Umxholo
- Ngaba ubeka ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho
- Izitshixo zokwenza ubudlelwane obunolwazi kunye nenjongo
- Thatha isigqibo namhlanje sokwahluka kwaye uphucule ubomi bakho ngokwesondo
Isibini esitshatileyo kutshanje sithe, "Ngubani onexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, unezinto ezininzi ezenzekayo kwaye unezinto ezininzi ekufuneka uzenzile kwaye udiniwe nje, ngoko ke awuzenzi rhoqo (okanye akukho kwaphela")
Kuninzi ukwenza, uxakeke kakhulu ngesondo, ukhathele kakhulu ukudibanisa, kunye nokusondelana kwaye uyazibuza ukuba yintoni eyenza ubudlelwane obuninzi bunzima?
Ngaba ubeka ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho
Mhlawumbi ubeka ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho emazantsi oluhlu. Wena linda de yonke into enokwenziwa emsebenzini, ekhaya, nabantwana bakho, noluntu, icawe, usapho olwandisiweyo kunye nezinye izinto ozicwangcisileyo zenziwe zonke emva koko uthi awusenanto ishiyekileyo.
Xa ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho lishiywa kwindawo yokugqibela emva koko yintoni eseleyo yokwenza unxibelelwano lwenzeke?
Umntu kufuneka enze intshukumo, abe nesidingo, acele ubukho bomnye kwaye acele isondo into into engathandiyo ukuthetha ngayo kwaphela.
Uninzi luye lwathi: “Ndicinga ukuba‘ kufanele ukuba ibe yinto yendalo eyenzeka nje. Into eyenzekayo ngaphandle kwamandla, ingqalelo okanye ukucwangciswa kwemisebenzi yomlilo iya kutshiswa, kwaye kufuneka ibe yinto enomdla kunye nokuthandana njengakwimiboniso bhanyabhanya.
Nantsi inyani. Ngaphandle kokuba uzimisele, unengqondo kwaye uzimisele malunga nobudlelwane bakho ngokwesondo neqabane lakho, ayizukwenzeka loo nto.
Izitshixo zokwenza ubudlelwane obunolwazi kunye nenjongo
Kuya kufuneka usebenzele ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunokwabelana ngesondo kunye neqabane lakho, ulenzele ixesha kwaye ulubeke kwindawo yokuqala, hayi ukuphela kosuku okanye into yokujonga uluhlu 'lokwenza' kwizihlandlo ezikhethekileyo.
Ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho kunye nonxibelelwano ayisiyomlingo kwaye ayenzeki ngaphandle kokondla. Abanye bathe: “Andicingi ngesondo.” Ewe, inokuba lixesha lokuba uqale ukucinga ngayo, ukuze uyenze yenzeke! ngekhe uphumelele emsebenzini ungakhange ucinge ngawo, akunjalo?
Kwiziluleko zokucebisa, ndiva abaninzi ngobomi bokwabelana ngesondo bengakhalazi malunga "nomqolo womqolo" s / uhlala efuna. Bemba iinyawo zabo kwaye bayala "ukuyenza" kwaye balahle ithuba kubudlelwane kunye nasekuphuhliseni iqhina lokubeka omnye umntu kuqala.
Isibini sithi: "Ewe, undixelele ukuba akayithandi le okanye leya okanye ebexakeke kakhulu kwaye awuzuphinda uyenze lonto." Kutheni usenza oko? nonke ningabantu abazithandayo abafuna kodwa benqabile ukunika. woyika ukwaliwa kodwa ufuna ukwamkelwa nothando olungenamiqathango.
Thatha isigqibo namhlanje sokwahluka kwaye uphucule ubomi bakho ngokwesondo
Uya kufuna ukukhetha ukuphuma kwimikhwa yakho kwaye uzame izinto ezintsha kunye nokuziphatha okutsha ukwenza utshintsho kunye nokuhlaziya ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokwesondo kunye neqabane lakho.
Nazi iindlela zokucinga ezenza ubudlelwane bakho bonwabe kwaye kuphucula ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho.
- Khumbula ukuba yonke into ayithethi ngawe kwaye ufuna ntoni, uziva njani, okanye ufuna ntoni okanye iqabane lakho. Ubudlelwane, ngakumbi ubudlelwane bakho ngokwesondo budinga ipetroli yokutsha.
- Yiba lutshintsho ofuna ukulubona kubudlelwane bakho bezesondo. Ukulinda iqabane lakho ukuba lihambe, likwenzele, okanye libonise ukuba bafuna wena yindlela yokufumana into oyifunayo. Ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, obunomdla, obunothando kunye neentlantsi-yenza ukuba kwenzeke! Ukiss oza kuphuzwa, ubambe ukuze uchukunyiswe.
- Qaphela iqabane lakho, iimfuno zabo, ulwimi lwabo lothando, kunye nezinto abazithandayo (ukubamba izandla, ukuchukumisa, ixesha elisemgangathweni, ukugoba, ukubuyisa umva). Oku kukunika umkhondo malunga nendlela yokudibanisa.
- Ukuba ufuna ukurabha ngasemva okanye ukubamba okungaphezulu, ukubamba izandla, ukugoba, emva koko uqalise oko kunye neqabane lakho nitshintshane. Le yindawo apho kungathethi kangako, kwaye amanyathelo angakumbi anokukunceda nobabini.
- Jonga "ezibangela" ezenza imeko yezesini kunye nesimo sengqondo. Ukuba abantwana bakho bangene kwigumbi lakho lokulala okanye ebhedini nangaliphi na ixesha ayizukudala imeko yezesondo. Yintoni ebeka wena neqabane lakho kwimood? Cinga emva.
Ngaba lowo ngumculo, umdaniso, ukuchukumisa, iglasi yewayini, ukuhlamba kunye, ukulala ngaphandle kweepijama, ukuba usehotele, useholideyini, unxibe iimpahla zangaphantsi okanye enye into? Yenza imeko eya kwenza imood kunye nobudlelwane bezesondo kunye neqabane lakho.
- Unokuzama iindlela zokucamngca ngesibini kunye nokusondelelana. Yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubuyisela uthando kunye nokulawula ukuthanda kwakho kulwalamano lwakho. Zininzi iindlela ezilula zokulandela, iindlela zokucamngca ngesibini esitshatileyo kwi-intanethi ukuqala kunye nokuphucula ngokuthe ngcembe umgangatho wobudlelwane bezesondo neqabane lakho.
Ulwalamano lwakho ngokwesondo kunye nolwalamano olusenyongweni lusezandleni zakho. Ukuba ufuna ukusondelelana ngakumbi, qala ngokuzitshintsha kwaye wenze ukuba yenzeke. Ukuba uthandana nomnye umntu okokuqala ngethemba lokudala ulwalamano olunomdla, ulwalamano olunomdla ngokwesini ungayenza ntoni?
Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe kwenzeke ngokungahoyi okanye ngokuthi udinwe kakhulu okanye ungacingi ngako; ingayenza iphele. Zinto zini ezintathu onokuzenza ukudala intlantsi kuwe kwaye ube lutshintsho ofuna ukulubona kubudlelwane bakho bezesondo?
Sisipho ozinika sona kunye nenucleus yabo bonke ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokwesondo. Yenza ukuba kwenzeke namhlanje!