nengqalelo. Ngoku ukuba uyinxalenye yosapho ubabonelela ngako konke oku luxanduva lwakho ngokunjalo. Nokuba imizamo yakho ayinakubuyiselwa kwangoko.
Ukuthathelwa ingqalelo kubalulekile
Ukupha ngaphandle kwawo nawaphi na amathuba okubona kungumsebenzi onzima kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, ungalibali ukuba wenza oku ukonwaba kosapho lwakho. Ukuba izinto ziba nzima ngenene zibeke nje kwizinyathelo zakho zabantwana.
Abakhange babuze nantoni na yale nto, inokuba bonwabile ngezinto ngendlela ababeyiyo. Ukuba bakunika ixesha elinzima, kusenokwenzeka ukuba bancinci kakhulu ukuba bangaqonda imeko. Ke, konke okufuneka ukwenze kukuthathela ingqalelo kubo. Yiba nobubele kwaye uya kuvuzwa ngokuqinisekileyo.