Umxholo
- 1. Ukuzikhathalela kwabazali- imeko eqhelekileyo yobomi bakho
- 2. Utshintsho oluthile kufuneka luziswe ebomini bakho
- 3. Ukukhulisa ubudlelwane babantakwenu
- 4. Musa ukuba neentloni ekufuneni uncedo
Njengokonwaba njengoko kunokubonakala ngathi kwamkela umzali; Kunikiwe ukuba ngumzali, kwaye bekusoloko kungumzabalazo onzima. Kwaye, ukuba ngumzali wabantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa ngumdlalo webhola eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo.
Xa uza kukhulisa umntwana oneemfuno ezizodwa ezifana nokuba umntwana wakho unokukhubazeka komzimba, imiba yokufunda, i-autism, ixhala, i-OCD, ukukhathazeka okuphuculweyo, okanye nakuphi na okunye ukungaqheleki kwezonyango, umzabalazo ushenxiselwa kwinqanaba elitsha lobunzima.
Ukususela kumthwalo weemvakalelo, kuqala kuwe njengomzali, kubunzima obujamelene nosapho; Yonke into ibonakala ingahambi kakuhle ngelixa ikhulisa umntwana oneemfuno ezizodwa.
Kodwa phakathi kwayo yonke le nto, sonke kufuneka siqonde ukuba ukwenza izinto zenzeke endaweni kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kodwa ukuba ngumzali kubantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa ngokuqinisekileyo akunakwenzeka.
Ke, ungajongana njani neemfuno ezizodwa zomntwana?
Siyavuma umzabalazo wakho wokuba ngumzali wabantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa. Ukukunceda uphume, esi sikhokelo sineemfuno ezi-4 ezibalulekileyo zeengcebiso zokuba ngumzali ekufuneka uzazi!
1. Ukuzikhathalela kwabazali- imeko eqhelekileyo yobomi bakho
Bathi, ‘’ Umntu akanako ukugalela kwindebe engenanto.’’ Yiyo kanye le nto ukuzihoya kwabazali ngayo.
Ixhasa uluvo lokuba ukuze umntu abe luncedo kwaye abakhathalele abanye, kufuneka azikhathalele naye ukuze akwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yabo.
Ewe ayisiyonto ifihlakeleyo yokuba abantwana abangabazali abaneemfuno ezizodwa bazisa uxinzelelo- ngokwasemoyeni nangokwasemzimbeni njengoko iimfuno zabo ezizodwa zifuna inkcitho ephezulu ukuba igcinwe.
Ke ngoko, Kucetyiswa ngamandla ukuba abazali abakuloo khaya bafune iindlela ezinzulu, zovelwano.
Ngapha koko, kubalulekile ukuba ukwenze oko njengoko kunceda ekupheliseni amanqanaba oxinzelelo olugqithisileyo kwiintsapho ezinjalo; otyiswa umntwana okhethekileyo naye.
Ke, yiba nexesha lokuba wedwa yonke imihla. Qinisekisa ukwenza izinto ezikwenza uzive wonwabile kwaye ukhululeke rhoqo.
2. Utshintsho oluthile kufuneka luziswe ebomini bakho
Ukuba ngumzali wabantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa kuhlala kumenza umntu aphile ubomi obungenangqondo. Kubalulekile ukwamkela ukuba ukwenza loo nto ayisiyonto ingeyiyo kodwa kukungalunganga.
Yiya kwiindawo zokuhamba kwaye wonwabe njengokuba wawukwenza ngaphambili.
Pakisha kwaye ujikeleze ngendlela obuya kwenza ngayo ukuba ubunomntwana oqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, qiniseka ukuthatha amanyathelo athile ngaphambi kokushiya.
Uyacetyiswa ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo kunye nomntwana wakho owenzelwe iintsapho ezizodwa ezineemfuno zokhathalelo olukhethekileyo. Kukwacetyiswa ukuba ujonge kunye nabahlobo bakho, kwaye wenze umntwana wakho ahlangane kunye nokunxibelelana nabantu.
Oku akuncedi kuphela ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo umntu anokujongana nalo kodwa kukwabangela ukuba umntwana azithembe kwaye abe noxinzelelo lwentlalo.
Khumbula, usukelo lwakho kufuneka lube kukwenza umntwana wakho azive ‘ekhethekileyo’ kwaye ingafani. Yamkela umntwana wakho njengomntu oqhelekileyo, ekugqibeleni, sonke asiyonto ngaphandle kwabantu.
3. Ukukhulisa ubudlelwane babantakwenu
Kwikhaya elinomntwana oneemfuno ezizodwa, ingqalelo yabazali ithambekele ekubeni iphambukise umntwana okhethekileyo. Oku kunokubenza abanye abantwana bakho bazive behlukanisiwe okanye bengathandwa kangako.
Ke ngoko, zama ukuqiniseka ukuba wonke umntwana wakho ufumana ingqalelo ethile. Ungababuza malunga nokuba luhambe njani usuku lwabo okanye ubafundele amabali abawathandayo ngexesha lokulala.
Kodwa, ngelixa ungumzali onabantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa, qiniseka ukuba unikezela ixesha elikhethekileyo nakwabanye abantwana bakho. Kubalulekile kubo ukuba bazive bebaluleke ngokulinganayo, bethandwa, kwaye bexabisiwe kusapho.
Kwangelo xesha, kubalulekile ukuba wazise abanye abantwana bakho malunga neemfuno ezizodwa zomntakwabo.
Ukutyhila indlela yokunceda abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa kwabanye abantwana bakho kubunzulu kuya kubenza baqonde ubunzima bakho. Ngobudala, banokukujoyina ukhathalele umntakwabo okhethekileyo.
Ekuqaleni, unokuzama ukubabandakanya kwimisebenzi yolonwabo yokwenza kunye neemfuno ezizodwa zomntwana. Oku kukhuthaza amaxabiso osapho, uthando novelwano.
4. Musa ukuba neentloni ekufuneni uncedo
Kuxinzelelo ngakumbi ukuba ungumzali osebenzayo okanye ungumzali ongenaqabane onemfuno ezizodwa zomntwana. Imiceli mngeni yokuba ngumzali womntwana okhubazekileyo iphindaphindeka ngeendlela ezininzi.
Abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa kufuneka babe phantsi kweliso labadala ngalo lonke ixesha. Ukuqesha umnakekeli yeyona ndlela yokukunceda apha ingakumbi ukuba uyasebenza okanye ungumzali ongenaqabane.
Vumela umnakekeli womntwana wakho agcine umkhondo wakho konke ukuqeshwa, iimvavanyo, kunye nezinto ekufuneka ziye kumntwana wakho.
Oku kwenza ukuba izinto zihambe kakuhle kunokuba besilindele.
Ukuba ungumzali wabantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa, kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ufuna uncedo ngemfuno ezizodwa zomntwana. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ligorha kwaye wenze yonke imisebenzi wedwa.
Kukho izixhobo ezininzi, kunye nenkxaso efumanekayo kubazali abaneemfuno ezizodwa zabantwana, zombini kwi-Intanethi nakwi-intanethi. Kananjalo intlalontle kwiintsapho ezinomntwana okhethekileyo zinokubonelela ngolwazi olubalulekileyo ngendlela yokuphatha abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa.
Ukusonga phezulu
Njengoko kuxoxiwe kumacandelo angaphambili, ukuba ngumzali wabantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa kuyadinisa, kodwa akunakwenzeka.
Ungalahlekani kwinkqubo yokunceda abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa. Zinyamekele kakuhle ukuze ukhathalele abantwana bakho ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo.
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