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Ngokungafaniyo noqhawulo-mtshato, ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kuvumela izibini ukuba zihlale ngokwahlukeneyo ngelixa zisatshatile.
Ngaphandle kokuba ulixhoba lobundlobongela basekhaya okanye ubuqhetseba bemali, ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kungcono kunokuqhawula umtshato njengoko kuvumela izibini ukuba ziphinde zisithathele ingqalelo isigqibo sokwahlukana. Xa bohlukaniswe ngokusemthethweni, isibini sinokujongana nemicimbi ebalulekileyo enjengokugcinwa komntwana kunye nemicimbi yezemali kunye nokwenza izicwangciso ngekamva.
Ukwahlukana komtshato kulula kubantwana kunokuqhawula umtshato.
Ixesha lokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni linceda izibini ukuba ziphonononge amathuba oxolelwaniso okanye zichonge ukuba zifuna ukubhekisa kuqhawulo mtshato. Ngapha koko, indlela oziphethe ngayo ngeli xesha iyakuchaphazela kakhulu ubudlelwane bakho bomtshato okanye iziphumo zenkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato. Ke ngoko, nokuba ubukrakra kangakanani ubudlelwane bakho bomtshato, kuya kufuneka uphathe ngokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni ngendlela eyiyo.
Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzenzile kunye nezinto ongazenziyo zokwahlukana ngokusemthethweni okuya kukukhokela ngeli xesha lokuzama.
Imilinganiselo yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni-
1. Khuthaza unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo kunye neqabane lakho
Ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kuzisa iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, ezinjengomsindo, inzondo, umona, ukuphoxeka nokudakumba.
Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezikrakra kwiqabane lakho, ukanti, ezi mvakalelo akufuneki zikuyekise ekubeni nincokole ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka naye. Ngapha koko, ukunqongophala konxibelelwano emtshatweni kunokuwanciphisa amathuba oxolelwaniso okanye kukhokelele kwiziphumo zoqhawulo mtshato ezibi kwaye kuchaphazele kakubi ukukhula komntwana wakho ngokubanzi.
Xoxa neqabane lakho malunga nokuba ninohlala njani ngoxolo kubudlelwane kwaye nithethe nabantwana bakho ngalo ngaphandle kokubacaphukisa ngokweemvakalelo. Yenza imida esempilweni emalunga nomntwana wakho noxanduva lwasekhaya kunye nobudlelwane bakho bomtshato.
Umzekelo, ayilunganga into yokuzibandakanya kwimicimbi yesondo neqabane lakho ngeli xesha njengoko inokwenza izinto zibe nzima.
Ke, kububulumko ukuseta imida kulwalamano lwakho neqabane lakho.
2. Gcina imeko ikhoyo ngoku
Ngaphandle kokuzahlula ngokwasemthethweni, kuya kufuneka ugcine imeko ekuyo ngoku. Ke, ukuba ubuhlawula amatyala ezinto ezisetyenziswayo ekhaya okanye imali mboleko yendlu, qhubeka usenza oko njengokuba utshatile.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuhlawula uninzi lwamatyala kungathumela umyalezo ongeyonyani wokuba ungalixhasa iqabane lakho nasemva koqhawulo-mtshato kwaye angenza ibango lenkxaso yomlingane oqinileyo.
Ke ngoko, kububulumko ukusebenzisana negqwetha lakho ukwahlula iindleko ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Ukongeza, ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho nimkile ekhaya, musani ukucaphukisa indawo yokuhlala yabantwana. Ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu kumalungiselelo osapho kusenokuba nefuthe lexesha elide kubudlelwane bakho bomtshato nakwiziphumo zoqhawulo-mtshato.
3. Nika ingqalelo kwimicimbi yemali
Lonke eli xesha ubuqhele ukuba nemivuzo emibini.Emva kokwahlukana, nangona kunjalo, jonga ukhetho lwakho lwezezimali ukuxhasa usapho.
Ukuphonononga i-asethi nganye yomtshato okanye umthombo wengeniso kunye nenkcitho ukulinganisa umgangatho wokuphila. Bala uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali olusebenzayo lokubonelela iimfuno ezisisiseko kusapho lwakho.
Ukuba uneakhawunti yebhanki edibeneyo kunye neqabane lakho, kuyacetyiswa ukuba uzivale emva kokuhlawula amatyala, ukuba akhona. Kuphephe ukurhola isixa esikhulu semali kwiakhawunti yakho edibeneyo okanye ukuhambisa iasethi kumhlobo osondeleyo okanye isalamane.
Ukwenza njalo kuya kutsala izohlwayo ezingeyomfuneko kwaye konakalise ukuthembeka kwakho enkundleni.
Ngapha koko, kububulumko ukuqokelela iikopi zamaxwebhu emali, anje ngembuyekezo yerhafu, ibhanki, ikhadi letyala, kunye neengxelo zomhlala-phantsi, iinkqubo zeinshurensi, umyolelo, amaxwebhu emali-mboleko kunye neengxelo zokuthenga indlu. Ukuququzelela amaxwebhu akho emali kuya kuyenza inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato ibe mpuluswa ukuba ukwahlukana kwenu kufike kuloo ndawo.
4. Bala ngenkxaso yobungcali
Ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kuyadinisa ngokweemvakalelo, kukushiya ungenamandla okuzikhathalela okanye ukwenza izigqibo ezizizo.
Bandakanya iingcali, ezinje ngegqwetha lakho loqhawulo-mtshato, umcebisi ngemitshato, ingcali kwezonyango, okanye umcebisi ngezezimali, onokukunceda ujongane nale meko kwaye wenze izigqibo ezizizo. Umzekelo, ingcali inokukunceda ukhuphe iimvakalelo zakho ezikrakra kunye nokukhathazeka, kukuvumela ukuba uphume kwimeko uzive womelele ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Kwangokunjalo, igqwetha loqhawulo-mtshato elinobuchule kunye nomcebisi ngezemali unokukunceda ngezinto ezinobuqhetseba zokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni. Oku kubandakanya ukwahlulwa ngokufanelekileyo kwempahla yomtshato, amatyala, kunye nokonga umhlala-phantsi, inkxaso yomntwana / yomlingane, amalungelo elifa, kunye nemicimbi yeinshurensi yobomi.
Ngapha koko, ukuba urhanela iqabane lakho ngokungathembeki, ukufihla iimpahla zomtshato, okanye ukuphatha kakubi umntwana wakho, igqwetha lakho lingathumela umphandi wangasese onokukunceda ukuqokelela ubungqina obuthandayo.
Izinto ongazenzi ngokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni-
1. Kuphephe ukungena kubudlelwane obutsha
Wena neqabane lakho nihlukene ngokusemthethweni, nto leyo ethetha ukuba akukho namnye kuni ongatshatanga.
Inkundla yosapho ikunike ixesha lokufumanisa ukuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni ngalo mtshato. Ke ngoko, eli ngokuqinisekileyo ayiloxesha lokujonga iqabane oza kuba nalo.
Ukwenza njalo akuyi kunciphisa kuphela amathuba akho wokulungisa ubudlelwane bakho bomtshato kodwa kukwenza umfanekiso ombi ngawe phambi kwejaji ukuba uphela uqhawula umtshato.
2. Sukusebenza kakhulu kwimidiya yoluntu
Kunqande ukusebenzisa imithombo yeendaba njengeqonga lokuveza iimvakalelo zakho okanye ukudelela iqabane lakho. Ngokunjalo, musa ukuthumela imifanekiso enokusetyenziswa njengobungqina obuchasene nawe. Umzekelo, ukuthumela umfanekiso apho uzonwabisa khona kunye nomntwana wakho ephethe ibhotile yebhiya (nanjengokuhlekisa) kunokubonisa ukuba ngumzali ongafanelekanga egameni lakho kwaye kunokusetyenziswa nxamnye nawe enkundleni.
Ulwazi olufumaneka kwizithuba zakho kwimidiya yoluntu luyamkeleka kwinkundla yosapho, ke jonga into oyipapashayo.
Ngapha koko, kuthintele ukuthumela amanqaku akho aphazamisayo ngokweemvakalelo, imiyalezo ebhaliweyo, okanye ii-imeyile kwiqabane lakho njengoko zinokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho, ukuhlawula umtshato kunye nelungiselelo lokugcina umntwana.
3. Kunqande ukungcolisa iqabane lakho
Nokuba ukhathazekile kangakanani neqabane lakho, ayisokuze ibe ngumbono olungileyo ukumbeka phambi kwabantwana bakho, usapho okanye abahlobo bakho.
Ukwenza njalo akuyi kudala kuphela uxinzelelo xa usebenza neqabane lakho kwindawo efanelekileyo kodwa kuya kuchaphazela nabantwana bakho ngokweemvakalelo, kubenze bazive bengakhuselekanga.
4. Kuphephe ukolula ixesha elide ukwahlukana
Ukwandisa ukwahlukana ngokusemthethweni iminyaka eliqela akunampilo kuwe nakusapho lwakho.
Ukuba wena neqabane lakho anikwazi ukuxolelana, musani ukuhlala ngokwala okanye ngethemba lokuba ubudlelwane benu buza kukhula buphele. Endaweni yoko, qhawula umtshato kwaye uqhubeke, ngaloo ndlela ujonge phambili ekudaleni ubomi obunempilo wena kunye nabantwana bakho.
Xa ingcinga yokuqhawula umtshato ibonakala iyothusa, ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni lolona khetho lufanelekileyo. Ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kukunika indawo kunye nexesha kude neqabane lakho, likukhuthaze ukuba uvumelane neemvakalelo zakho, usombulule imiba yomtshato, kwaye ugqibe ngendlela eya phambili.
Nangona kunjalo, indlela oziphatha ngayo ngexesha lokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni inokubonisa ubukhulu becala izizathu zakho zoqhawulo-mtshato, ukuba kuyenzeka oko.
Sebenzisa ulwazi ekwabelwana ngalo kule posi ukukhangela indlela yokudibanisa yokwahlukana komtshato.