Umxholo
- Kufuneka unike izipho ngesisa
- Beka umgudu kwisipho sakho kunokuba nje imali okanye ixesha
- Yenzele wena ngakumbi kunokubenzela
- 1. Ukuzingela ubuncwane
- 2. Yenza incwadi ye-scrapbook ngeememorandam
- 3. Nika isipho sokuba ngumqalisi wesini omangalisayo
- 4. Yiba ngumculi ngaphandle kokuba ube ngumculi
- 5. Izinto ezincinci ezingalindelekanga
- 6. Beka kulo mzamo ungaphezulu
Ukupha izipho kunokuba yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokugcina uthando luqinile kubudlelwane.
Ngelishwa, kwinkcubeko yethu yabathengi, uninzi lwabantu lucinga ukuba oku kuthetha ukuba "bathengele into entle."
Ukunika izipho akunakuba yintsingiselo kuphela kodwa kukhululeke ngokupheleleyo ngokwemali. Nje ukuba ufunde ukunika ixesha, ingqalelo, umgudu kunye nokucinga, kwaneyona ntliziyo inomdla wokuthanda izinto eziphathekayo inokuhanjiswa ngonxibelelwano lokwenene olwenzileyo.
Namhlanje, ndizokwabelana ngezona zipho zi-5 zibalaseleyo ndizibonileyo okanye ndizibonileyo zinikezwe kubudlelwane.
Ngaphambi kokuba ndenze, kubalulekile ukuqonda imigaqo-siseko yokunika izipho eziyinyani ezenza ukuba kube yinto enamandla yokwenza.
Kufuneka unike izipho ngesisa
Esi sipho asinakusetyenziswa njengemali ukufumana into komnye umntu njengembuyekezo okanye sinikwe nje ngaphandle kwesibophelelo.
Ndincoma ukugxila ekunikezeni izipho ngaphandle "kwesizathu" esifana nemihla yokuzalwa okanye isikhumbuzo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba basithande isipho sakho.
Kukunika okubalulekileyo.
Zama ukupha ungakhange ubekho xa iqabane lakho lisamkela, ukuze ukonwabele ukungazi ukuba basabele njani.
Beka umgudu kwisipho sakho kunokuba nje imali okanye ixesha
Isipho kufuneka sibe nentsingiselo kwaye sicinge ukuba siza kuba nefuthe elihle kubudlelwane.
Kuya kufuneka ibonakalise ukuba uyakhathala, nokuba ubakhathalele ukuba ngoobani, ubajonga njengabantu abangaqhelekanga, kwaye ubeka ubudlelwane kwindawo yokuqala kunezinye izinto ezinjengokubukela umabonwakude.
Yenzele wena ngakumbi kunokubenzela
Ndiyazi, oku kuvakala kuyinto enomdla okanye kukuzingca, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukususa intswelo ekunikezelweni kwezipho ukuze ibe sisenzo sothando lokwenene.
Xa usenzela wena, kuyanelisa ukwenza nje, ke basifumana ngenene isipho simahla, kwaye abaziva benyanzelekile ukuba basibuyisele eso sipho. Ngamagama alula, qiniseka ukuba uyayonwabela inkqubo yokunika kangangoko bonwabela ukukufumana.
Le mithetho-siseko iya kuba nengqondo ngakumbi njengoko ndicacisa imizekelo yam:
1. Ukuzingela ubuncwane
Amava abaluleke ngakumbi kunezinto onazo.
Awona mava anentsingiselo ngawona uzenzele wona ngokuchasene nokuhlawulela nje ukuba babone indalo yomnye umntu. Indlela enexabiso eliphantsi kwaye emnandi yokwenza oku kukuzingela ubuncwane.
Bafika ekhaya, kwaye kukho inqaku emnyango. Awufumaneki. Inqaku linomkhondo, ubakhokelela kwindawo yokufihla apho kukho unyango oluncinci (umzekelo, ikuki) kunye nenye inqaku.
Nokuba yeyiphi na imini embi ababenayo ilibalekile, kwaye imeko yaba nomdla kubo.
Ngaba imikhondo ibakhokelele ejikeleze izangqa, kunye nendawo yokugqibela ekuyiyo?
Ayisiyokwenza nje ngalo naliphi na ixesha, kodwa ikhululekile ukuyenza kwaye kuya kuba mnandi ukuyakhela. Amanqaku ongezelelweyo ukuba isikhombisi ngasinye sikwabandakanya into yobuqu abanokuyikhumbula ngothando (umzekelo, "umkhondo wakho olandelayo uya kufumaneka apho sasiqala khona ukwanga kule ndlu").
2. Yenza incwadi ye-scrapbook ngeememorandam
Intombi yam kunye nam siyadanisa, kwaye sasisoloko sizishicilela ngokwethu sidanisa. Sineevidiyo ezininzi zokudanisa, zisasazeke kwiifolda ezahlukeneyo kunye nokugcinwa kwe-intanethi.
Ke ngesinye isikhumbuzo somthendeleko wethu, ndizikhuphelela kuzo zonke kwintonga ye-USB ukuze azibukele zingayeki, ngokulandelelana kwazo. Ifana ne-mixtape kodwa enobuntu ngakumbi.
Unokwenza okufanayo neefoto okanye wenze incwadi ye-scrapbook ngaphandle kweememorabilia (umzekelo, i-movie stubs). Ukuba ungumhleli wokuhlela, yenza ividiyo yokudityaniswa kweyona bhanyabhanya bayithandayo.
3. Nika isipho sokuba ngumqalisi wesini omangalisayo
Ingxaki enye entliziyweni yolwalamano oluninzi lwexesha elide bubunkokeli bezesondo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngumlo weminqweno malunga nokuba ngubani na ekufuneka aqalise.
Amadoda anamhlanje ahlala ehlala ekhululekile ngokwesondo, kwaye abafazi baphoqeleka ukuba banxibe iibhulukhwe ngokungathandi. Ngabantwana kunye nomsebenzi kunye noxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla, umbono wokuba ngowokuqala inkqubo yesini uziva ngathi ngumsebenzi kwabaninzi. Ke nika isipho sokuqala.
Khanyisa amakhandlela kunye nesiqhumiso, ubeke umculo omnandi, uze uze ubalinde bangene egumbini. Nokuba abazivelanga kuyo, yiba neoyile yokuthambisa ekulungele ukubanika ubuncinci ixesha lokuphumla.
4. Yiba ngumculi ngaphandle kokuba ube ngumculi
Ndiyathanda ukuzoba, ngelixa umntu endiza kutshata naye ethanda ukwenza ezo ncwadi zinemibala yabantu abadala ukuze aphelise uxinzelelo.
Ke, kusuku lwakhe lokuzalwa olulandelayo, ndimzobele incwadi yekhathuni esenza izinto zethu esizithandayo (umz. “Ndiyakuthanda ukuya elwandle nawe” ngomfanekiso ohlekisayo wethu sitshiswa lilanga), ndaza ndamshiya ngombala ukuba akwenze .
Awudingi ukuba ube ngumculi wobugcisa obuthile. Benzele ikhadi, okanye inqaku elihlekisayo kwisipili ngaphambi kokusebenza.
Ndakhe ndachwetheza uluhlu lwazo zonke izinto endizithandayo malunga nentombi yam. Yayikhangeleka njenge-ajenda yeentlanganiso ekruqulayo, kodwa yayinentsingiselo kwaye iyamangalisa kangangokuba wakhala. Wakhe wandenzela incwadana encinci ngayo yonke into endifuna ukuyazi ukumkholisa ebhedini- yeyona ncwadi iluncedo endakha ndayifunda.
Ukuba uyakwazi ukwakha izinto, menzele into. Ukuba uyakwazi ukupheka, mondle. Ukuba uyakwazi ukucula, mbhalele ingoma.
Sebenzisa izakhono zakho ukuzuza ubudlelwane.
5. Izinto ezincinci ezingalindelekanga
Ayizizo iziganeko ezinkulu kunye nezipho ezibaluleke kakhulu. Zizinto ezincinci nezingalindelekanga.
Ndilwenzile usuku lwentombazana yam nge- $ 3 imbiza yeentyatyambo evela kwivenkile enkulu, kuba engayiboni isiza. Ndiza kushiya itshokholethi ifihlwe ndaweni ithile apho aya kuzifumana yedwa (njengokugoba itawuli yakhe yokuhlamba).
Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyathanda ukuzenza ngathi ndifikelela kuye ukuze ndibambe into ethile kodwa ngequbuliso ndimbambe ndize ndimange ngaphandle kwesizathu. UTHANDA xa ndenza izinto ezinje.
6. Beka kulo mzamo ungaphezulu
Ukupha kukubeka ingcinga kunye nomzamo wokwenza kube mnandi, umdla kunye nokudlala ukuze ube kubudlelwane nawe.
Ikwabangela ukuba uyeke ukuxakeka kobomi bakho okomzuzwana kwaye ujonge iqabane lakho.
Ukuba ufana nam kwaye uqhutywa yimishini yakho kunye nobomi ngokubanzi, ukuya kwinqanaba lokulibala ezi zinto, yenza into endiyenzayo kwaye wenze izikhumbuzo kwikhalenda yakho njenge-
“Ndingayinika njani intombazana yam le veki?”
Yenzani kube mnandi kwaye niphumle, kwaye nina nobabini niphumelele kuyo.