Umxholo
- Iimfihlo zokugcina impilo yesondo esempilweni ngumnqweno
- Ungabelana njani ngesondo esingcono emtshatweni
- Iimfihlo zobomi obonwabisayo nobusempilweni ngokwesondo
- Yonwabela isini esifanelekileyo
Yintoni oyifunayo ngokwenene ukuba ube nobomi besondo obuphilileyo? Umnqweno? Uyolo? Umnqweno? Ukuba kufuneka ukhethe enye, ingaba yintoni? Umnqweno? Umntu unokuziva ethanda iqabane kodwa angalifumani iqabane lakhe livusa isondo.
Uyolo? Ngaphandle kokonwaba, yintoni injongo yokwenza uthando? Nangona kunjalo, abantu abaninzi banobomi obusebenzayo bezesondo ngezinye izizathu-amandla, isizungu, kunye nesithukuthezi phakathi kwabo. Umnqweno? Umnqweno uthambekele ekuphelelweni nasekubalekeni kubudlelwane, ke ngaba kungathenjwa ukugcina impilo yesondo esempilweni ngokuhamba kwexesha? Ngokuqinisekileyo!
Nantsi imfihlo malunga nomnqweno. Ukwabelana ngesondo akusoloko kuqala ngomnqweno. Udiniwe. Udiniwe. Awukho kwimeko. Uxakeke kakhulu. Ilungile! Umnqweno unokuhlakulwa.
Iimfihlo zokugcina impilo yesondo esempilweni ngumnqweno
Kuthetha ntoni 'ukuhlakulela umnqweno'? Ngaba umnqweno unagalelo lini kubomi obuphathekayo besini?
Ukudala kunye nokugcina umnqweno kubudlelwane bexesha elide kunokubonakala kuyindida. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uninzi lwethu lufuna uzinzo kunye nokuxelwa kwangaphambili xa sifuna iqabane lobomi. Oku kunokubonakala kungahambelani nokuzenzekelayo, imfihlakalo kunye nokuqina kwe-eroticism.
Isitshixo kubomi obuphathekayo besini kukuziva ukufanele kwaye ufuna ukuba nomnqweno kubudlelwane neqabane lakho. Ayisiyakhe ukuba ibe yinto enqwenelekayo kuwe, luxanduva lwakho ukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi na ekujikelayo, nokuba iyachukunyiswa, ukubonwa, ukudlala indima, intelekelelo okanye enye into. Ukuba ubufuna ngenene ubomi besondo obuphilileyo, yabelana ngale nto kunye neqabane lakho, ukuze ngamnye wenu afumane iindlela zokuvuselela kunye nokuvuselela umnqweno kuye nakwabanye.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Indima yesondo kubudlelwane
Ungabelana njani ngesondo esingcono emtshatweni
Ziqhelise.
Okukhona ubandakanyeka kulindelo, ukonwaba, kunye nenkumbulo yokuthandana ngokwesondo, kokukhona kuya kuba kokuthandekayo. Xa into iziva ilungile, ngokwemvelo siyayifuna ngaphezulu. Ukufuna ubomi obubalulekileyo bezesondo kufuna ukwenza ixesha lakho kwaye unethemba lokuba nokuba awuziva uvuliwe okwangoku, wena neqabane lakho ninokushiya isiqhelo okwethutyana kwaye nidlale kunye njenge “qabane lezesondo” (Metz, M. Epstein, N., kunye noMcCarthy B. (2017).
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ngokwe-avareji, izibini ziyafumana ukoneliseka ngokwesondo malunga neepesenti ezingama-80 zexesha. Ke, ukuba isini sangokuhlwa asiyiyo eyona ilungileyo, zama kwakhona ngomso.Ubomi besondo obuphilileyo ayisiyongxaki, ngokuchaseneyo.
Akukho sizathu sokudimazeka okanye ukugxeka ukudibana okuphele ngokwahlukileyo kunokuba bekulindelwe. Ukongeza, kunokubakho amaxesha apho ubudlelwane bezesondo abuthethi kuthi bobabini niyonwabele okanye niyonwabise. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu omnye kwesi sibini wanelisekile namhlanje, ngelixa amaqabane abo efumana ulonwabo kwelinye ithuba.
Nje ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nifunde indlela yokuvuselela inkanuko, yigcine ikhala kwaye uyakonwabela ubomi bexesha elide obusempilweni.
Iimfihlo zobomi obonwabisayo nobusempilweni ngokwesondo
Nika omnye nomnye umdlalo wokudlala, wothando emini, okanye uthi (okanye ubonise ngokubonakalayo) into eya kwandisa umdla weqabane lakho ngokwesondo.
Ukuba kukho ukungazinzi okuqhubekayo kokugcina umnqweno, ezinye izinto zinokufuna ukuqwalaselwa; umzekelo, imeko yonyango okanye inkxalabo yezempilo yengqondo. Ukuphambuka kwezesondo, okanye ukuthandana, nako kuphazamisa umnqweno. Ukuba umnqweno wokubambisana uhlala usilela kubudlelwane bakho ngaphandle kwemizamo yokuwutshabalalisa, thetha neqabane lakho ngokucingisisa malunga noku kwaye nichonge ukuba loluphi uhlobo lweengcali olunokuba luncedo.
Yonwabela isini esifanelekileyo
Enye yeengcebiso zokuphucula ubomi bakho ngokwesondo kukugcina impilo yakho elungileyo yesondo.
Iimfihlo eziphambili zempilo elungileyo yesondo kukutya okunempilo, ngakumbi ukunqanda izinto zokutya eziphezulu kwisodiyam. Ukutya okunjalo kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo lwegazi kunye nokungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-erectile. Kunqande ukutshaya, ukunciphisa ukusela utywala kunye nokwakha unxibelelwano olusempilweni ngokwesondo kunye neqabane lakho.
Ukusondela kumcimbi wobomi besondo obuphilileyo kunye sisenzo sobudlelwane ngokwako.
Khumbula, ubomi besondo obuphilileyo abunikwanga. Umnqweno kunye nolonwabo lunokuqhutywa yibhayoloji, kodwa umnqweno yingqondo yokuba nabani na anokuhlakulela kwaye onwabele ubomi obuphathekayo besondo.