Umxholo
- Ukoyisa ukothuka kokuqala komtshato
- Zeziphi iinkcukacha ekufuneka uzazi?
- Ukuqala unyango lomtshato
- Ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo
- Ufumana njani ukuthembana emtshatweni
- Ukuphepha ukuqhawula umtshato njengoko usakha umtshato wakho
Ukungathembeki kwezinto yenye yezona zinto zimbi ezinokwenzeka emtshatweni. Kodwa ngaba umtshato unganyamezela ukungathembeki?
Kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, umbuzo olandelayo uthi, ungasinda njani ekungathembekini xa iqabane eliqhathiweyo liyekile okwethutyana kwisifungo somtshato, kwaye lafuna ulonwabo okanye luthande ngaphandle komtshato?
Kunzima ukuhlala kumcimbi kunye nokujongana nokungathembeki, njengoko eminye imicimbi zizinto zexesha elinye, kodwa ezinye ziyaqhubeka iiveki okanye iminyaka.
Elinye iqabane lishiyekile lizibuza, ungawusindisa njani umtshato emva kokungathembeki kunye nobuxoki, kunye nendlela yokubuyisela ubudlelwane babo. Bashiyeke ukuba bacinge ngento abayenzileyo ephosakeleyo, kwaye babuze ngekamva.
Ngaba oku kubo? Uphelile umtshato? Ngaba ikhona into eseleyo yokwakha kwakhona?
Ewe kunjalo, zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza ukungathembeki emtshatweni, kwaye oko kunokubangela okanye kungabinanto kubalingane abazama ukulungisa izinto. Kukho iindidi ezimbini zemicimbi — yeemvakalelo kunye neyomzimba. Ngamanye amaxesha iqabane liya kwenza enye okanye enye, okanye zombini.
Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo kulo msitho kukuphulukana nokuthenjwa. Ukuba iqabane liyakwazi ukwenza oku, ngaba linokuthenjwa kwakhona? Ngaba uthando lunokubakho xa ukuthembana kuqhawukile?
Amaxesha amaninzi, ukuthandana sisiphumo seminye imicimbi emtshatweni, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha nokuba izinto zilungile, ukungathembeki kusenzeka.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezi, izibini ezininzi ziyakwazi ukusinda kukungathembeki kwaye zibuyise ukuthembana okulahlekileyo emtshatweni. Nangona ukubuyela kwimeko yokungathembeki kunye nokuxolela ukungathembeki ayisiyonto ilula, ukuba bobabini abatshatileyo bazinikele omnye komnye, banokukwenza kunye.
Nazi ezinye zeengcebiso ezibalulekileyo zendlela yokusinda ekungathembekini nasekwakha ukuthembana emtshatweni.
Ukoyisa ukothuka kokuqala komtshato
Mhlawumbi ufumene ngokwakho-ubukrokrela ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo, kwaye wabamba umyeni okanye umfazi wakho ngokuxoka. Okanye iqabane lakho ligqibe kwelokuba livume ukukopela ngaphambi kokuba ufumane enye indlela.
Nangona kunjalo, ufumanisa ukuba, nokuba unayo inkinki yokuba kukho into eqhubekayo, ukuva nje amagama kuyakothusa. Udlula njani kuloo nto?
Ngaphambi komtshato wakho, wazichaza njengeqabane lomyeni okanye lomfazi wakho. Zange wacinga ukuba uya kuba "eso sibini" kunye neqabane elingathembekanga. Kwaye ngoku, nantsi.
Ukwamkelwa lelinye lawona macandelo anzima enkqubo. Kuthetha ukujongana nokuba umtshato wakho awukenzanga ngendlela obewucinge ngayo, kwaye kufuneka ungene kwinkqubo yokufumana ukungathembeki kunye nokulungisa umtshato.
Zeziphi iinkcukacha ekufuneka uzazi?
Emva kokuthandana kwenzeka, elinye iqabane linokuba nemibuzo ethile.Ngubani iqabane lakhe bakopela? Ukuqaphela? Ngaba baziva bebathanda? Kutheni besenza nje?
Iqabane kufuneka libhale phantsi imibuzo kwaye lithathe umzuzwana ukufumanisa ukuba ukwazi iimpendulo zale mibuzo kuya kunceda ukunciphisa ingqondo okanye ukwenza izinto zibembi. Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho.
Ngaba 'ulwazi ngeenkcukacha' luya kunceda ekunyangeni ukunganyaniseki? Ukuba kunjalo, umlingane owonileyo kufuneka aphendule imibuzo yakho. Lithuba lokuba bobabini abatshatileyo bavulelane omnye nomnye kwaye bazame ukugcina umtshato wabo emva kokungathembeki.
Ukuqala unyango lomtshato
Ukuba nobabini nimiselwe ukujongana nokungathembeki kunye nokusebenza izinto, kuya kufuneka ke umntu wesithathu onamava kule meko akukhokele kuyo. Ngamnye uya kujongana nezinto ongenakuqonda ukuba ziya kuza ngaphezulu.
Ukuphika, umsindo, ubukrakra, ingqumbo, ukungazihloniphi wena okanye iqabane lakho, ityala, ityala!
Uninzi lweemvakalelo kunokuba nzima ukujongana nazo, ngakumbi xa ngamnye wenu efumana uninzi nangaliphi na ixesha. Ingcali elungileyo yomtshato inokukunceda uphile ngokungathembeki xa ungcwatywa phantsi kwemfumba yeemvakalelo.
Thatha ixesha lakho ufumane umphathiswa wezomtshato eninako ukhululeke ukusebenza naye.
Buza ugqirha malunga nezinye izibini, abaye banceda kwiimeko ezifanayo, kwaye ukuba baziva ukuba umtshato wakho unethemba lokusebenza. Qaphela ukuba izinto azisongeli kutyelelo oluthile. Oku kukuzibophelela kwexesha elide.
Ukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo
Enye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu ukuzenza kukuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo. Uzixolela njani wena okanye iqabane lakho ngeli nqanaba lokungathembani?
Kodwa, endaweni yokukhanyisela malunga nendlela yokufumana into engaphaya komtshato okanye indlela yokujongana nokungathembeki, okokuqala, abatshatileyo kufuneka bayamkele into yokuba yenzekile. Akukho kuphika kwakhona! Emva koko, kuya kufuneka basebenze kuxolelo.
Ekuqaleni, ukucinga ngayo kusenokungavakali kunokwenzeka. Sukulindela ukuba uza kukwazi ukuxolela ngaxeshanye. Yinkqubo- ngamanye amaxesha yinkqubo ende. Inye kuphela into ekufuneka uyenzile kwasekuqaleni, kukuvulelwa uxolelo. Kholelwa ekubeni ungaqala inkqubo ukusinda ekungathembekini.
Ufumana njani ukuthembana emtshatweni
Ukwakha ukuthembana kwakhona neqabane lakho- kulapho umsebenzi wexesha elikhulu uqala khona. Ukuba nobabini nifuna ngokwenene ukuba umtshato usebenze emva kokungathembeki, emva koko inkqubo yokwakha kufuneka iqale.
Kodwa kanjani? Izinto azinakufana nakuqala, akunjalo?
Ngamanye amaxesha amaqabane abanjiswa kakhulu kukufuna ukwenza umtshato wabo ube "njengangaphambili," baphose amathuba okwenene okukhula kunye notshintsho. Musa ukunqwenela ixesha elidala. Endaweni yoko, ithemba lamaxesha amatsha. Ewe, nokuba ngawona maxesha angcono emtshatweni wakho.
Le nkolelo iya kuba nzima ekuqaleni, kodwa ukuba ninakho ukuba nobabini nibe nale nkqubo yokucinga, ke nantoni na inokwenzeka.
Qala kancinci. Nokuba yimihla ngemihla yakha ukuthembana ngokujongana nemicimbi yemihla ngemihla. Bonisa ukuba ningalapho ukuze omnye nomnye. Njengoko iqabane ngalinye libonisa, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, izinto zinokuhamba ngendlela elungileyo kwaye zinokude ziphuhle zibe yinto ebhetele kunangaphambili.
Ukuphepha ukuqhawula umtshato njengoko usakha umtshato wakho
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uqhawule umtshato ngokwenyani-ubungqina bomtshato wakho, kodwa xa abantu ababini bezibophelele kulwalamano lwabo, izinto ezimangalisayo zinokwenzeka. Uqhawulo-mtshato alufane lubekho etafileni xa bobabini abantu bonwabile kwaye behlangabezana neemfuno zabo.
Oko kuthetha ukubeka iimfuno zomlingane wakho ngaphezu kwezakho, kodwa ukunyaniseka kwiqabane lakho malunga nezinto ozifuna ngokwenene. Kuthetha ukuthanda kunye nokwamkela uthando. Bonisanani suku ngalunye ukuba umtshato wenu ubaluleke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into.
Ukungathembeki emtshatweni yinto enkulu. Esi sibini, esenza isithembiso omnye komnye ngomhla wabo womtshato, ngoku sikumhlaba ongazinzanga. Omnye wabafazi uye ngaphandle komtshato kwaye waba nokuthandana.
Ngelixa imitshato emininzi ingaphili nokungathembeki, uninzi luyasinda.
Xa omabini amaqabane azibophelele ekungathembekini kwangaphambili nokwakha umtshato, ngokusebenza nzima nothando oluninzi, banokuphila ngokungathembeki kunye.
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