Kunyaka omtsha, uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bayaqhubeka nokwenza iimpazamo ezifanayo kubudlelwane babo njengoko besenzile kunyaka ophelileyo. Uninzi lwezi zibini zisemngciphekweni woqhawulo-mtshato, zifike kwindawo apho zingasathandani, kwaye zahlule amakhaya azo aba babini, oko kukuthi, umntu omnye uhlala kwelinye icala lendlu kwaye omnye uhlala kwelinye icala.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho ezinye izibini ezigqibe kwelokuba nangona zisenza iimpazamo ezifanayo, zamkele uxanduva ngezenzo zazo kwaye zikulungele ukuqhubela phambili ngokwenza ubudlelwane bazo bube ngcono kwaye zisondele.
Ke yintoni eyenza ezi zibini zahluke kwizibini ezikulungeleyo ukuncama, ziyeke, zihambe kude kubudlelwane okanye emtshatweni wazo. Ndingacinga ukuba yeyabo:
- Uthando omnye komnye
- Ukukwazi kwabo ukugxila kwiingxaki hayi komnye nomnye
- Ukukwazi ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo
- Ithoni kunye nokukhetha kwabo amagama xa bethetha omnye nomnye
- Ukukwazi kwabo ukunqanda ukuhlaselana xa kuncokolwa
- Ukukwazi kwabo ukwamkela ukuba kukho into engalunganga
- Ukukwazi kwabo ukungavumeli iimvakalelo zabo ukuba zilawule izenzo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo
- Ukuzinikela kwabo kuThixo, izifungo zomtshato, kunye nakomnye nomnye
- Ukuvuma kwabo ukutshintsha
- Ukuzimisela kwabo ukubeka ixesha kunye nomzamo owenzileyo ukwenza ubudlelwane babo busebenze
- Kwaye ukulungela kwabo ukutyala imali kunye kunye nolwalamano lwabo
Kodwa ndiyakholelwa, ukuba zikhona ezinye izinto izibini ezenzayo ukwenza ubudlelwane babo buhlale kunye nokukhula ngokusondeleleneyo, ezinye izibini ezisilelayo ukuzenza. Umzekelo, izibini ezifuna ubudlelwane bazo buhlale:
- Sanukutyesana: Musa ukubanjwa ulungisa wonke umntu, ukuba bayabutyeshela ubudlelwane babo okanye umtshato. Bayayiqonda into yokuba ubudlelwane buthatha umsebenzi, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba bazame ukunceda abanye, bafuna uncedo kubo.
- Sukuthatha omnye nomnye njengesiqhelo: Kwaye ukuba bayayenza, bayaxolisa kwaye benze utshintsho ukuze bangaphinde bayenze kwakhona.
- Thandanani omnye nomnye yonke imihla: Bayakhuthazana kwaye bayancedana; abajongi kwimiba emibi, kwaye babeka ingqalelo ngakumbi kwizinto ezintle malunga nomnye kunye nobudlelwane. Bafumana iindlela zokubonana ngokwembono entsha eyahlukileyo mihla le.
- Xabisa: Bayazixabisa izinto ezincinci malunga nabanye kunye nobudlelwane babo.
- Yamkela: Baxelelana kwaye babonisane indlela abazixabisa ngayo iimpawu okanye izenzo ezithile.
- Ungaze usebenzise ubuqhetseba: Abakhohlisani ukuze bafumane into abayifunayo, kwaye bayayiqonda into yokuba abanakunyanzelana ukuba benze izinto ezithile, kungoko ke abazami.
- Xolelanani: Baxolela naxa bengafuni, kwaye baqonde ukuba ukuya kulala benomsindo kubangela ukuba ubudlelwane okanye umtshato wabo ubandezeleke. Bakholelwa ekuphuzeni ngokwenyani nokwenza izinto ngaphambi kokuba balale. Nokuba ngubani olungileyo okanye ongalunganga, bahlala bexolelana kuba bayaqonda ukuba ukulunga akubalulekanga, kodwa ukuxolelwa kubalulekile.
- Yamkela kwaye uhloniphe iyantlukwano yomnye nomnye: Abazami ukutshintsha omnye komnye. Basenokungathandi yonke into malunga nomnye, kodwa BAYAHLONiphana. Abazami ukunyanzela omnye komnye ukuba atshintshe abe yinto angayiyo, okanye banyanzelane ukuba benze into engonwabisiyo.
- Ukungavumelani ngaphandle kokungxola nokumemeza: Babeka iimvakalelo zabo ecaleni xa benengxoxo. Izibini ezivuthiweyo ngokweemvakalelo ziyaqonda ukuba ukuhlaselana ngexesha lengxabano okanye ingxoxo akuyisombululi ingxaki.
- Vumelana ithuba lokuthetha: Bakwenza oku ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Abaphulaphuli ukuphendula; beva ukuze baqonde. Ababini abenza iimpendulo entlokweni yabo ngelixa omnye umntu ethetha, kunqabile ukuba bakhulise ukuqonda ukuba omnye umntu uthini okanye utheni.
- Ungaze ucinge: Abathathi ukuba bayazi ukuba omnye ucinga ntoni, babuza imibuzo ukuze bacacise kwaye bafumane ukuqonda. Bayazamkela kwaye bayakuqonda ukuba abafundisi ngengqondo.
- Sukulinganisa: Abayilinganisi impumelelo yobudlelwane babo nolunye ubudlelwane, kwaye abayithelekisi nezinye izibini. Abazange bathi “Akwaba ubufana ____________. Le yingxelo # 1 echitha ubudlelwane nemitshato.
- Sukuvumela iimpazamo ezidlulileyo: Abavumeli iimpazamo ezidlulileyo kunye namava ukuba axelele ikamva labo okanye ukonwaba kunye. Bayayiqonda eyadlulayo ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ukuqhubela phambili kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuzisa okwenzekileyo okanye okungakhange kwenzeke.
- Qonda ukubaluleka kokuvuleka: Zinyanisekile, kwaye ziyahambelana ngamanye amaxesha. Bayayiqonda indlela ezixabiseke ngayo ezi mpawu kubudlelwane babo.
- Yithi nceda, enkosi: Basebenzisa amabinzana afana 'Ndiyakuthanda', kwaye 'Ndiyakuthanda rhoqo'. Bayaziqonda ukuba ezi ziingxelo ezixabisekileyo kwaye zibaluleke kangakanani kwimpumelelo yobudlelwane babo.
- Okokugqibela, bahlala bekhumbula ukuba kutheni bethandana: Bayakhumbula ukuba kutheni besithi ndenza njalo, kwaye kutheni bakhethe ukuzibophelela omnye komnye.
Ubudlelwane bunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa xa unabantu ababini abazimiseleyo ukwenza umzamo wokuba ubudlelwane babo buphumelele, abafuna ukuphucula ubudlelwane babo, kwaye abafuna ukukhula kufutshane kunye, kuyasebenza ubudlelwane lula kwaye kumnandi. Thatha ixesha kwaye uzisebenzise kulwalamano lwakho, kwaye uyibukele ikhula kwaye ujonge wena neqabane lakho nisondelelana.