Unokuba Ngumfazi Oqinisekileyo Njani Emtshatweni Wakho

Umxholo

• Ngubani umfazi ozithembileyo?
• Kutheni umfazi ephelelwa kukuzithemba?
• Uyihlaziya njani ukuzithemba njengomfazi?
• Jika kukholo lwakho.
• Jikani omnye komnye.

Awukho umtshato ogqibeleleyo. Akukho mfazi unokugqibelela kwaye omelele ngalo lonke ixesha. Nangona kunjalo, sinalo uxinzelelo kunye nolindelo lokuba konke kufanelekile.

Akululanga ukuba ngumfazi ozithembileyo ngalo lonke ixesha!

Siphelelwa kukuzithemba kuthi nakumaqabane ethu xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle. Siqala ukubuza ukufaneleka kwethu kwendima.

Zininzi iimeko apho ukuzithemba kwethu njengomfazi kungathatha ukubetha. Logama nje sikhumbula ukuba kutheni ukuzithemba kubaluleke kangaka, kwaye nendlela yokuphinda uyifumane, konke kuya kusebenza.

Ngubani umfazi ozithembileyo?

Umfazi ozithembileyo ngumntu onokonwabela ubomi bomtshato, esazi ukuba benza konke okusemandleni abo ukubamba icala labo kwilungiselelo labo.

Abanye abantu basetyhini basabambelele kwezo mbono zesiko “zokuhlonipha” amaqabane abo kunye nokusebenza nokuba ngoyena mfazi ubalaseleyo. Nokuba oku kuguqulela njengomboneleli olungileyo, umninimzi, umnakekeli, okanye umama wabantwana bakho yonke imiqondiso yomfazi ozithembileyo.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indima oyikhethileyo, kuya kufuneka yiba nokuzithemba kuwe ukwenza loo misebenzi ngokulula kwaye uqhubeke nokuba nomtshato owonwabileyo, ophilileyo.

Kufuneka ube nokuzithemba ngokwazi ukuba usengumfazi onesidima, ukomelela, iitalente, kunye neempawu zobuqu ukuze ube lolona hlobo luhle ngokwakho.

Ewe ufuna ukuzithemba ukuze ube ngumfazi olungileyo ngaphandle kokulahleka kwinkqubo. Yile ndlela ke uba ngumfazi ozithembileyo!

Kutheni umfazi ephelelwa kukuzithemba?

Uxinzelelo kunye nezilingo zobomi zinokonakalisa isigwebo somfazi ozithembileyo.

Ukuba utshatile okwethutyana elidlulileyo, isigaba se "honeymoon" phantse ngokuqinisekileyo siphelile, kwaye ngoku ubunzulu entliziyweni yomtshato. Kulapho ke zifikelela khona ezo zithembiso “zingcono okanye zimbi”.

Kuya kubakho amaxesha enkathazo apho uqala ukuthandabuza ukubaluleka kwakho kwaye ulahlekelwe kukuzithemba kubuchule bakho njengomfazi. Mhlawumbi unengxaki yokukhathalela abantwana, ikhaya kunye nolunye uxanduva, njengoko uxinzelelo lonyuka.

Mhlawumbi ujongene nexesha lempilo enkenenkene okanye umvuzo ophantsi kwaye usokola ukuziqhelanisa. Imvakalelo yokusilela, okanye uloyiko lokusilela, lunokwanela ukunciphisa ukuzithemba.

Imiba enzulu inokuvela xa siphelelwa kukuzithemba emtshatweni, hayi kuthi kuphela.

Kukho amaxesha apho ungabuza khona amandla eqabane lakho ukubonelela ngamaxesha amnyama. Unokuzibuza ukuba basazinikele kusini na okanye bayathandana njengakuqala njengoko niqhekeka okanye nisilwa neengxaki.

Ukusuka apho, unokuphelela kumjikelo okhohlakeleyo. Okukhona usihla uloyiko kunye nokuthandabuza kwimpilo yomtshato, kokukhona uziva kakubi ngezakho izimvo.

Unokuzohlwaya ngokubuza iqabane lakho, wandise ukungazithembi kwakho. Eli nxeba lindayo linokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho ngakumbi. Kwaye iyaqhubeka!

Uyihlaziya njani ukuzithemba njengomfazi?

Xa ukuzithemba kuqala ukuqubuka kwaye kujongana nezo mvakalelo zokuthandabuza malunga nendima yethu njengomfazi, kufuneka siye phi? Ukwenza njani ngokuzithemba?

Impendulo yokuphinda uzithembe njengomfazi okanye njengeqela elidibeneyo inokuvela kuluhlu lwemithombo eyahlukeneyo.

Ungafumanisa ukuba esinye sezi sisombululo sivakala ngcono, okanye unokufuna ukuzama indibaniselwano.

Jika kukholo lwakho.

Abasetyhini abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba ukholo lwabo kuThixo wabo abakhethiweyo lunokunika intuthuzelo kula maxesha anzima. Abo bazise uThixo kumanyano lwabo kwaye batshata kwindawo yabo yonqulo banokufumanisa ukuba ukuphinda uqhagamshele kunokunceda.

Ukuzithemba kwabo njengomfazi kunokudumba xa begxila kwimpembelelo yokholo nakwindawo kaThixo kulwalamano. Le nkolelo uthando olungenamiqathango ukusuka kwindawo ephezulu kunokunceda kwiimvakalelo ezongeziweyo zokwamkelwa.

Abo basilela ukuzixabisa ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye ubunzima bezezimali banokufunda isicatshulwa sabo senkolo kwaye balungelelanise ukugxila kwabo.

Kwabanye, inkolelo enzulu yokuba amandla aphakamileyo azisa nina nobabini inokwanela ukuzama ukusebenzela izinto.

Kungenxa yokuba nibe nenyanga enzima kwaye nibeka ulindelo olungenakwenzeka komnye nomnye akuthethi ukuba indima yakho okanye ukuhambelana kutshintshile.

Ukubuyela kwingcambu yokholo kula mandla aphezulu kunye nokunyaniseka kobudlelwane kunokunceda ukuzihlaziya njengomfazi ozithembileyo.

Jikani omnye komnye.

Ukuguqukela kwinkolo yakho sisiqalo esihle sokomeleza eso siseko kunye nokuqonda ingxaki yakho yangoku ngokuzithemba.

Kodwa, kuya kufuneka Nxibelelana nabanye ukuqonda ubunzulu beemvakalelo kumacala omabini.

Ukuzithemba njengomfazi kunokuba yinto eninzi yokwenza kunye neembono zabatshati bethu. Xa siye sahlukaniswa, sibhidekile, kwaye sithandabuza ngenxa yendima yethu eyahlukileyo, kuyanceda ukudibana okwethutyana ukuze sithethe ngezinto.

Ukuba uqhubeka uzixelela, "Andonelanga ngoku kumntu endimthandayo", oku kungakutyisa ukuba uyibhotile. Nika iqabane lakho ithuba lokuphendula kwaye ulithobe olo loyiko.

Kweminye, isisombululo apha sinokuba lula njengobusuku bomhla. Oku kunika ithuba lokuba wedwa, kude nabantu abaxhomekeke kuwe, iingxaki, kunye noxinzelelo, kunye nengqwalaselo engaphelelanga.

Yiya kwindawo oziva wonwabile kwaye unqabisekile kunye. Phinda uphinde ubonise ukuba kunjani ukuba ngumntu abawile kuye. Khumbuzanani ukuba kutheni nitshatile kwaye kutheni lento izakusebenza.

Ngenye indlela, unokujika kunyango lwesibini kwaye ube nomlamli onceda inkqubo yodwa. Nokuba ukhetha yiphi indlela, khumbula ukuba ekugqibeleni, ungumfazi ozithembileyo!

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Ukusonga phezulu

Fumana ukuzithemba kwakho njengomfazi ngokuzixabisa!

Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokufuna ukwakha ukuzithemba njengomfazi. Nokuba kungenxa yokuziva unganqabisekanga kubudlelwane okanye unqamle lo mntu ubukho, kukho iimpendulo phaya.

Inyathelo lokuqala kukwamkela indlela oziva ngayo kwaye uqaphele ubunyani beemvakalelo zakho. Emva koko unokungena nzulu kwizizathu kunye nezisombululo zokukunceda uphinde ufumane ukuzithemba kwaye ube ngumfazi ongcono.

Ngendlela eyiyo, awunakuba kuphela ngumfazi ozithembileyo kwiqabane lakho kodwa ulungile.