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- Ngaba sakha okanye siqhawula umtshato?
- Izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokuphelisa umtshato wakho
- Izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokuqhubeka nobudlelwane bakho
- Amanyathelo alandelayo: umtshato owonwabisayo
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Yintoni ngoku? Uqhubeka njani? Uqhubeka njani ngobomi emva kokungathembeki?
Ngaba uyafuna ukulixolela iqabane lakho eliqhathayo kwaye uphinde wakhe ubudlelwane bakho, okanye lixesha lokuvalelisa okokugqibela?
Kule nqaku, ezinye iingcinga kunye nemibono kwabelwana ngazo malunga nento ekufuneka usekele kuyo ukhetho lwakho. Oko kuthethiweyo, ayisiyo khetho elula ukuba uyenze. Cinga ngenyameko. Cingisisa nzulu ngezinto.
Izizathu eziphambili zokuqhawula umtshato emva kokungathembeki:
- Ingafanelekanga, ingqumbo engapheliyo
- Ukuziva ungamkelwa
- Ukuphikwa kwengxaki
Kubalulekile ukuba uyazi impendulo yakho kukungathembeki kunye nokuqonda ukuba unokufumana iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo. Ukusinda kuqhawulo mtshato lokungathembeki ngamava ahlukileyo kuye wonke umntu. Wonke umntu uya kufumana ukungathembeki ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Nokuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato okanye wakhe umtshato wakho, uyakufuna izakhono ezifanelekileyo zokuhlangabezana nale nkqubo. Kufuneka ube nomfanekiso-ngqondweni, uqonde ukuba ungathanda ukuba ubomi bakho bube njani emva kokungathembeki.
Ngaba sakha okanye siqhawula umtshato?
Kuzo zonke iimeko, nokuba zibuhlungu, into entle inokufihlwa. Nokuba ezona meko zibuhlungu zinokuba nento enokukunceda ube ngumntu ongcono. Amava onke anokukufundisa okuthile. Kukwanjalo ukungathembeki.
Inokukufundisa okuninzi malunga nokuba ungubani kwaye uxabise ntoni. Isenokukufundisa ukuba awuxoleli kangako kunangaphambili.Okanye kungangqina ukuba uyaxolela okoko nje kukho uthando phakathi kwenu kunye nentlonipho kubudlelwane bakho.
Ngale nto ithethiweyo lixesha lokwamkela ukungathembeki kwaye uvume ukuba kwenzeke.
Ngaba ufanele uqhawule umtshato emva kokuthandana? Ukuthatha isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato emva kokungathembeki akuyonto ingaqhelekanga. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu oye waqhathwa akakwazi ukufikelela kwimvakalelo yokukhohliswa, kwaye uqhawulo mtshato emva kokukopela kubonakala ngathi kuphela kwendlela eshiyekileyo.
Uqhawulo mtshato emva komtshato ngamanye amaxesha uqalwa liqabane lokukhohlisa ngokunjalo. Kungenxa yokuba bafuna ukumanyana kunye 'nelinye iqabane' kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuba beziva ukuba babangele umonakalo ongenakulungiseka kubudlelwane kwaye izinto azinakuze zibuyele esiqhelweni.
Ngoku lixesha lokwenza isigqibo esinzima malunga nobomi bakho emva kokungathembeki: ngaba uya kubuvuselela ubuhlobo bakho, okanye ngaba uya kuqaphela umtshato emva kokungathembeki?
Izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokuphelisa umtshato wakho
Ukukhetha uqhawulo-mtshato kunye nokugqiba neqabane elitsha akuthethi ukuba ukhululekile kwiingxaki. Wonke umntu uneengxaki zakhe kwaye ezinye iingxaki zinokubakho jikelele.
Cinga ngonxibelelwano, isithukuthezi, ungquzulwano kunye nokunyaniseka. Ukuba awufundi indlela yokujongana nezi zinto emva koko ubheja ukuba ziya kuba nzima kubudlelwane bakho obutsha ngokunjalo.
Ukutsiba kuqhawulo mtshato ayisiyonto ilula kwaye ilula. Iingxaki zakho kunye neentlungu aziyi kuphela nje njengekhephu phambi kwelanga.
Uqhawulo-mtshato emva komtshato lunokubonakala luyindlela elula, kodwa akunjalo.
Ukuba ujonga isisombululo ngokubanzi sokuba 'kude kube nini emva komtshato abantu abatshatileyo beqhawula umtshato', awufanelanga. Akukho mpendulo inye kuyo. Wonke umntu unexesha elahlukileyo lokujongana nosizi.
Kuya kufuneka uzinike ixesha ukuze uxolele iqabane lakho. Awungekhe urhuqe nje 'umthwalo' kulwalamano lwakho oludala uye kubudlelwane bakho obutsha. Isahluko ngasinye sifuna ukuvalwa. Ukulandela impilo esempilweni emva kokungathembeki kufuneka uyeke le ntlekele.
Ukuphilisa emva koqhawulo-mtshato kunye nokungathembeki kwenye into kuya kufuneka ujongane nayo xa uluqhawule ngokupheleleyo ulwalamano lwakho. Ukufumana kwakhona ukungathembeki kunye noqhawulo mtshato kuthatha ixesha, sukungqwabalala kuwe kwaye uzinike ixesha elaneleyo lokulila.
Izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokuqhubeka nobudlelwane bakho
Ukuba uyakholelwa kubudlelwane bakho, thabatha umcimbi, kufanelekile ukulwela ukwakha umtshato wakho kwakhona kunokuba sisisombululo kuwe. Ukuba nobabini nivulelekile ekubeni nethuba lokufunda nokukhula kule nto ninokubanakho ukulungisa izinto kunye.
Bobabini iqabane lokukhohlisa kunye neqabane elingcatshiweyo kufuneka bakulungele ukubeka izinto ngasemva kwabo kwaye bazimisele ukuxolela kwaye bafunde ukuba nobomi obusempilweni emva kokungathembeki.
Isikhuthazo esomeleleyo sokuhlala kunye kufuneka ibe luthando. Ngaba nobabini niva uthando olomeleleyo ngaphantsi kokungcatshwa, iintlungu, umsindo kunye nokwenzakala?
Kuthatha iqabane elinye ukugcina umtshato, kodwa kuthatha amaqabane amabini ukwakha umtshato ngenene. Ikratshi, inkani nobukrakra azinandawo kubudlelwane.
Ukuba uyaqhubeka nomtshato wakho njengangaphambili, akukho nto iya kutshintsha kwaye kungekudala uza kudibana neengxaki ezifanayo ezakhokelela kumzuzu wangoku.
Isitshixo sokwakha umtshato wakho kwaye uwenza womelele kukufunda ngokwenyani kwisenzo sokungathembeki kwaye uzisebenzise kakuhle. Injongo yakho ayifanele ibe kukubuyisela ubomi bakho obudala, ebomini bakho emva kokungathembeki kufuneka uzame ukusombulula iingxaki ezifihlakeleyo ezazikhathaza ulwalamano lwakho.
Uxolelo yeyona nto iphambili apha. Ngaphandle kokuxolelwa, akunakubakho ukuthembana kokwenyani kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akukho budlelane bomeleleyo. Kufana nokubaleka ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ukuhamba - ayizukusebenza.
Ukuphinda wakhe umtshato unamanyathelo amathathu:
- Uxolelo
- Ukwakha ukuthembana kwakhona
- Ukulungisa ulwalamano
Ngaba wena neqabane lakho nikulungele ukutyala imali kula manyathelo?
Amanyathelo alandelayo: umtshato owonwabisayo
Isibini esonwabileyo emtshatweni sifunde:
- Xolela kwaye wamkele ukuxolelwa
- Yiba selubala, uvule kwaye uthembeke
- Thembela
- Funda kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye uqhubeke ukhula
Izinto ezibini eziphambili zomtshato owonwabileyo kukulungela kunye nothando. Ngokukodwa ebomini emva kokungathembeki.
Uya kuludinga uthando kuba luyakhuthaza uxolelo, lubangela umnqweno wokuthanda kwakhona kwaye inika isibindi sokufunda ukuthembela kwakhona. Uthando lunamandla okuvutha amadangatye othando, ukudlula kwintlungu, kunye nokubuyisa ukuthembana.
Ukuzimisela kuyadingeka ukujongana nenyani kunye nokunyaniseka ngenene. Ukuzimisela kunokunceda ukukhulula uloyiko kunye nokuyeka. Ukuzimisela kuyafuneka ukwamkela izinto ongenakuzitshintsha kwaye uthathe inyathelo kwizinto onokuthi uzitshintshe ebomini bakho emva kokungathembeki.
Ukuzimisela kunye nothando ziyimfuneko ukuze wonwabe emtshatweni.